why military men can't keep good women?

Answer 1

It's takes a good military man to keep a good women-most good women don't hang around at bars right off base, so it's probably hard for good military men to meet good women in the first place. If by chance a good military man finds a good woman, time will tell if she's really a good woman or not. And if she cheats or he cheats or he doesn't make a effort when he can, then I guess neither one was truely a "good" man or woman.

Answer 2

Are you talking about 1) the state of marriages involving a traditional military man married to a trailing spouse or 2) the issue of retention of female military personnel?

In response to the first - off the bat, the question implies that most military marriages founder or are not good, which is a gross generalization refuted by some of the other posters.

But in any case, military marriages are subject to a lot of unique stresses. There is often long stretches of separation/time away from the family depending on postings and deployments. Families will move from place to place every few years based on the military personnel's assigned postings. Most recently, the extension of tours of duty and stop-loss orders have put a lot of strain on families, emotionally and financially, and for reservists who had a regular job or business, such extension of tours may negatively impact their civilian jobs. So you have seen an increase in broken marriages in the wake of the Iraq war.

In answer to the second - the problem of retaining experienced military personnel (many resign their commissions or decline to reenlist) is a problem, and much of it has to do with the strains of constant redeployment and the stress it does on the family. This is true for both male and female personnel.

Answer 3

I was in the service for 25 years. I dated military women almost exclusively. Civilian women present security risks. Overseas, while some "dated" locals, I didn't and cautioned men in my command against doing so. Also, as an officer most of that time, I dated officers. They are generally intelligent, well educated, and articulate. They also are generally fit and well-groomed. I believe that every good-looking female in the service gets stationed at the Pentagon at one time in their career. They are enjoyable company and it's a pleasure to have such a person on your arm. I guess I'm weird, but my primary concern wasn't a romp in the sack. Did I prefer military women? I think it was a little of that. I think part of it was that they were easy to run into. They also shared similar interests with me. Besides, the military has pretty much weeded out the losers -- they didn't make the cut. So we're talking about a known quantity who is intelligent, in good shape, attractive, and with whom I could speak as an equal. The couple of civilians I dated only wanted a husband. While I'm sure there are some intelligent, fit, attractive civilian women in the US, I wasn't really interested in wading through the morass hunting for them.

Answer 4

I am a good woman but unfortunately my relationship with my ex did not work out. i was dating him for 3 yrs moved to germany to be with him while he was stationed there. He went to iraq came back and starting drinking more etc. Its not that they can't keep a good woman but sometimes they just mess up like we all do in life don't judge military men all the same there are good ones and bad ones. I look on it now as a positive thing and know in my heart i am a good woman a strong woman that it ready for anything. There are military guys who have loving relationships for yrs because they have set a bond in place. I also know marriages that fail because they wanted the benefits such as a house, more money etc but don't judge all because you may have been hurt by one. Learn from this and stay away from military guys if they are not right for you.

Answer 5

Military men and women though they live a different way of life, are no more or less prone to divorce than the civilian population,My husband and I both served in the Navy,he spent 20 years,and we have been happily married for 29.

Answer 6

I don't know what happen to you but it sounds like your hurt. but all i know in order to be a good women i make shore that i take care of my husband who was in the Marine corp i have been with him for 9yrs and by the way he is a policemen and not all Law enforcement are all the same and plus I am very happy with him. Have you ask your self Why can i keep a military men?

Answer 7

Every situation is different...and not ALL women are the same. God I'm tired of some women making all others look so bad. Maybe the one's some of the military guys are choosing are not strong enough to handle what they are going through and are just selfish. Either way, she was not worth it, and remember there ARE good women out there!

Answer 8

Good women never join military men.

Answer 9

Maybe it is because there are not any women good enough to endure the hardships of what it takes to marry a soldier. There are Military Marriages that do last. They are really a lot. you can see them driving around the country in their RV's being happy. To be honest it is a hard thing for both male and females to stay in this kind of relationship. Remember that there women soldiers that have to go away too.

Answer 10

I take exception to that!

I am aware of many career military members that have had no difficulty maintaining a decent home life and a loving relationship.

Of course we have generated some high profile cases, but I assure you they are indeed the exception