I live with my partner, before my divorce he said he would marry me in a minute. now i am divorced he seems to have forgotten. how do i gently remind him? he dosnt catch on to subtle hints and ignores jewellery catalogues !!
2007-04-20 04:25:17 · 28 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't "get him" to buy you a ring. Why would you want one if you have to force it?
2007-04-20 07:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would flat out ask him about what he thinks about getting married.
This is nothing against you, but I never understand why women who live with men are afraid to ask about the course of the relationship. You live together, there is a commitment made, why is it considered "pressuring" when it comes to marriage in this sort of situation? You are already filling the roles of husband and wife, why do women get so scared that they will scare their boyfriends off? And if it does scare them off, wouldnt you be happy to know now rather than spend years waiting around for something that may never happen?
I guess this concerns me so much because I watched my sister do the same thing only to be cheated on and dumped after 9 years with this man.(and he promptly married this other girl, solidifying that he did want to get married, just not to my sister) I hate to see women used like this to fill a role until something better comes along for the man.
I think you have every right to ask him flat and direct whats up with your marriage plans.
2007-04-20 04:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him you need to talk with him about your future together. Will a ring make that much difference if the communication between you isnt there? Men arent mind readers you know. Just come straight out & tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe he thinks because you havent said anything about it that youre content with things just the way they are
2007-04-20 05:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by pink.jazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why "subtle hints"? Why not just talk to him? Ask him how he feels about you two getting married. If you're thinking of marrying this person, you have to be able to discuss it with him; stop the "subtle hints" crap, and communicate.
2007-04-20 05:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him is one way to go, but I made some hints to mine. I would cut out photo's of rings and leave on in underware drawer, one in his wallet and then on on the mirror. He would give me that look and I would say... " just dropping little hints" that went on for a few weeks. Then I just asked him what his plans were in life we had a talk and that was that.... few weeks later... had my ring!
2007-04-20 05:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well sit down and talk about it. Tell him you think its time you both talked about the issue. Remind him what he would say before your divorce. I just hope he wasnt the reason you got divorced.
2007-04-20 04:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try and talk to him about getting married. It was easy for him to tell you that he would marry you when you technically weren't available. Maybe he was just telling you that to make you feel special and now has "cold feet" about the whole thing...
2007-04-20 04:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by slim27 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
act like a jealous psycho and then when he says he wants to break up because he needs more space, either ignore him or say ok but act like nothing has changed and you all are still together. don't forget to continue acting like a jealous psycho. he will get you a ring in no time. sounds wrong i know, but i have seen it work over and over and over and over and over again....
2007-04-20 04:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by kittycat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to remind him of what he said. I suspect he never thought he would actually have to make a commitment. It sounds like you picked a loser.
2007-04-20 04:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he was just talking smack and now doesn;t have the guts to follow through with his promises, because it wasn;t really a promise, it was just a trick to get you in the sack.
2007-04-20 04:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol oh dear, then like me you just approach the subject of getting married and see how he reacts, this is the only way for some people, it snot a bad thing for you to bring it up!
2007-04-20 04:40:17 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋