Ok so my boyfriend and I are talking about getting married in the future and we started talking about if when have kids. He's a catholic and I'm an atheist- He wants to have our kids baptized catholic but he's also willing to let me teach our kids about all different religions and let them choose their own path. I'm willing to have them baptized in a religion I don't believe if he's willing to let them think for themselves. That's reasonable right? it doesn't make me a bad atheist that I'm willing to let him have our kids baptized right??
2007-04-20 07:35:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think that's quite reasonable, and the fact that you and your boyfriend can talk about this in such a reasonable way says good things about your chances in the future. :)
2007-04-20 07:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank you so much for answering my question...I told him he should pick haha. Anyway just so you know i'm in grade 10 so we're coming from the same perspective. last year I had a friend who was going through the same thing. The relationship ended badly for her, but I'm not saying yours will. He even suggested marriage for the two of them. If he is too intense about it you need to tell him to slow down. Or, if you dont want to do that, when he asks you a question about the future just say "I dont want to think about the future, I want to live here in the moment. After all we're hardly in high school and I dont want to be overwhelmed." Good luck girl!
2016-05-19 22:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is catholic and our 7 year old son has been baptised.I am quite happy for him to learn about the catholic faith and when he is a little older,I will tell him what I think and then let him make his own decision.
Don't let religion get in the way of your love.
2007-04-20 21:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by rosbif 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scary situation, but I doubt that dunking them in water will make any changes of itself. Hell, my parents - not wanting to miss out on a party - had me christened, even though we're all heathen.
I just wonder how much more pressure you'll come under over time to have these kids hypnotised. Chances are if you don't hold back they'll learn what crap it is and how to think - and then what? If he's at all churchgoing he'll come under pressure, and then you, and then them.
I think you may have to convert him. Buy a copy of the God Delusion.
CD
2007-04-20 07:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage will never be acknowledged by the catholic church and as such I think you'll have a hard time getting your kids baptized as catholics. It will be up to the priest and/or bishop.
2007-04-20 07:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by ndmagicman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. You have to do what you feel is right. Besides, baptisms mean nothing; it's just a splash of water. I say, let your husband baptise them to please him and then just make sure that they are brought up being taught about all religions (and having none as well, of course). Your kids won't "turn catholic" just because they're baptised.
(P.S. Eleventy's answer above makes a very good point.)
2007-04-20 07:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's about compromise. I have a catholic girlfriend and I'm atheist. It is much more important for her to have our kids baptized then it is for me to not have them baptized. But it is important for me to have my children be independant thinkers. If she were unwillingly to share this feeling with me, we have no business raising kids.
2007-04-20 07:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Eleventy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That sounds reasonable to me - if you don't really believe in God, then the baptism is nothing more than a splash of water to you anyway.
I'm glad you two are talking about this now BEFORE you get hitched. That's very smart of you both.
2007-04-20 07:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by daisyk 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but it does make him a bad Catholic if he's willing to marry an atheist.
Sorry, but them's the rules.
2007-04-20 07:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think it makes you both pretty great people.
But I'm not Catholic or Athiest so...
2007-04-21 14:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋