We have been dating for 6mon. and i feel all he wants is sex. We've been on 2 dates, and all we do is have sex. I don't mind because I am a very open person and I do anything he wants. I like him, but we don't much else about each other. I would like your opinion because the sex is not that great. He makes me feel like the queen of the world.
2007-04-20 05:33:48 · 45 answers · asked by freakyrabbit86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not like if he pays me or anything. I really do like him. It feels as i fit's only for sex.
2007-04-20 06:54:52 · update #1
it all about him USING you for sex and according to you it's not good anyway. What's the attraction? He doesn't even take you out so how does he make you feel like a queen??? Obviously he can't make you feel that way in the bedroom and you don't do much of anything else outside of it so how in the world can he make you feel like queen? Do you think being a queen means getting banged and used like a free hooker by some old fat out of shape 48 year old? So he must buy you stuff that's it he brings you flowers and candy I get it now. Hey i can do that too and give you much better sex and take you out more often then once every three months. Put the crackpipe down now and close your legs.
2007-04-23 11:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Hood 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is a lot of things. Face it, you are starving for attention...you need to feel needed. Maybe you have issues with being insecure. There are probably tons of people your age in your town, that have a lot more in common with you than a 48 year old man does.
I am sure the guy is in it only for the sex. You say the sex isn't that great, but what do you expect...the guy is almost 50 years old, you are 20...I bet this guy has clothes older than you.
You want to know why he treats you like a queen? Do you think it is because he is just a really nice guy and adores you? No! Here comes your reality check...he found you, and insecure 20 year old girl, damaged goods pretty much...Well, he treats you good, you like it, you give him sex. Well, he puts 2 and 2 together, figures out that the only way he can keep you around is to treat you like you are the greatest thing since sliced bread. Then he can go tell all of his senile friends that he is banging a 20 year old.
He gives you the illusion that you are a queen, then he tells his buddies that you are a sex goddess. He knows that if he doesn't go out of his way to be good to you, you will be getting railed by some 23 year old professional ball player. I think every girl deserves to be treated like a queen...but you got to see the big picture here...enjoy it while it lasts.
2007-04-20 05:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer lies within you. If you feel like he is using you for the sex - he might be. If you are happy in the relationship then that is fine that you are 20 and he is 48 - age is just a number. You are also past the age of consent - you are considered an adult. Sex is good, but it can not be the only thing that the relationship is built on. Emotions tend to get in the way for women - we get a connection to our partners after sex. Granted, some women do not, but I think that is a rare case in point.
In the end, if you are happy and he makes you feel good and you do not care that the relationship is what it is - Go For It.
If you are concerned that sex is all that your relationship is about, please talk to your partner - He might not be aware that you would like to go and do other activities besides sleeping together. Good communication is the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
Best wishes and Good Luck!!
2007-04-20 05:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Patti-Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im 22 never dated anyone, still virgin. The girls my age all are married or with kids, so I been sorta thinking to date someone younger, but I don't know any girls now. Ive lost contact with everyone in school, I just work in a small mill thats my life. Now a 24 with a 14 year old that would be viewed bad here. The wired thing is its legal for a 14 year old to be with a 14 year old.
2016-05-19 22:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is about the sex.
A man with more than 28 years on you in age is not interested in maintaining a long term relationship.
You've been dating him for six months but you've only HAD two dates? That doesn't make sense, but having an intimate relationship with someone that much older would not be accepted by many people in your community.
I'm confident that he does treat you like a queen. He's either incapable or unwilling to find relationships with women his own age or generation, so he'd make a point of being super nice. Whether that means that his feelings for you are more significant than simply sex is another question.
Ask yourself:
Why am I in this relationship?
Do I expect to have an long-term relationship with this man, based on how things are going now?
Do I get I what I need, emotionally, in this relationship?
If you have answers to those questions, and they cover your needs/expectations, stay in the relationship. Otherwise, I don't think it will be very successful for you.
2007-04-20 05:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to understand what attracted you to him in the first place. Was it his money, sex appeal, ability to make you feel happy when you were having a bad day? If you are not in love with him by now, and you have only been on 2 dates in 6 months, you should get to know him more by spending time with him but refusing the sex if you do not feel comfortable with it. If he really cares about you, he will respect you and let you learn more about him. However, if he tries to pressure you or make you feel bad in any way, you should leave him. It sounds like you hardly see him and when you said that you "do anything he wants," it sounds like right now he keeps you around just for the sex. If you wanted a fulfilling spiritual, emotional, physical relationship, he does not seem willing to provide that right now.
2007-04-20 05:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sassi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I've never felt that age should make a big difference. But it seems to me that it's harder to have things in common with someone so FAR out of your age group that he's old enough to be your Dad. Do you have ANYTHING in common? I've heard that a lot of woman over 45 are not very interested in sex anymore. I'm 44 and don't foresee any problems in that area. And not that you are a child, but for a guy to go for someone that much younger than himself, seems like he may have some problems in the molesting area. Please be careful. I know most guys your own age are usually not very mature. But there's no rush in finding Mr. Right. Just don't stay with Mr. Wrong if you're not happy. This may be a sick Fetish of his and you may not be the last. Do you know why he's still single at the age of 48. Please be careful, if and when you break it off with him. Make sure to be in a public place.
2007-04-20 05:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal, 1 you’re young and hot and he’s in his prime where he feels that he can’t please a woman anymore. You’re making him feel like the king he should and you’re doing the right thing. I have dated men 17 years my prime and there the best lovers not good in bed but the best lovers, why because when you take care of them they do treat you like a queen. What I suggest is that you try to do some exotic things with this guy, try things that you always wanted to do that you would not have done with a less mature guy and have fun doing them. You don’t have to worry about him not appreciating you for it. This also will help you take his sex life to the next level so that you can enjoy making love to him. Yes older men are wise but us younger woman can teach then a few things also. Good Luck!!!
2007-04-20 06:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by lee0908 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are more than just sex. Sex. And more Sex.
He is using you. I'm sure you are very flattered that an older man would like you. But to be honest you need to dump this guy.
Stop having sex and find out what a person is really like before you make that kind of commitment.
Sex is a beautiful thing between two people who are committed to one another and are MARRIED!
2007-04-20 05:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is the stereotypical relationship it looks like on the surface... He's in midlife crisis, looking to validate his masculinity -- that means snagging himself a very young female for a lot of willing sex. If he can be the dominant partner (and since you say you'll do anything he wants, that seems pretty dominant to me), so much the better! In return, sure he makes you feel like a queen. That's his end of the deal, since he knows very well he can't compete with guys your own age in terms of energy and physical exertion in bed.
If you don't like that the relationship seems to be all about sex -- go with your instincts and call him on it.
2007-04-20 05:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋