i'm just wondering why is it wrong to have a relationship with your cousin?cause i have a relation with my cousin and i love her so much and she feels the same way to me.i have already started noticing her when we were still child i'm 7 years old i think and she is 9,that's the time i already felt i had a crush on her,but she just don't notice me.then after 11 years passed,i saw her again on the burial of our Aunt,i felt the same feeling i felt for her when we were still young.then we went back home to our province,i started texting her then i also proposed to her what i truly feel for her.then i went to church alone, i asked for God's assistence, i prayed to Him to help me take a chance to Love my cousin and be with her.then you know what happened,God answered all my prayers.Now we're Boyfriends and Girlfriends,but now our family and relatives knows about this and all of them are protesting against us.but we never listened to them cause they don't know how we love each other.Help Pls.
2007-04-20 03:51:38 · 50 answers · asked by yang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
inbred. genes cross and cancel eachother out. Your and their genetic makeup is too similar to create a normal person, therefore a defect will occur
2007-04-20 03:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by (+_+) B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a bit complicated.
In fact it's not good having a relationship with your relative and not just because you two are within the "same family", but also because this is proved scientifically.
There are possibilities that people of the same "blood" have children who are not perfectly sane.
I personally wouldn't advice you too keep on with this relationship...
There are so many nice girls around, why should you stick with your cousin?
Think well about it, these may cause you problems after wards.
Good luck
2007-04-20 03:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry chum, yet definite she is family contributors! Your cousin's daughter is your 2d cousin! it truly is family contributors! Now if she had children, then you definitely have a courting! yet you need to be 32 and her 16, and maximum states have a challenge with a 32 365 days previous guy messing with a minor! third cousins are legal, something are not any more in maximum states. Get a female friend out of the family contributors kiddo!
2016-12-04 08:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's against the law. Having said that in other cultures (specifically Asian) it is quite common. I have read studies (sorry I know longer remember where) that have indicated only immediate family inbreeding causes birth defects. (like brother/sister, father/daughter, uncle/niece, grandfather/granddaughter....you get the picture. Legally I'm not sure if there is anywhere in the US you could get married. I know first cousins from the Asain culture that have married in the US and they have 2 children that are just beautiful. Of course the law doesn't know they are first cousins. Good luck! I think there comes a time when as adults we make our own choices, as long as you are willing to live with the consequences.
2007-04-20 04:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by cindy g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very complicated situation. I understand that you love your cousin so I won't be disrespectful to the feelings that you have for her. I understand that your family is protesting against your relationship for religious purposes but I'm looking at it from a more practical point of view. How closely related are the two of you? I ask this, not to be mean, but because if you two are related to closely, this can create problems for future children that you might have. Because of genetics, your offspring will have a greater chance of picking up negative genetic traits. In my opinion, this is the only downfall in your relationship with your cousin. I know that this is a difficult family dilemma but if you are not first cousins, then your happiness is what should be put first in this matter. If you are two consenting adults, not risking anyone's safety, it's irrelevant what your family thinks.
2007-04-20 03:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well its consider wrong because we are not use to seeing this kind of stuff like gay people, we get all crazy and upset because we are not use to seeing something like that the same here. She is family, I personally don't see myself with a family member, but hey everybody is free to do what they want.The only thing wrong here is that, if you do take on a serious relationship and decide to have kids they will or might, nobody knows for sure, they will come our with birth defects, and I personally wouldn't want that to happen, since they will suffer much, so in that prospective i would think about it first, but other than, life is short so enjoy your love while its still here, you never know you might not end up with her or then again you might, So just enjoy your life and love, because if you have something great in front of you, take care of it.
Best of Luck!!!
2007-04-20 03:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lots and lots of people list their cousins as their first love or first kiss. The real reason is that you see each other alot while young and while you grew up, hormones kicked in and you'd of course fall for the nearest, most accessible person that you see often. Ta-dah! That's when 'the cousin' becomes a love interest. It's just a phase that many young confused people go through and you'll grow out of it eventually.
About genetics, it is not safe to have children since they will almost always turn out to be retarded, horribly deformed or handicapped.
2007-04-20 04:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong because you share some percentage of matching DNA which means that if you ever had children, there is a great chance that they could have birth deffects. There are some people that live in my town whose parents are cousins and all 6 of their children are/were mentally retarded. 3 of the 4 who are still alive are homeless and not allowed to drive. They are in a terrible situation.
God made incest wrong for a reason.
2007-04-20 03:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will certainly make holiday's a little easier. you only have one family to visit.
on the other hand it will be a bit awkward.
i have read that the laws on marrying cousins may be repealed in some states because science has found that it may not increase the risk of genetic defects as once thought.
i still would not consider having children for fear that genetic defects could occur.
get sterilized.
2007-04-20 04:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I think that some of my cousins are attractive, what can I say, I am in an attractive family. But to pursue those kinds of relationships are wrong. I CAN GURANTEE GOD DID NOT ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS, at least not with a yes. You two need to get some help. You are probably doing this because you lacked the affection from someone else at some point or another. Only proffesional help will help you with this one. I hope this helps.
2007-04-20 03:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by curtisjb1983 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many moral reasons that it is wrong, however those are dependent on your culture and religion.
The legal reasons are that due to close genetic similarities there is a very strong chance of creating children with severe genetic abnormalities, such as mental retardation, blindness, limb malformations, genetic diseases etc. and that is extremely selfish on the part of the parents to create a child knowing that there is a good chance that they will have little or poor quality of life.
2007-04-20 03:59:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋