5 year old still sleeps with parents?

Question

He is 5 years old starting Kindingarten this September. He has never slept by himself or in his own bed ever. It bothers me that he sleeps with my parents because it causes him to be up around the house at 11 at night until my parents decide to go to bed. If he gets tired it causes my Step_Dad to go upstairs to the bed until he falls asleep, ruining a family night. He has a whole entire room with a newly-purchased bunk-bed, a tv, and everythign a kid could want, but yet he never has once slept in it. At one time, my family tried to get him to sleep in his room but instead it ended up with my Step_Dad laying in the bunk bed with him until he fell asleep. Now he is back to sleeping in their bed, and they aren't doing anythign about it. It might seem I'm just a complainer, but it gets really annoying at 16 when a 5 year old runs around the house at 11, and refuses to sleep in his own room or by himself. I feel like my parents are spoiling him way too much. What would you do?

Answer 1

Your right they are spoiling him to much, he should have his own bed so mom and and dad can sleep. You too

Answer 2

Ha! If your parents are going to do anything about it now, I'm afraid they are in for a rude awakening. My stepmom still laid in bed with her daughter until she was 9 years old. NINE!!!!!! You cannot imagine the nights when she tried to get her daughter to sleep alone. Goodness!!!! I would be up until 5 AM hearing "mommmmmyyyyyyyyy, moooooommm, I hate you... I'm sorry... I love you.. I'll be good. I'll go to sleep Please mommmy mommmmyy" Her mom would shut their door and sleep peacefully.

I'm sorry, but there's nothing you can do. Try talking to your parents (if you have a relationship like that) and tell them you think it's ridiculuous for a five year old to not be sleeping on his own. It sounds like the kid doesn't know how to self-soothe, which is the parents' fault.

They will have to set aside a week to "bed" train him. Basically, you keep putting the child back to bed until they fall asleep, even if it takes hours.

Whenever they decide to do something about it, maybe you could spend a few nights with a friend. :D

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I totally understand what you're going through.

Answer 3

This boy should have been in his own bed, a LONG time ago!
You need to sit down and have a serious discussion with your parents about this situation. If they refuse to make him stay in his own room, maybe you could help by staying with him, until he falls asleep. This is only a suggestion.
In some areas, this could be considered child neglect. They need to put a stop to this, now!

Answer 4

Unfortunately you can't do anything. You can talk to your parents about it and tell them that he is waking you up at night. But honestly being that they are your parents, they will unfortunately not listen to you.

At 5 he should not be sleeping with them. They have taught him this bad habit, and has let it go on for way too long. I am really sorry you are stuck in this situation.

Maybe get some ear plugs to block out the noise?

Answer 5

DEAR

SIR

JUST TALK TO YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER AND SAY YOU NEVER LET ME GET AWAY WITH IT WHY NOW? OK
THE ONLY TIME PARENT'S TO SLEEP WITH THEM IS

WHEN THE FATHER IS WORKING OFF SOME WHERE NIGHTS ARE IN THE SERVICES LIKE THE NAVY GOD

BLESS THE MEN OF ALL SERVICE'S FOR THE WAR THANK WITH LOVE FROM MY HEART ALL BECAUSE OF YOU THIS HANDICAPPED BOY IF FREE SO THANK

OTHER THEN THAT NO I DO NOT BELIEVE IN KIDS 5- AND UP IN BED WITH BOTH PARENTS SO SORRY
AND PEACE

TAKE CARE

Answer 6

Have your parents set up a routine and reward system for your little brother. For example, I would start getting my son ready for bed at 7:30pm. I would give him a nice warm bath, brush his teeth and dress him comfortably. Make his room a nice calm setting, soft music, low lighting, and no excitements. I read a book to him in HIS semi-dark room. I have a calendar in his room, so right before I say good night I tell him that he will get to stick a sticker on the calendar in the morning. I also tell him that he will get to watch Baby Einstein if he be a good boy and go to sleep. When morning comes, he gets to put a sticker on the calendar to show he accomplished a night of sleeping by himself. Then I tell how proud I am of him and he gets to watch t.v. after breakfast as a reward. Since your brother is older, the reward can be bigger. Tell him after he collects his stickers throughout the week, he will get a big reward on Saturday. Rewards can be going to the zoo, sleep in mommy and daddy's bed on Saturday morning ONLY, or get to watch a movie. It will be a bit of a struggle in the beginning. Just keep at it for awhile. Young kids love routines. My son sometime gets upset if we forget to do something in his routines.

Answer 7

I don't think there is too much you can do except express your concern to your parents. Sometimes parents simply do whats "easier" than to do what is better for their child. In this case, it's easier for your parents to just give in to your 5 year old brothers need to be with them. It's going to be hard to explain to your parents that they need to be "parents" and not allow this to continue since they might see this as being disrespectful. If it is a real concern of yours and feel that it is affecting family life, maybe discuss this with an aunt or uncle or maybe grandparent who can help you work this out.
Unfortunately, not much you can do accpet learn from your parents mistakes, and be a better parent yourself when it comes to be your turn.

Answer 8

Holy Crow. There's got to be more important things to worry about. You can ask your parents to keep your little bro quiet when you go to bed, but where he sleeps shouldn't be your concern. so what if he sleeps with them. 5 is still really little. My daughter slept with me until she was 7. She decided on her own to start sleeping in her own bed, use an alarm clock and get dressed in private. Kids mature at their own rate.

Answer 9

It's not your brother's fault, it's your parent's fault. The whole co-sleeping thing these days is just ridiculous. It's sad that parents can't be parents and let their children sleep with them, thus teaching the child they NEED their parents to comfort them. A child should learn how to soothe themselves. I would say, talk to your parents and tell them your honest feelilngs. DON'T get mad at them, tell them you're sad and you miss family nights, etc, etc. Hopefully they understand.

Answer 10

well, sorry, but i noe a kid who slept with his parents until he turned 7 and i begged them to make him sleep in his own room....aka my brother.

your parents aren't necessarily spoiling him.....you'll probably have to talk to the family urself about the problem??? but he's a little kid....

tell ur parents how annoying it is for him to stay up that late. seriously tell them. don't go in a little whiny voice and keep complaining.

as for now, talk kindly to ur brother and tell him to "Please keep quiet when I go to sleep. It's hard to sleep when you make that noise, but I still want you to have fun. Do you understand? Just stay quiet. I know you're the best little brother anyone could have and I love you."

eventually he'll get it.