is it ok for my future mother in law to wear a white floor length skirt to my wedding?

Answer 1

I believe it is...she's not wearing your wedding dress, clearly. Just a skirt, according to you. I am doubtful "all eyes" will be on her! -Rather, YOU! Let it go dear...Have the time of your life!

Congrats!

Grace

Answer 2

Well, that would be up to you. Generally, it is considered in poor taste to wear white to a wedding, because it is viewed as an attempt to upstage the bride. However, during the planning of my own wedding, my mother was so upset because she could not find a dress she liked, except for one, in Ivory- the same color as my dress. I went to the store with her and looked at it. It was a gorgeous dress and I personally did not feel that she was trying to upstage me, so I gave her the go ahead. But, it was a calf length dress and very different from mine. The traditional mothers dress is usually knee length or calf length, not floor length. Plus, it is your mother who chooses the length size and the MIL emulates. So, I would think that a floor length skirt is inappropriate, unless that is what your mother is wearing and you approve. I do not think it would be terrible for her to wear a white skirt if she were wearing a more colorful top, but the length should be shortened. But, if you are not comfortable with her wearing white at all, this is completely understandable and you have every right to say so. Good Luck!

Answer 3

It is only considered acceptable if it is alright with you.

The bride has the say-so on what her color palette for the wedding will be.

If you envision both mothers in the same color, then have that. If you see all in pastels, have that. If you could care less, tell them that.

You have to give them some guidance and let them know what it is you would like. However, this does not mean that is what you will get! Remember to express your wishes in a polite and gracious way. "Mary, I am really wanting everyone in the wedding party to be in dark, rich colors. My mom is wearing navy, and since the bridesmaids are wearing dark purple, I was hoping you could find something in navy, burgundy, or another tone along those lines".

Answer 4

I think that the future mother in law should not wear white at your wedding simply because you will be the one to wear white. Another color that may be ok for her would be a pale pink or any shade of pale color for that matter. It's the brides day to wear white, not the mother in law.

Answer 5

I believe it would be less appropriate etiquette-wise. Traditionally, no one is supposed to wear at the wedding, because (as stated above) it appears as though the guest in question is trying to one-up the bride.

It depends on how you feel. Personally, I wouldn't mind someone wearing a piece of white (like a skirt) to my wedding. But a floor length skirt I'd be iffy on. Depends on who it is.

Are your relations with your future MIL good? If you're iffy, ask her to refrain from wearing it. If she cares for you, she'll understand and pick something new. If she throws a hissy-fit, you know how your relationship will probably be from here on out. If and when said hissy-fit is thrown, get your fiance to help back your simple request.

Answer 6

No it's not ok. She knows this, so don't tell her. Instead, let her wear white and look tacky. It won't ruin your day, you will still be the beautiful bride. Trust me, people won't be confused and think she is the bride.
And by not saying a word, you will not give her any reason to complain about your behavior. Hopefully you will have her as a mother in law for many years, you do want to be friends.

Answer 7

It would be a better idea if she wore another color. I like to have the bride wear white especially since the mother-in-law will be in the wedding pictures. Just ask her nicely if she will wear a color, maybe something that would compliment your bridesmaids dresses. Good luck.

Answer 8

It all depends on what color her top would be. If she is wearing a colored jacket/blouse, it is acceptable as if someone wore black and white or white and red. If she is planning on all white, no its not acceptable as only the bride wears white/cream/ivory.

If its just the skirt, then you can let it go --- just be sure of what color she plans to wear on top and if she is opting for a lighter color, talk to her about it.

When my mom was picking out her outfit for my wedding -- although I LOVE my mom in red, I told her that I wanted her to pick a color that would make her stand out in pictures, not blend in with the bridal party (they wore red).

Answer 9

Is she wearing a color on the top? and is the skirt the same white as your dress? Im thinking that in pics it may look odd if the two colors are different. and what is your mother wearing? The bridesmaids?

Answer 10

As long as the top is not white, ok.
It shows poor taste, and huge insecurity, since she wants to share your spotlight.
I thought BRIDES got to decide what everyone wore, including mommas of the bride and groom. I wouldn't make a big deal of it, tho.
Pick your battles, hon.
She may be a really selfish, insecure person, and you just have to be a big girl, and let her be spoiled in some things. What she is and what you want her to be are 2 different things.
You might ask your husband to talk gently to his mother. Don't you do it, that's what husbands are for. You and he are a team and you should handle your own families.
My mother in law is very spoiled, catered to her whole life because she was beautiful and sang on the radio. She has to be the center of attention everywhere and is capable of making quite a scene.
I smile indulgently and let her, since she is also 90 and in a wheelchair. I am glad my husband still has his momma to talk to. I love her to pieces, since she is so good to me.
Good luck.

Answer 11

depends what she wears with it? If it a white blouse then no. Maybe if it was something colourful or bright it would not be too bad. But generally it is better to stay away from white on someone elses wedding day.