i feel like im going to die at times. I thought I had a high self esteem and considering im quite popular with the opposite sex I never feared rejection, now im not sure. I wont continue until I get what I want. How do i deal? How do I move on or should I try to figure out some way to get them, let me know some ideas.
2007-04-20 06:41:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no good way to deal with rejection.
Typical responses are:
1. Anger. This doesn't help. Calling her names justifies her decision since the only thing she apparently did wrong was not choose you. If she had, everything would be fine.
2. Depression. You feel less valuable because you were turned aside.
3. Mockery. "You don't know what you're missing." Such an arrogant response also validates her decision.
The best way is to be silent and move on.
Instead of getting mad or sad, just recognize that perhaps she didn't know you well enough, or maybe she just isn't physically attracted to you. That is not your fault, that is how she is wired. You can't change that.
Perhaps next time you should get to know someone before asking them out. By getting to know her first you will figure out if you are compatible before you risk rejection.
2007-04-20 06:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we understand that not everyone is going to like us, we overcome our feelings of rejection. You may be popular with the opposite sex, but you're certainly not interested in every girl who likes you. You're attracted to some and not to others; just as some girls are attracted to you and others are not. Doesn't make you a bad person at all. And it certainly shouldn't effect your self esteem to the extent of trying to get a girl who doesn't want to be with you.
When someone breaks up with you, or isn't interested in you, you need to find the courage to move on. There are other people in the world--people who will love you for who you are, regardless of those who may not. This is how a secure person views rejection. Understand that rejection is a part of life; and if you're going to live successfully, you'll need to learn how to deal with it in this fashion.
2007-04-20 07:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you get rejected just move on because Its better then thinking why you got rejected. Rejection is part of dating so just remember that there are other women out there. If you get rejected like 100 times in a row then you should take a look at you self. Just don't let it get to you
2007-04-20 06:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
rejection for something? if and as quickly as I manage rejection and failure, it is my thought technique: of direction, I first experience unhappiness and shame at "dropping." I then experience anger, in particular at myself. Then, I close of all my thoughts and that i heal myself emotionally by making use of slowly distancing myself from the region. Then, i will proceed to pursue till i'm getting what i choose. for the period of this comprehensive element despite if, I sort of subconsciously save a stony and non-worrying look plastered on my face. even though, if we are conversing approximately love right here, then i'd wager that it might the two make me choose the guy greater, or i'd choose that they are no longer properly worth it and alter into chilly emotionally (even though they does no longer have the skill to tell because of the fact i'd nonetheless act heat in direction of them). yet I not often ever brazenly pursue, so i've got under no circumstances honestly confronted rejection in that count.
2016-12-26 16:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is going to like you, that's just life. Don't stalk someone because they don't feel toward you as you do toward them.
Move on...make your desire more general (I'd like a girlfriend, versus I'd like sarah to be my girlfriend). That way you ARE more likely to obtain what you desire at some point.
If you let every rejection hurt you, you're going to spend a lot of your life in pain. Just accept it and don't let it change your opinion of who you are. ☺
2007-04-20 06:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and talk with other people. Be social. If you have close friends who won't call you a douche for expressing your emotions talk to them. Vent verbally. It'll be over before you know it and you'll be bangin someone new.
2007-04-20 06:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look at rejection as reflection to what you can improve in yourself. Don't look at it as a bad thing...if you really want to know why ask them?
Say he really can I know why? Ask them to be honest with you...
Maybe it's not you...maybe they just like a different prefference.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe they aren't meant for you
2007-04-20 06:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love will find its way
move on and talk to girls. and keep your head high; one girl OMGG!
if she means that much to you talk to her more as friends? not as lets date?
and move out go hang out with friends or find a new person to hook up with. keep your mind off of it
"never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game"
good luck
2007-04-20 06:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer u live as such, the longer u sink into depression and waste otherwise precious age. love cannot be forced. so move on.
2007-04-20 06:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stalker...Let them go and find some one that feels the same way that you feel about them.
2007-04-20 06:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋