My boyfriend is great in all aspects, the sex is great and all, but I am afraid he is not a great kisser. We have been together for a few years now... and it might be forever. But how do I teach him to kiss more tenderly and passionately? Well he definitely is passionate, but there are other ways I like better...
Is it just me? Am i too demanding?
Any help appreciated!
2007-04-20 10:16:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Sweet pea, Sex Bomb, Tickle Me and others, but I understand this is not an easy thing for you to do. what a girl likes best is guys performing great without telling them what to do, and a guy may get shy if you suggest he tries to kiss you in a different way. He might think he is not good enough etc.
What about role playing? And make it a rule everything must be different while you are playing the new roles: from names and accents to sex positions and - kissing techniques!
Then he might not get shy, because he is just playing a role anyway ;-)
When there is a role that kisses really good, let him know and he will be very pleased with himself rather than being worried he's not good enough.
Fingers crossed!
2007-04-20 10:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by M 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he does it well enough that you have been with him for several years. He must not be a terrible kisser. If you want to teach him to be a better kisser- you need to try and slow him down a bit, without insulting him. Try turning it into a game. Try kissing him slowly and when he doesn't respond correctly pull away. Then try again and when he does it the way you like let it show. I'm sure that he wants to please you. And unfortunately, because you haven't said anything before now, he probably has no idea that he is not pleasing you on this level. Above all else- treat him wih respect and tenderness and I am sure he will be an excellent student!
2007-04-20 10:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tickle me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him don't and tell him to calm don't and don't do anything. Act like you're bout to have sex with him and then kiss him how you want to be kissed then tell him to do the same thing after a while he gets it. My bf and I had to do the same thing hes a great kisser now he used to suck
2007-04-20 10:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you think what he's doing is okay - but you like such and such better.
You're going to have to talk with him and sort it out because kissing is quite important in a relationship such as you describe. It is so important to me that I don't date smokers no matter how hot they are cos I don't like kissing them.
I don't think it's too demanding, but just needs communication and a delicate approach.
2007-04-20 10:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Play a kissing game - first you give him a "new" way of kissing and then tell him to give you the "new" way in return (start with silly kisses and move on to the serious ones). When he kisses you in a way you like, just react positively and tell him that felt awesome and you want more of THAT kind of kissing. Just keep it light and flirty.
If it helps, give that kiss some sort of name, like Mentos and Coke ("Because it gives me a rush in my tummy!") so the next time you're making out, tell him to kiss you like Mentos and Coke and he'll know what you mean.
2007-04-20 10:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like, then it is something that can be rectified.
Talk to him about it,
you dont have to say that you dont like the way he kisses
just say that you also like it like this and that.
You,ve been together long enough to be able to try different things.
God, you cannot just kiss the same way for the rest of your life.
How boring would that be.
2007-04-20 10:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is tell him, just choose your words wisely. i would say something like i love to kiss you but i would like to try it a different way so can you follow my lead and see what you think. Just have a think about it im sure you can come up with something better but its going to be the easiest and quickest way just to tell him. good luck
2007-04-20 10:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by mudfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him what you like. When you're kissing, be assertive (not pushy) and show him. Just like leading in a dance, lead in the kiss. he'll get it. now go swap spit and have fun! :-)
2007-04-20 10:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u really can't have everything.. concentrate on the things he Is good@.. &sounds like he's doing OK in other areas!
if u decide2talk2him about it.. there's a risk ur goin2affect his 'male ego'&he May start doubting himeself in other areas.. which cud negatively affect a whole lot of other things..
so tread carefully:)
2007-04-20 11:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by jammy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be like : hey lets tell eachother how our perfect kisses are=).. subtle way of showing him is are far from that lol
2007-04-20 11:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by girl_next_door_red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋