I was wondering is it normal for my sons to fight (bite, hit, ) all the time? they are 12m 18 days apart and they fight all the time one min. they are playing the next thing i know they are hitting each other. I ask the pre school teacher if they fight w/other kids she said no it's never been a problem. I have tried everything time-outs, making them hug each other for 3min. It seems nothing works. They can go from being best friends to fighting in just min. Any suggestions? Will it always be like this?
2007-04-20 03:55:46 · 13 answers · asked by b12345 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have a 4 year old and 2 year old...both boys, that are like that. One minute they will be on the floor laughing and wrestling and then the next minute they will be killing each other over a toy. I blame some of it on brother rivalry and the fact my oldest refuses to share (but he's getting better). When they do it more than twice a day then I separate them or put them both in time out. I think it will get better. Hopefully they will get more mature and the fighting will subside.
2007-04-20 04:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have two children (girl & boy) aged 5 and 4 that are 10m 13days apart and your description sounds like them (except they seem to yell at each other more than bite/hit).
Since they go to different schools now, my daughter goes to 'big' school and my son goes to preschool it seems to have stoped all the fighting (well until holidays start).
Try to persuade them to do something by themselves for a while, like drawing, playing with a toy by themselves and not with the other one around. Kind of like have a break from each other even for just a few minutes, that seems to work with my little ones.
I think it's just the way it is, I can remember when I was little, there was 7 yrs difference between my sister and I and we used to fight all the time. They will grow out of it.
2007-04-21 11:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty normal, but definitely something you want to discourage. Maybe try talking to them about love and respect and how we don't hit each other when we're angry. Explain that if the behavior continues they will keep getting in trouble like they have been. Then you just have to follow through. I know my brother and I fought almost our whole lives until we moved out of the house. Now we get along just fine, but we live 1000 miles away from each other :)
2007-04-20 04:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by so.good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can they be in separate rooms for pre-school?
My 8 & 9 year old children are 15 months apart & sometimes needed space from each other.
They do love each other, very protective of each other, but can also fight like crazy when in close quarters for too long.
2007-04-20 04:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by n.m. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys are 8 and 7 now and used to do the same thing. Don't tolerate it. Make sure they know it is not ok. Other than that, hang in there, they will get past it for awhile. My boys are each others best friends right now. I don't anticipate that being the case in 5 more years.
2007-04-20 04:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes very normal. and you're handling it really well. as the saying goes they can hit each other but let someone else hit one of them you'll see them both wanna fight the other person.
normal rivalry between brothers. it's a problem when they get older and start to fight for nothing. keep reinforcing the punishment even when you get tired or it will really become a problem for you.
2007-04-20 04:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old son and a 2 year old daughter {they are 17 months apart} and they act just like your boys. And they play well at my sister in law's house unless I'm there. Its just a phase they are going thru discovering that they have ownership of certain things and discovering their own independence. They shoudl outgrow it with time. But basically just let them fight it out as long as noone is getting hurt.
2007-04-20 04:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by supermom12042702 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My little sister and I are 14 months apart. We had some terrible fights growing up. It's okay, it's a sibling thing. I hate to tell you, but it's probably not going to get any better. However, we are close now that we are grown.
2007-04-20 16:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by trace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will grow out of it. At this age they can't control their anger and that's all they know how to do it bite and hit. At preschool they have other kids and things to distract them from each other. Don't worry all children this age do this.
2007-04-20 04:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Mommyof3♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! My kids are 7 & 4, my youngest is a boy .......he is the same way! I think its just a boy thing cause is constantly hitting his sister or other friends that come over to play. If you find out the magic trick...........please let me know!
2007-04-20 04:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by kmcnally1481 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋