Say you are at the bar with a bunch of friends. You buy a round of drinks and include "whatever the gentleman at the end of the bar is having". He comes over and you talk with him all night. The two of you close the bar and end up back at his place. You end up talking for quite sometime and learn alot about one another. The making out starts and it leads to the bedroom where you tell him that you're not ready to "sleep with him". He says that he is ok with that. You start talking again and the next thing you know its back to making out...and then you give in to your own hormones flying and sleep with him. The both of you fall asleep and you sneak out in the AM before he's awake. Should you call him or should you wait to hear from him?
2007-04-20 04:41:02 · 12 answers · asked by The girl next door 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How would you feel about a text message?
2007-04-20 05:12:05 · update #1
If you think he has relationship potential, feel free to call him. However, if you think it was just a one-evening thing, or if you weren't really into him, wait for him to call you. Just don't call immediately, wait til about 2 days later.
2007-04-20 04:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sassi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting games are silly, most people get more offended if people play them than anything actually. My advice, just call if that is what you want to do and make it generic. Just say that you felt bad about the way you left, etc. That guy probably either is happy you did it that way or totally self esteem shot because he thinks you ran from him in the morning cuz of regret.
How would you have felt if things were turned around, maybe that is how he is feeling. Would you call if he ran out like that?
He could have just wanted a one nighter, or he could want more, you will never know unless you call. I doubt he will call you after the way you took off the day after.
I would just call, you never know until you talk to him how he felt. Maybe if you are worried call when you know he will not be there and leave him a message saying you are sorry for running out the way you did.
2007-04-20 11:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. It wasn't a smooth move on your part. You gave in. Never trust a man that wants sex right off the bat. Chances are that's all they wanted. As a woman, you have the virtue of saying no. Some guys will take that as a hint and others will try harder. Did you make the move to start with the sex? If you did, you might try calling him but if he talked you into it and you gave in, he might have just been out of a one nighter. If you don't call him and he doesn't call you, I think you have found your answer.
I'm an older man and I've seen quite a bit in my time. I'm one of those guys that takes the hint but I love to snuggle so that's as far as it would have gone until the girl makes the move. I've found that I'm one of a few, I'm picky too.
2007-04-20 11:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Do you like him ?
2) is this just a lust from you or you want to be a long term relationship
3) does he have a girlfriend ?
If you can answer these 3 question honestly then you call him. If you are looking for just a 1-nite stand , then i advise you to have a safe protection sex.
2007-04-20 11:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by GUYVER P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Twan says,
Well, he's not going to call you!!!
By running out in the am before he woke up,as a man, he's going to think that you was just a Hoe.(not trying to offend you). You need to leave it completely alone or call him and explain to him what happened.
2007-04-20 11:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Twan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that was me as the male i would be disappointed and feel that you did not want me to contact you --- you left before breakfast --- while it may sound a little silly even as i wanted to contact you --- so i would suggest you ring and let him know that you would like to have a real date ---- if that is what you want of course
2007-04-20 11:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call and explain to him why you snuck out. If you don't he may be thinking that you regret it and never want to talk to or see him again.
2007-04-20 11:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Im a old fashion kinda gal so I say wait until he calls you...if doesnt call...oh well, his loss!
2007-04-20 11:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i would never put myself in the position you put yourself in...i have way too much respect for myself
2007-04-20 11:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats pretty cold to just leave. I bet he's pretty pissed. So you better call him.
2007-04-20 11:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Scottie_T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋