me and my boyfriend are saved but not to long ago we stepped out of Gods will and we start having sex and and we both know its wrong and we want to stop and the only way i can think that can happen if we stop seeing each other and i love him to much to let that happpen so i just need some answers so i can know how we can be doing gods will and still be with each other.
2007-04-20 04:51:19 · 15 answers · asked by Niesha bonds 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If premarital sex is against your belief system...then stop!!!Lust and love are very different things.
Perhaps the two of you should not be alone in places where sex is a possibility if neither of you have self control.
2007-04-20 04:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hey, I'm fully qualified to answer this question, because I've walked and am walking it. At first I got saved and then later my boyfriend. We still haven't received the renewed mind and clean heart. We just received salvation. IT TAKES YOU BEING IN THE WORD OF GOD AND IN PRAYER for you to realize just where God is leading you. And that's to holiness. Don't be tricked by these comments the "world" is giving you. When the Word speaks of transforming your mind, it means to turn away from all that you once knew in the world, and it's standards and way of thinking. I got to a point where we constantly having sex and I didn't feel any conviction, but when the Holy Ghost began to do surgery on the inside and started sending the spirit of conviction. I twas then I knew God was calling me higher and out of that mess I was in
Read Romans, the whole book. Read chapter by chapter, I promise you and pray that the Spirit of God cut that desire out of you and your boyfriend. But the thing I realized is I'm not married to my boyfriend, and where God is calling me is different from my boyfriend. It's a personal thing. Who do you love more your man or God. I'll leave you with what a woman told me. If you're gonna be saved...BE SAVED, if you don't want God then leave Him alone, there ain't no in between with God. So make sure you stay in prayer and tell God to work on the inside of you so that you can know you have victory over temptation and sin. Be blessed sister girl, and email sometimes if you like
2007-04-20 16:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nish 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who says sex is wrong? The 40 human beings who wrote the bible 2 thousand years ago? God didn't write the Bible, men did. Sex is natural. Its mens hang-ups that created the idea of evil sex. Animals mate without permission from a priest or a parent. Its natural. Just be safe and protected and never do anything unless you want to.
2007-04-20 12:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by magichanzz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a soulition. You are not going to like it. But you can still see your boyfriend and not worry about the temptation of sex.
Wear a chastity belt. Give your mother the only key.
And to respond to the nice young lady who also answered this question after I did, don't marry for legal sex. It is a mistake too many people make. There is much more to a marriage then sex.
2007-04-20 11:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by rossem 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is considered bad for the reason that generally the girl is at a disadvantage and faces the risk of being rejected by the boy.
I think other than this it is normal for a boy and girl to unite. This is a biological need created by God.
If you are sure of your boyfriend's intention and if it is genuine then dont restrain yourself.
2007-04-20 12:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ashok H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are 5 things a Christian needs to do.
Read the Word as often, Pray, meditate on the Word, testify, and
NOT
failing to assemble with fellow saints.
Jesus told us that he comes first before anyone else;
NOT EVEN,
loved ones or boyfriends or girlfriends.
2007-04-20 12:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by 1saintofGod 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but I believe God wants us to love and enjoy one another but to be careful about it at the same time. Sex is just another way of coming together, loving each other, and fulfilling desires. It is not wrong. Just be careful, safe sex and all that.
Gods will is that we not worry so much about the rights and wrongs but about love.
2007-04-20 11:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is possible to be with him and submit totally to God , but the bible says to lay aside every weight that so easily besets you. so if you can't stop now, you better let him go b4 God takes him away from you. God is a jealous God. and he won't allow you to put anyone or anything b4 him. God may have sent you two together but if you put him b4 God, God will allow you to separate.
2007-04-20 11:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What you need to do is just step back. You dont need to break up, just step back. Pray to God, seek His forgiveness, and pray that He will show you His will again. Put God first in your life again and tell your boyfriend to do the same.
2007-04-20 11:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sex is natural, wonderful fun and good for you. Especially when it is with someone you love. Good for you.
Denying it is unnatural, frustrating and bad for you. Anyone who says you shouldn't be having sex is a vile, ignorant hypocrite.
Just make sure you use a condom, for both your sakes.
2007-04-20 11:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Christian Man Troll 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋