I am getting married in a C of E church in july as my fiance is not catholic and he has family ties to the church we are getting married in.
The catholic chuch have basically said that if i dont get married in a catholic church they will basically kick me out as it breaks the "sacrament"
As you can imagine i totally disagree with this as the most important thing is that you are in a comiited and loving relationship.
Just wondering what other peoples views are on this
2007-04-20 08:38:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am in the U.S. but you should be able to find a Catholic church that supports your decision. I know churches in England are different though. We have Catholic churches who approve of gays here and everything, so if you don't like what one preaches, you just find another.
I think the church is ridiculous but to keep the peace (if you still want to be Catholic), could you have a small ceremony at the Catholic church and still have your "real" wedding at the C of E?
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! Don't let anyone ruin it for you!!! :) Good luck! :)
2007-04-20 08:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is precisely the reason SO many people are turning away from Catholicism! And Rome wonders why??? Sheesh.
Me personally, I would say get married where, when, and to whom you choose, and if the "church" decides to disinherit you, well....fine!
Somewhere along the way, the catholic church seems to have lost sight of the fact that Christ said that when two or more are gathered in the Father's name that's good enough.
NOTHING was ever mentioned in the Bible about having to do things "just so" or we'll kick you out!
That's Roman Catholic propaganda, and frankly I say don't let the stupid "church" ruin your life or happiness.
God doesn't care WHERE you practice your faith...as long as you express yourself!
Have a happy wedding and tell the "church" to get bent!
2007-04-20 09:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as much as you may not believe in it, that's how that church is and either you accept it and get married there or you find a church or hall that you feel comfortable in. Maybe you need a less strict church and one that's a little more layed back. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable getting married there after just getting threatened. I'd probably find another church and join there's. But don't listen to these people who are bashing Catholics, it's your religion and faith and just b/c we have some close minded churches doesn't mean they are all like that, and that goes for every religion.
2007-04-20 08:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ben's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a tough stance!!! If you want to stay in the church I would suggest you and your husband and 2 witness have a small ceremony with a Catholic priest before or after your real wedding ceremony. That will fulfill the church's wishes. I know that people that want to have a destination wedding or get married on a boat or anywhere outside of the actual church can do this to apease the church.
Good luck!!
2007-04-20 08:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't kick you out of the church, but it is true that if you don't marry in a catholic church your marraige isn't considered a sacrament. All sacraments must take place in a catholic church. But whoever said they will kick you out has no idea what they're talking about. Trust me. I just finished a marriage prep course at a catholic church and they explained this all very thoroughly.
2007-04-20 08:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by katskradle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make any sense that they threatened to kick you out if you don't marry in a catholic church. If I'm a married person and I want to join a catholic church and be members, do they then expect me to somehow legitimize my marriage first before they can accept me as a member? Does that mean they will force me and my wife to go through another marriage ceremony at the catholic church? It wouldn't make sense.
2007-04-20 08:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tazer Tag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They cannot kick you out of the catholic church just because you don't get married in it. They may not recognize your marriage because it is not preformed by a catholic priest, but I doubt that they will do even that. Contact the bishop who presides over your church and ask him about it. There are plenty of people who join the catholic church after they get married in another church, and it never seems to be a problem.
2007-04-20 08:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that, as a Catholic, I am well aware that the church can have some strange and inflexible rules. I do not know you specific situation, but I cannot help but think somehow you do not quite have the story straight. Talk to your Priest and Minister. I am sure you can work something out if you want to work something out. I cannot count how many Catholic/Protestant weddings I have been to, including my sister and brother-in-law.
Good luck.
EDIT - That should be "count" sorry for any typo-fueled confusion.
2007-04-20 10:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Catholic so it was very important to me to have a Catholic husband and get married in the Catholic Church, and receive the Sacrament of Matrimony. But that's my ideals, my ethics, and my choice. It's what I wanted for my marriage, and for my future family.
You are making a different choice, therefore have to live with the consequences. Be happy in what you have chosen to do.
And you are not excommunicated from the Catholic church just because you get married in another denomination. Perhaps you could go talk with your parish priest to have things clarified.
2007-04-20 09:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im Catholic and am getting married in a nondenominational chapel. The church is not going to tell me where I can be married.
2007-04-20 09:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋