something to cry about?

Question

i am so losing it!i know i am 22 and in college and studying hard and finals are up in 2 weeks..ne ways i have a younger brother who thinks that i do not study and he is 11 and when my mom told me that i started crying and got upset as well as being tired with 0 or 3 hours of sleep on most nights for the past 2 weeks as well as stress and a lor of problems.i feel that my 11 year old brother sees me as a bad exapmle,that my family and bf are pushing me to get the grades yet making me miserable in the long run.i am sick at the moment,have so much hmwk to do yet if all i see and get out of people is not a good feedback hell i am more miserable because not even my brother cant see me doing something right which makes me think if there is something wrong with me?i mean i am giving so much crap up like going partying or clubbing just to study and i feel that i cannot live up to everyone's expectation of me.my teachers give me a hard time too and i am more and more stressed out.any ideas?

you guys think that my 11 year old brother is just a kid.he swims 4 times a week and goes to competitions and has started swimming for our neighborhood swim team too,makes all A's,and his lowest grades are B's..he is in Honors or GT classes and keeps up all this stuff on the top of doing his homework and here is am trying to juggle classes and hoping that i will not flunk any of them as well as wanting to take a summer mini=mester :12 days and travel thru out the US and learn about history on the top of taking 2 other classes and going on a family trip in july and then coming back to start school 3 weeks later...

my brother loves me,has seen me hurt with my ex and he almost lost me last april or may in car wreck..that is when i saw him in tears and saying how he does not want ne thing to happen to me and so i made him a promise that i will be alive when he will finish college ans HS..he just wants to make me a better student and make me improve my grades because this semester i am on Academic Probation at school..i think that what he said was mean but at the same time he never complains and does all this work when he is 1/2 my age..maybe he did not think that i would take it seriously when i would hear it from my mom but i did it and i in most cases take a lot of things seriously..

Answer 1

well this isnt pretty but its the truth so just scroll to the other answers if you want.okay so your brother has no compassion, no sympathy, and no love for his own god damn sister? what kind of brother, what kind of person doesnt love his own sister i mean you two are about as close as it gets, friends will come and go but family is here to stay, he is saposed to be there for you in both the good and hard times, how arogant and unloving can your brother be to not love his own flesh and blood? he may be book smart but he is really ******* dumb when it comes to family (one of the simplest and most straightfoward things on this planet) so dont you dare make your self feel inferior to him. he hasnt been going through nearly any of the **** you have, i mean a dumass bf, a dumass teacher, a dumass microbe that had to be a dumbass and get you sick ;) and now a dumass brother? so what if he gets A's, thats just because his life is way easier than yours, mabe he is just naturally smarter in books or maybe he has no life outside of school i dono you didnt tell us. either way your dealing with hella **** and hes not, how dare he criticize you. who is he to judge his own damn family? the fact that he does shows he is a social idiot. this just goes to show you could be the smartest kid in the world like get all A's, and still be the dumbest because u dont understand the simple concept that we are all aware of even when we are 6 yrs old, the concept that family comes first. who is he to judge you, his own damn sister nontheless. he is no better than you or anyone. in fact he is worse for being so mean to you. one soluton to this problem is to realize and understand that ya he may get A's so what that is simply a skill like learning to ride a bike, but if he cant have unconditional love for his own sister... i mean come on my 9 yr old sister knows that... for the sleep/teachers/school problem you have many solutions
-take sleep pills for sleep
-talk to a counsler (i think its free at your college) to releive yourself of your problems, .trust me they help im living proof.(that should get me best answer, it did your other question lol)
-take some time off from school
-talk to your doctor or a pshycologist, after all that is their job and what theyve spent a lot of time training and doing
some people are stronger than others and that we sometimes have no controll over
but the answer is clear, you need to be proactive, and just get **** done, fight, dont stop, to make thigns easier get help from anything i listed above. if anything here doesnt make sense or im wrong about something then tell me and i apologize ahead of time for it. as always if you need to talk or need to yell at me or something just email or IM- [e-mail]


good luck.

Answer 2

First, you need to chill. Look, they don't know how much you study, so they can't be telling people how much you do. Yeah, it's frustrating, but you can't be worried about what they're saying all the time. Why are you freaking out over what your brother says? He's 11! He only thinks he knows everything at that age. If you're doing poorly in school, I suggest seeing a tutor for the subjects you're having trouble with. If they're basing your studying time on your grades and your grades are poor, something's wrong there, and you just need some help. So go out and find it. If your boyfriend is being a jerk, dump him. You don't need to worry about his crap on top of everything else. Not getting sleep isn't helping you, either. The less sleep you get, the more frazzled and stressed you will feel. Sleep for eight hours tonight, and look for a tutor in the morning. You will feel better.

Answer 3

Lock your door and don't let the idiots in! You only have a few more weeks before finals...My son and many others are in your shoes right now. But look at the light at the end of the tunnel. When you graduate, you will have an education that will open doors for you and you can leave behind, the people who didn't support you when you so desperately needed it. Hang in there, Sweetheart. You are doing a fine job. It's lack of sleep doing most of this...Since when does the opinion of an 11 year old matter anyway???? You are an adult. In two weeks, give yourself a well deserved "vacation".

Answer 4

Sometimes brothers can and will say mean things just to be mean. It certainly doesn't help that you are under a lot of stress before this comment.

If you really think about it, he's 11. What does he know about studying hard and accomplishing goals? At 11, his goal for the day is probably having pizza for dinner and playing video games. His idea of studying is probably glancing at one chapter of his history book for a simple quiz. At that tender age, he certainly isn't speaking from experience. He's simply trying to get under your skin without really having any basis. He'll understand someday.

I know college can be extremely stressful and hard at times. I remember the sleepless nights quite well. Living up to other people's ideals of what you should be is emotionally overbearing. Sometimes it feels like you're going to explode. Most days you'll feel like giving up. But you know what? I'm glad I did it. I wouldn't trade my step up in the world for, well, the world.

All this will pay off in the end. There will be plenty of time for relaxing and partying later, and it will be better because you can afford nice things and to party in nice places. Besides, summer is coming soon! You have 2 weeks left to push through. Keep your head held high and know that you're bettering yourself and doing what YOU want. Remember that it's about you, not about them. At the end, you can tell them all "I told you so."

Best of luck.

Answer 5

CHILL!, I feel the same way all the time. It sounds like you need to stop breath get your head out of the book for a lil while and just Chill. Go out hit the movies w/e makes u happy. It's good to be responsible, but don't let your responsibilities stop you from being younge and enjoying yourself. PS I'm sure your brother thinks your a great Sister and person! Good luck!!

Answer 6

first - going without sleep can put you in a very severe health situation, I know I've been there, take care of yourself first. Don't listen to all these people, if you need to give up the grades to take care of yourself physically and mentally and to destress your life then you might consider doing so. I am not telling you to flunk and all, but you have to do what you need to do to take care of you. If you let yourself go physically they won't be able to help you and they won't care. been there done that. any time you get less than 4 hours sleep you are not doing well and you need to get 6 or more hours every night at the minimum. Whatever you need to do to do that.

At night the 4 hours or so before you go to bed quit using the computer and the tv - it's been proven that the blue light from the tv and the computer screen interferes with sleep patterns. Exercise helps, and just trying to relax helps. I read these silly western novels before I go to bed. usually I read a little and go to sleep. I've struggled with insomnia most of my life. Also if you are missing things nutritionally it will hurt you too. This is a serious thing. I believe most mental illnesses are caused from lack of sleep, poor nutrition and stress - that combination. Learn ways of dealing with stress - I've studied lots of books on comedy and comedy performance and learning how to think humorously has helped me immensely. Don't take abuse from people. Don't strike back, but don't let them abuse you either. Anybody who is abusing you isn't any friend or anything. Nobody has a right. It's all in your mindset - having a positive attitude no matter what happens. If you make up your mind you are going to have a good day then no matter what happens then you'll still have a good day - It's hard some days. It all boils down to hope. It helps to talk it out. I talk to God all day and I talk to people sometimes. You have to have an outlet. Sometimes I go to the gym and hit the little blue ball (Raquetball) - you just take all your anger and agression out on the blue ball, and that's where you anger stays.. You can put names on each ball and after you slam the ball with your raquet you can't stay mad anymore - just kidding.. but it works.
You can tell God you are mad, he knows, he cares. He knows everything about you. ...
Some people just try to throw their weight around so they can appear important. And you can just fake it till you make it. I was with my dad right after my wife died, and there was this guy at a store that was mean to him, and my dad was just very nice and polite to him and I go "Dad, why did you butter him up?, he was awful to you", and Dad goes "It's better to sprinkle some sugar instead of dousing them with vinegar" - man that was hard to hear, but it's true. You have to think about how you come across to them too. It's not easy.
hope all this helped you.
took a while. gotta go..

Answer 7

Yes. Just received performed, honestly. My first-class buddy due to the fact the age of four (I'm 20 now) died in September in a auto crash. This would be the first Christmas in sixteen years that we've got now not been in combination. I love and omit her soooo a lot. Been crying approximately all of it afternoon till approximately 10 mins in the past.

Answer 8

This is the time when you learn to be more independent of other people's opinion of you. I know it sounds harsh, I don't mean it this way, but believe me it happens to a lot of people in college. Others don't see that we work hard. Important thing is - you see yourself work hard, you find it satisfying, you are getting your education, you are doing it for yourself not for your little brother, your mom or your bf. They can just scew off for now. Don't tell them that, of course, but allow yourself to think that.

Answer 9

give it a try =who knows ,you might end up with a great job ,that pays you good money ,then you can party=so get a grip on the books and get happy