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ok my dad has been acting very very weird for a few weeks now and all he talks about is this girl he works with and yesterday(4/19/07) my mom and i heard him talk to her and he said "i love you baby" really fast, and this morning he didn't come home (he's useully home when i wake up for school which is at 6:30 a.m.) but he got home at like 7 something. do you think my mom and i are right? do you think he is cheating on her?

2007-04-20 06:56:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

and he works at 10pm-6am and he leaves the house at like 8:30 or 9 pm

2007-04-20 07:04:46 · update #1

12 answers

Follow him and see.

2007-04-20 07:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0 0

I think that while this isn't your problem, it is your business. When a parent cheats, the parent isn't just cheating on the spouse, the parent is cheating on the whole family and putting the family unit and children's health and wellbeing in jeapordy. I am sorry this is happening to you. It's especially sad that he doesn't appear to be even trying to hide it. Sorry, but your mom needs to begin preparing documentation and photos/videos/other records for evidence to protect herself and you/your siblings if any. I'm not saying that your parents will definitely split, just that the betrayed family unit needs to be prepared to protect itself from further harm from someone who can no longer be trusted to look out for the best interests of the family or act with honor and integrity, which means evidence. This is a job for your mother, not you. But the both of you will need some help through this and I hope that support exists for the innocent victims in your family.

I hope I'm wrong, but I think your suspicions are right. I know it's hard to take care of yourself when you are harmed, but that is the most important thing right now because you will need to be as healthy as possible to get through the mess and emerge whole on the other side, whatever form the other side takes (single parent family, reuniting family, ?). If he is doing what you guys suspect he is doing, don't let anyone try to pull out the lame old "he didn't do anything to the kids, just his wife/he never meant to hurt the children/this is between the parents/blah blah. A cheating spouse knows very well they are harming the kids too and often try to use this to lessen their guilt or justify their actions. Don't fall for that.

Good luck, I wish you lots of support in surviving this.

2007-04-20 07:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 6 · 0 0

my mom, and dad went through the same thing and for me I wae an adult (young ) at the time but ut felt as if I had no say because they are the parents , I'm the child , not so .Don't do as I did and stand by until everyone is hurt I say you open up the can of worms on the whole thing and let your dad know that the disrespecting your mom wont fly and that if he doesn't tell hyour mom that you will call him on his **** . show him who has the bigger balls in the family

2007-04-20 07:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0 0

i like the respond thqt expresses that all of us do undesirable issues. it is so authentic, we are all sinners and proceed to do undesirable and egocentric issues. this would not make the wear pass away, and easily asserting that he might desire to be forgiven does no longer make your coronary heart gush with forgiveness. however the actuality is, you have each authentic to be offended and you have each authentic to withhold forgiveness through fact the international sees it. I mean, that's not adequate that your Dad cheated on your mom... you apart from might experience cheated, authentic? Justified anger and justified injury may be as undesirable as unjustified injury and anger, perchance even worse through fact there is not any set off mechanism that could sign you to comprehend whilst , "adequate is adequate." Does this make experience? certainty is forgiveness is this variety of blessing to the only being forgiven and to the only doing the forgiving. Jesus reported in what we call "The Lord's Prayer, (12) And forgive us our charges, as we even have forgiven our borrowers. (thirteen) And lead us no longer into temptation, yet furnish us from the evil one. Do you spot the advantages in this prayer, or a minimum of the oftentimes occurring for forgving and forgiveness. it is, we are asking God to forgive us contained in the comparable way that we forgive. So in a observe, by using withholding forgiveness, it relatively is making use of you loopy, "figuratively." (Your unlikely loopy....) for the reason that i don't comprehend, listed right here are a pair of questions which may be sturdy to comprehend. what's the priority of your Dad authentic now..., nonetheless contained in the affair? in seek of forgiveness from you/ from mom? nonetheless in Sin? How is you mom... bitter? Forgiving? observe: this concepts is additionally efficient for you mom. Bitterness in straight forward terms festers and grows. that's the devils stronghold..., it relatively is gripping. Prayer and forgiveness releases this stronghold. I pray this enables, it relatively is a coronary heart concern. it relatively is amazing how one persons sin continually spills over and motives plenty havoc. authentic coronary heart felt forgiveness by using Christ is the only therapy. A prayer has been despatched forward for you, your mom and your Dad. advantages! God cares!!!

2016-10-03 07:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

There is no way that a stranger on the internet can give an informed opinion about this, not knowing your dad and not knowing anything about the context aside from your brief description. It will only be speculation.

2007-04-20 07:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by hardoon 1 · 0 0

I think it's none of your business. This is between them and you will only make it worse. They are the parents and you are the child, it works better when you remember that.

Nothing good can come from the direction you are headed.

2007-04-20 07:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1 2

i think so of course a man who is married would not say that to another woman unless it was a little sister

2007-04-20 09:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

duuuuuuuuhhhhh! Its obvious. I'd follow him to work and watch him for the day. see what happens through the window...

2007-04-20 07:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by killoa2002 2 · 0 1

"I love you baby" is pretty glaring evidence. I'd love to get one of those love detectives to follow him around and watch his ploys.

2007-04-20 07:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Red Ant 5 · 0 0

It definitely sounds like it.

2007-04-20 07:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by harleychick.rm 3 · 0 0

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