my best guy mate is called tom. he is so flirtatious and i love being around him as he makes me feel better andi flirt back. i was always told by friends that he liked me more than mates. and soon i realised i liked him back. i have been thinking for months about him. i see him every week and i cant get over him. i love bein mates with him. and i dnt waant to lose that. but i keep imagining pulling him. wot do i do? if he was to ask me out wot would i say. yes but promise me we can still be friends after? aint that imposible? please help me i dnt know wot to do and i dont want to lose him xxxx
2007-04-20 07:02:08 · 11 answers · asked by frankie! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you don't have him now. You are fooling yourself if you really think he is your friend. He isn't, he is pretending so that you will go out with him. He wants to be your boyfriend and always has. If he were to know tomorrow that he would never be your boyfriend, he would stop being your friend within a month.
Stop watching so many movies, the real world isn't that way.
2007-04-20 07:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is one rule i learnt in life that is friends can be lovers but lovers can't be friends i know this is subjective developing feelings for a friend in opposite sex having crushes on them is puppy love and its is accepted world wide... As for your confusion you still can go around like a couple and share the life also being friends. Who says you can't have friendship in love. The so called understanding in a relationship is also a name for friendship. And what is love its the next step or stage in friendship. Now the ball is in your court. Take wise decision. Only lucky one's get a chance to be with a soulmate. Who knows he might be your soul mate.
2007-04-23 08:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bacti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are complicated, they are illogical and emotional and there are rarely clear right or wrong answers. Try not to over-think this or logic your situation to death and pardon the cheesiness, but sometimes you just have to follow your heart and have faith. Have faith that things will work out for the best.
No one can predict the future. And most people waste half of their relationships worrying about it's future. My advice, go after the guy you like, enjoy it while you got it, and have faith that things will be okay (whether you stay together or not).
2007-04-20 14:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by unprdctble_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends before, you will be friends during and after. I am still friends with my ex-fiance. You just have to be reasonable in the relationship and honest with each other as to whether it is working or not. The biggest killer of post relationship friendship is dragging the relationship on longer than it should have been. If the breakup is at the right time, ie. before one person can't stand the other, then friends is very possible.
2007-04-20 14:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by killapaddler 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to go for it. Your lover should be your friend. You've got a great opportunity here. If it doesn't work out though, sadly, it will probably kill the friendship, but you have to take the risk! Can you see yourself being in love with someone else? If not then you've got to take the chance. Good luck!
2007-04-20 14:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by anjazarovitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all yeah you can be friends if the relationship doesn't work however you need to respect one another by not putting you new mate in the area that you will be-just common mojo. or limit it to just going out if you are unsure if it may or may not work. Ex. (keep the sex out of it until you are ready sure he's worthy) ask him out. don't wait until he does. this is 2007. women are equal pretty much now or at least on the dating scene.
2007-04-20 14:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are very close and been friends for a while, You shouldn't ruin it b/c some friendship's that turn into relationships and then it doesn't work out, they end up bot being friends. You should talk to him about your feelings if both of you guys feel the same. If he wants to go out talk to him about what if it doesn't work out. Try to see how he will feel. Good luck. <3
2007-04-20 14:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a situation like this, you have stop and ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life wondering "What if?" Think about that and you should be able to answer you own question.
2007-04-20 14:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you, and you like him...go out with him. You dont want to miss out on this great opportunity. Just give it a try and if there's no fire works, laugh it off, and continue to be friends.
2007-04-20 14:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by APpl3 B0tt0m -n- APpl3 Vall3y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happend to me with my guy friend
and all he feared was us breaking up and losing our friendship
we ended up breaking up because he felt strongly for one of his friends.
all you can really do is go with the flow;
right now we are friends with benifets and nothing is the same as it was before. and i wish i didnt date him.
but you could could be diffrent talk about it tho. to make sure oyu dont lose him after you date.
goodluck
2007-04-20 14:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋