I was raise under the catholic religion Practices. Right now, I have some religious Issues. I do not support and agree with certain practice from the catholic religion. I am becoming Protestant to certain extend..is a personal issue. But I still want to baptize my baby at the catholic church, because I do not want to close the doors for her to choose her religion when she grows up. My husband is catholic but he does not practice it. THe church by my house will not let me baptize her there unless I go to church and register at the Church...I wont go to church and I will not register. When I am ready to choose my religious destiny I will go and walk with God...But Why they are closing the doors to my child?
2007-04-20 07:26:18 · 16 answers · asked by Nicole E 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is sad, because As much as I want to look for answer so I can cocntinue the faith my parents taught me, the catholic followers have called me Hipocrate, and a person that Is using the church. Each one of this answers will guide me more to choose my religious faith. I am saddened by the fact that certain people insteadd of guiding me has decided to insult me...I do see a lott of nice christians that have given me answers that will guide me into the right track, which is to walk with GOd thank you
2007-04-20 08:04:49 · update #1
Catholics recognize baptisms by any denomination that Baptizes in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. In fact this Sacrament does not need a Catholic Priest to perform. Any Christian can perform this Sacrament.
So you must ask yourself why you want your child Baptized by a Catholic official if you do not want to follow the rules of Catholicism. It's similar to a college student going to local college for two years and then demanding a four year Nortra Dame (not affiliated with college students attending) to grant a certificate of authentication.
Should your baby grow up and want to receive "Confirmation" and "Rights of Initiation" you child can do that when they're spiritually ready and called by God. Meantime, you need to decide if you’re going to pay the spiritual discipline to teach your baby to follow the Catholic doctrine or to follow another doctrine.
I have faith that you know what to do in your conscious and heart. Additionally, I have hope that you can follow your conscious and heart to make the right decision for you and your family.
"Patience and perseverance is the Bishop to his Excellency" (unknown, but Dad said it always)
2007-04-20 07:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The whole point of baptizing a baby is to welcome it into the faith community and to make it easier to raise it in the same faith as the rest of the family. If you are not a member of that community, if that is not your faith, then why would you want it?
Your child's options are never closed. People join the Catholic church at all ages. The operative word is "join". Being baptized Catholic without ever participating in church life is a little like having a membership card but not attending meetings or paying dues.
If you just want acknowledgement, or an excuse for another baby shower, there are some non-denominational Protestant churches that have welcoming ceremonies, not technically baptisms but still nice. However, they might also like you to not be a stranger. You may have to finally pick a church, or at least ask yourself what's so important to you about a baptism.
2007-04-21 14:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by skepsis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should the Church open the doors for your child if you are not going to take her inside?
From your question, it is obvious that neither you nor your husband are practicing Catholics. It makes no sense to have your child initiated into the catholic Church if she is not going to be raised in the faith. During the Baptism, when the priest asks you to promise to raise the child in the Catholic faith, are you going to lie and say "Yes"?
I commend the church for refusing to be a part of your hypocracy. In the catholic Church, Baptism actually means something. It means becoming a part of the Catholic Church. It is not done for show or to impress other people like grandparents.
The time to have your child baptized is when you or her have decided to be a full active member of the catholic Church.
Edit
I apologize for being harsh, but your question made it seem like you wanted the Catholic Church to do things your way. You stated "I do not support and agree with certain practice from the catholic religion". I see a lot of that here in Yahoo Answers and I thought you were one of those people.
If you want to follow the faith you were raised in, register with the churcha and start going to Mass. Get involved with some ministry
2007-04-20 07:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you are still Catholic. You've been baptized and you've never excommunicated yourself in any way. So you're still Catholic -- just an uneducated Catholic who has not received any Sacraments since baptism. If you would like to learn more about Catholicism so that you can choose whether or not you want to remain Catholic, you can take a class at any nearby Catholic parish called "RICA" (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults), or you could read one of the following books: On Being Catholic, by Thomas Howard What Catholics Really Believe, by Karl Keating The Compendium to the Catechism of the Catholic Church (an easy-to-read Q&A version of the Catechism), published by the United States Council of Catholic Bishops and also available for free on line.
2016-05-19 22:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The catholic church requires someone to be a member of the church in order to have a child baptized in that church. If you want to open the door for your child to choose as they wish about religion, then why not wait for the child to choose to be baptized in whatever church she chooses later in life? The catholic church wants to baptize someone that will commit to raising the child to follow the doctrine of the catholic church. If you are not a member, there is a chance that you would not commit to that; therefore, they will not allow it. You have two options. You can become a member if you want the baby to be baptized there, or you can wait until a point later in life when you are a member somewhere.
2007-04-20 07:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is not the Church but you who are closing the doors on your child.
When your child is baptized in the Catholic Church, you, your husband, and both godparents promise to raise the child as a Catholic.
You have just written that neither you nor your husband intend to keep this promise.
The Church should not and will not allow you to make and then break such a solemn vow.
Registering in the parish and going to Church would be a sign that you do intend to keep this promise that you wish to make before God and the Church.
With love in Christ.
2007-04-20 17:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the church would want you to practice the faith do the child would grow up learning about the faith. Why baptize a child catholic if you arent gonna practice it? it's not rejection just the way church does things. they would like to be there for you and child and help you walk the faith not leave it after baptism.
2007-04-20 07:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic church is the worlds biggest Cult. Read up on the meaning of Baptism. Your child is covered under Gods eye right now until the age of accountability. Baptism is what you do after receiving Christ as your savior. Its hard to leave the church my wife did and didnt realize what she was missing out on all those years. We are now Nazarenes in a Bible believing church. My only problem is the pastor uses the NIV I prefer the KJ. This is a decision you wont regret and will reap benefits for now and eternity. Peace out..............
2007-04-20 07:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by powerliftingrules 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to give your child the freedom to choose her own religion, shouldn't you not baptise her at all?!
As for not being able to baptise her, this is just a thing the church does to get more people to attend. A similar situation occurs sometimes for First Communion. I've heard stories of non-Catholic parents having to convert and baptise their children so that their children can have their First Communion with their class. It's ridiculous. I don't think there is anything you can really do, unfortunately.
2007-04-20 07:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basically they don't want her because you and your husband are not part of their congregation/group because you do not belong to the church. They probably think you are just using them with the baptism - which you probably are.
If you really want your child to be able to choose her religion when she is ready you would not have he baptised at all in any church.
2007-04-20 07:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Who Yah 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋