been dating for a year and things are ok. but when we go out she is all ways second looking b/m. i've asked her about it, but she denies that she was even looking. this is getting to me abit, so what should i do.
2007-04-20 06:20:31 · 23 answers · asked by man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is black. and she does turning all the way around or looking back after the person walked by.
2007-04-20 06:52:54 · update #1
She's a ho...
2007-04-20 06:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
You are overly sensitive. And probably a little hypocritical.
Can you honestly say that when you are out in public that you never notice women other than your girlfriend? Of course you do, you probably also notice men (which should not be taken to imply any sort of sexual orientation).
You just see people.
Do second glances mean anything? No, sometimes you see something and it doesn't full register in your brain so you have to look again. It is a survival trait, there was a time when not noticing something could get you killed (like a predator).
Does she see these black men? Of course. That doesn't mean she wants to break up with you.
However, constantly accusing her WILL make her want to break up. Jealousy doesn't help in a society where killing a rival is frowned upon (and punished with impunity).
2007-04-20 06:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure how to help you with this one. Are you insecure about your race differences? Is she only looking at Black men or is she looking at all types of men but you only notice the Black men. If she is looking at any man and that makes you uncomfortable you should discuss that with her. Being in a interracial relationship can bring up many issues ( for you two and others) and if you dont learn how to deal with them now then your relationship will never last.
2007-04-20 06:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lovelee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i need to know if she's black. don't be insecure. if you know you are a good man stand your ground no matter what color she is or who she look at as long as she is not disrespecting you. Nothing wrong with looking as long as the person doing the looking is not turning all the way around or looking back after the person walked by. If you are insecure you need to chill far as relationships go until you get that under control, that will drive you nuts and you don't need that.
2007-04-20 06:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by sharon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she has been hurt by many black men and if you are the first then she thinks that its black men thing. I really think you should act like you dont even notice her looking at them. Do this for a while and see if pretty soon she realizes that she is you #1 priority and that you are confident enough not to care if she does look at the other men. She is only looking she is not doing them, right? Then it is a mental thing that will pass. Show her you can be just as stong as any man...but show her you are the only man she needs by showing her you are not threatened when she looks(even if you are). Also she could just be trying to see what a black mans response is when he sees her with you.
2007-04-20 06:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it prob means that she is still attracted too and will end up with a black guy. You said youve been dating for a year and things are "ok". if things are only ok than maybe you BOTH need to move on and find someone who loves you so much that she doesnt even need to look at any other guy bc she already has the perfect boyfriend.
2007-04-20 06:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by princess113chick 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now you kind of have a taste of what some women have to deal with all the time with their men staring at other women. It sucks! I've dumped men for staring at other women when they're with me and it's not because I'm jealous, it's because it's disrespectful. She obviously still has a strong attraction to black men. Maybe you need to find another girlfriend, one who only has eyes for you.
2007-04-20 06:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First start noticing her facial expressions when she does look at them and then try to compare to how she looks at you and if you notice a difference I would call her on it as soon as she looks at another black man in that way. That way when you call her out on it she can't anything because it would have been right then right there. Good luck.
2007-04-20 06:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by alexbeauty333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you prefer she only looked at white men? Or do you think just because she's in a relationship she has no right to LOOK at other men? As long as she's not being disrespectful to you she has a right to LOOK! Personally, I think you're intimated by black men. You need to have more confidence in yourself as a man regardless of your color.
2007-04-20 06:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok possibly some interracial couples nonetheless struggle by using discrimination and are transforming into "used to" being the sufferers. definite, that's 2008, and we are all *meant* to be civilized...regrettably that may not the case. human beings nonetheless discriminate. i in my view does not supply a flying f*ck if an interracial couple began watching me....i might basically shop strolling. heavily, it is not worth getting indignant approximately those issues.
2016-10-13 01:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by petrosino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she's going to look at other men while y'all are together than she doesn't love you as much as she says she does. Y'all need to do something together and see how it works out like do more things together. Go to six flags or a nice restaurant.
2007-04-20 06:28:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋