When can I complain about him always being too busy?

Question

I feel like he's neglecting me sometimes... he's always too tired or busy. he has very good reasons, he works a lot and he has his band and his house and his college. he is a very active man and i know he loves me very much. but i still feel lonely and i just think it's unfair i always have to do what he wants and change my schedule after his. it's really frustrating, i want to live my own life...so should we women accept this type of situations and what is our limit?

Answer 1

u dont have to accept anything u dont want to put up with. if u have expressed how u feel to him and nothing still has not changed then it never will. there will come a time when u will be tired of being the only one compromising and let it go or let him go. even though u are in love he is not the only person that loves u......there is someone else out there that can give u everything u want and more, its just takes time for us to find and realize the ones who are willing to do so. so go into deep thought and come to a conclusion after talking to him whether u want to always be 2nd to everything he is doing. if he loved u so much as u love him he would see that u are hurt and want to try to fix it or compromise a little....by u always doing so he may feel that he does not have to therefore he doesn't want to.

Answer 2

It sure does sound like he has a very busy lifestyle. Sorry to say, but if it's not what you want in life..having to change your schedule to suit his, to do everything he wants to do all the time, if you're feeling neglected but trying to reason with yourself that 'yes he is very busy'...bottom line is You're Not Happy* ...You've already said you want to live your own life..so Live it Girl*....sit down and talk with him, let him know you love him/care for him and always will, but unfortunately your life is slipping by before your eyes..as you "follow or patiently wait for him to squeeze some quality time in." Let him know you can't live your life this way anymore, there are many things you want to explore....and accomplish...having FUN would be one of those* If he were to ask you, when was the last time you were truely happy?? What would your answer be??
So to answer your question..should we women accept this type of situation and what is the limit??...Some do, Some don't...You Dont Have to*~ Tis up to You and Only YOU can change the path you take in life*~
BEST WISHES TO YOU :) KEEP ON SMILIN*

Answer 3

Think about what you're asking.

You're asking if "we women" should accept this situation. And by "not accepting" your first reaction here would be to "complain about him." So you're asking if you should complain to him about you doing what he wants and changing your schedule after his.

Note that he doesn't "complain" to you about schedules and stuff. He just does what he does. You are choosing to change your schedule for him. You are choosing to do what he wants to do. You are free to do otherwise.

What I'm trying to say here is that complaining is not the answer. What you need to do is express your love, but do things you want to do. If you have something scheduled, don't change it. Tell him that you have to do what you have scheduled and you want him to come. If he can't come, then do it without him.

If you start complaining to him that he should work less and not go to school, then you're putting him in a no-win situation. If you have a job, you have to show up for work and if you go to school you have to show up for class. How is complaining going to change that?

Answer 4

I think you should tell him that if you are not important enough for him to make time for than the relationship needs to end.

It is as simple as that. There is no reason that he cannot make some time for you. Everyone has a million things going on at once and not matter how hard you try, you cannot make them go away. He needs to fit you in or you need to move on.

You can complain all you want, but you also have to put your foot down and make a difference too.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

i'm waiting for the punchline.... ....in any case, to reply to your question. Be busy with them. they are noticing you and your company for a reason, per chance they imagine you're lovable. See in the experience that they desire help around the homestead or backyard paintings carried out or something. See in the experience that they desire to rearrange a fund raiser for the church with you. of route they are drawn to you yet thoroughly became off that you're the type of busy body. Being busy with them might want to educate compassion and interest and get you time with the girls with out seeming like a womanizer. Plus, it would save issues as ideal as you want to.

Answer 6

you need not to complain any more. as you said he loves u a lot. also i think that he is too busy to make u pleased.so better co-operate him & tell him that u r all alone in his absence, tell him to spare a little moment to listen or understand ur feeling. don't complaint anywhere else if u too love him.

Answer 7

You shouldn`t have to only conform to his schedule. You should find some hobbies to keep you busy. If you jump every time he asks you to make changes for him, he`ll eventually expect it of you, & you never know, you might expect it of yourself. Break that habit now & make him come to you.

Answer 8

First, idon't know if he's your husband or boyfriend but you need to talk to him if he's your husband i know you should already have the relationship to talk things out so dont stress over it too much just let him know you not comfortable with how things are.

Answer 9

yup, complain when its hurts, I started dating my BF and the 2nd date he cancelled to go with his friends, and I told him there that it hurt me. and as clueless as guys are he said I didnt think it would hurt you? and he has never cancelled again

Answer 10

When your getting dicked by another man the relationship is over and you can start complainin.
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