when i was 7yearsold my mom let my stepdadhurt me mentally and physicaly and sexually and i love her but i dont know how i can she tells me to for get it but for some bazzar reason i can for give him easyer why
2007-04-20 06:33:14 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is she still with him??? if so i wouldnt forgeive her, if she left him and has moved on its time for reconciliation between you to .
2007-04-20 06:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to forgive him because he is your stepfather and there is an excuse of him not looking at you and seeing a blood relative. As far as he is concerned, you're only related by marriage.
It is far difficult for you to forgive your mom because she allowed it and betrayed your trust in her. She was irresponsible, insensitive and uncaring to have allowed her daughter to go through what you went through all because of a man.
If she is urging you to just forget about it even now, then she doesn't really understand the depth of her betrayal. Nor does she realize the magnitude of the effect it had on you. That means, she isn't sorry at all.
Maybe you can be a better human being and come to forgive her. If so, good for you but I hope you never trust her with anything again.
2007-04-20 13:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by boohoo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't tell you to "forget" it - she should take you to therapy so you can deal with the abuse you've experienced.
Of course your instinct is to love your parents (even though they didn't show a similar love for you, or they wouldn't have abused you or permitted the abuse to happen), but you can love somebody and still be angry with them at the same time.
If your mom won't take you to therapy, tell your teacher everything that happened, and ask if she can help you get therapy. You'll feel much better once you talk the matter over with a professional.
2007-04-20 13:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant forgive your mom as easily because it seems that she does'nt feel sorry for what she did to you. Seriously, dont forgive her until she realizes what she did wrong cuz pretending it did'nt happen is stupid. YOur mom had all the power in the world to protect you and instead she basically betrayed you. And thats the worst thing a parent can do to their child. I'm sorry, but I dont even know your mom, and i hate her already. >_<
2007-04-20 13:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be ur mom have thought that by this ur dad will remain close to her and indirectly u will not feel the bitterness of orphanges. May be u have thought that ur mom don have other substitute so she ...... Here the question is should u forgive ur mom. If this thought came in ur mind then forgive her as to forgive is more noble than to take revenge.
2007-04-20 13:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by manish24997 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look at your mom as someone who is there to protect you, especially at 7 years old, and she violated that by letting someone come into your life and hurt you....youre right she is your mom, and you should forgive her, but you should tell her how you feel, tell her, "Mom, what happened hurt me, in so many ways, but you allowing that to happen, hurt me just as bad...i love you, but i want you to know that what you did by not stopping this was wrong," and then after she apologizes, you should forgive her...BUT NEVER FORGET IT.....
2007-04-20 13:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong for allowing anyone to hurt you. Your mother has her own issues. She has low self esteem and no confidence because if she did she would have left him and had him prosecuted. You are old enough and smart enough to protect yourself now. Tell someone! Anyone! It's okay to still love your mother, you only get one. She loves you she's just weak!
2007-04-20 13:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving is a step closer to closure about the incident. you have grown up and you know better. you can tell her your thoughts and all to let her know your true feelings about the event. and to let her know you are a better woman bcoz of what had happened. i want an apology for the incident and move on past this...
:-)
2007-04-20 13:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by SimplyUniQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, because youre scarred for life! You must forgive because shes your mom. But you will never forget.. You must let go of what you cannot change.
2007-04-20 13:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts more cuz this is your mother, your own flesh and blood, and she allowed some man to take advantage of you! she is your mother and she was suppose to protect you and she didn't so now your angry. it's not up to us to tell you to forgive her. you have to feel forgiveness from within. but she bogus though. how are you suppose to forget something like that?! she allow some man who was suppose to be a father figure in your life to abuse you in every way possible, so why is it easier for you to forgive him though?
2007-04-20 13:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to report both in to the police.
You will have to forgive your mother so that you can move on with your life. Your mother doesn't have to know that you had ever forgiven her because it is none of her business.
I hope you are getting professional help.
2007-04-20 13:40:24 · answer #11 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋