He worries about everything from weather, changes in his body, touching people casually ( rubbing arms ) he feels that's wrong, his sexuality, he is a mess. He sees a doctor on Monday, but for now. He didn't want to go to school today but he went. He feels he is not normal. Aside from telling him ourselves it's normal and he will be alright and providing as much info as he wants, I don't know how to make him feel that he will be okay & that we will work through it together.
2007-04-20 06:37:52 · 10 answers · asked by Monica B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Poor little guy! Sounds like he needs some love and reassurance. He is very brave, for going to school even though he is feeling this way. It sounds to me like you are on the right track.
If he has issues with his sexuality, I'm sure there are all kinds of support groups he can join, either in person, or online.
The other worries may just be symptoms of his overall feeling of uneasiness. As he gains trust in you and confidence in himself, he may stop having those other vague worries.
As a child, I was always scared - of the boogeyman, something under my bed, something in the closet - etc. This lasted until I was almost 30! Turns out it was just because I had to learn how to trust myself and have self-confidence. Once I gained that, the "boogeyman" disappeared. Amazing!
Good luck with him! Give him an extra hug from me!
2007-04-20 06:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't want to scare you but is there any chance hes been sexually assaulted, a teacher, priest, family member? Have dad try and talk to him and see if that could be the issue. By no means am i saying that is the problem or that all gay people have been molested, i understand that some are born that way, but my cousin came out of the closet at 16 and has all kinds of issues and recently told us he may not be gay but he was molested by a teacher when he was 12 and that really messed him up, and that's too bad that he thinks he may not be gay because he had a sex change! Anyway, talk to him and see if that's what happened and if that's the reason he doesn't wanna go to school. Also these days, boys his own age can do things that make him feel uneasy and dirty! I think something has happened to your son. I'll pray for another explanation, and i wish you all well!
2007-04-20 08:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe he will be ok, then he will begin to believe it as well. 11 is such a precarious age, so many changes within the self.
The pressure to be like the next guy at school, acceptance, girls, grades, activities, mom & dad, the struggle for independence....don't you remember this crappy age?
Getting outside help is grear. I think it speaks volumes that your child came to YOU! Your child trusted you enough with painful confessions. The child may have doubs about himself, but he had none about YOU!!
Normal is the most conditional label you can use. Stop using the word, its a meaningless label, because in any situation, NOTHING will be normal. Let your child be whoever itis he is becoming...and accept it. You don't have to like it, but it is his choice.
You cannot make him feel anything, that is his own internal black box to work out. You can love that child everyday and be there for him. A strong house is built on a solid and supportive base. Be that and watch the house go up!
2007-04-20 06:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by rooseveltq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for taking him to the doctor.
Our daughter was diagnosed with mild OCD at about that age. We decided not to medicate but worked on some behaviors that helped her.
It is natural for kids to worry about stuff at this age but excessive worry coupled with any kind of obsessive behavior(hand washing, counting, germaphobia) is cause for concern.
The good news is my daughter is 15 and seems to have outgrown the worst of it.
She still obsesses a little and has a few quirks but she's a pretty well adjusted kid and has decided on a career in the military because she likes the order.
2007-04-20 07:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of the adolescent.
I hope he isn't embarassed by such personal talk, because I told my son that this was normal for adolescents, and that all young people going through puberty feel this way, even if they don't show it. Most kids just hide this. It may help him feel better to know that we all went through this crazy roller coaster ride.
2007-04-20 06:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
average, great activity! i like the subject count (as i grew to become into comparable at that age!) right here is a few rules: Line 2 - "throw grass of their face" I image a whiny baby throwing grass, not a soccer participant making them "consume the grass" i've got self belief the rhyming right here is compelled, that's the hassle with rhyming poems - it should be organic, not compelled. The repetition of strains 2 and four: "yet I address anybody" and "yet i like as quickly as I address" - too plenty for me. attempt to reword certainly one of them (my suggestion is line 2, because of the previous remark) strains 6 and seven - Love "soccer stud" yet line 6 could desire to be reworded...possibly "whilst in comparison with the adult males", or "i'm standard because of the fact the..." anybody you recognize isn't a soccer participant (i'm assuming), so it basically does not sound top. The third stanza is excellent, love the assumption. yet SB has "no pick for me" - i think of a various be conscious different than pick might artwork greater suitable (for the reason which you're a sturdy participant, and that they DO pick you, they do basically not pick a woman). (Love line 9) strains 10 and 11 could desire to be shrink, and flow up the 1st 0.5 of the fourth Stanza because of the fact that's the comparable theory. strains 15-17 are surprising, and in case you may get Stanza 3 and the 1st area of Stanza 4 right into a 4 line stanza, you have an incredible trend going (4 line stanza, 3 line stanza, 4 line, 3 line) The 5th stanza is a sprint atypical. i like it, fantastically strains 18 and 19 (i think of i might shrink out "all" nevertheless, do not use pointless words) . strains 20-22 are my difficulty strains - you communicate approximately tackling the entire poem, yet then you definately say you're frequently the greater suitable individual and flow away - attempt to not contradict your self (till this is the form of the poem- which right here it is not). shrink "And" on line 24. shrink "You" on line 25. returned, great activity!
2016-10-13 01:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to involve him in activities with other kids and avoid for him to watch NEW ( not healthy) take to a proffessional because it is not normal for a kids his age to be worry about all this stuff, he should be having FUN and enjoying his kids age... look for professional help it will be best !!! GOOD LUCK !!
2007-04-20 06:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may have a generalized anxiety disorder. He may get better just through talk therapy, or his doctor may also prescribe a drug to help him (though he's a bit young for pharmaceutical intervention right from the start in my opinion).
2007-04-20 06:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should sit him down, talk to him and reassure him that everything in the world is not perfect and neither is he, let him know its ok to be concerened about certain things but worrying is a stress factor, explain to him what stress is and let him know he should take it easy and relax, unless there is something he is leaving out....
2007-04-20 06:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he play any sports or do anything social?
2007-04-20 06:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by eldude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋