Christians, What should I do if I'm trying to witness to a non-believer...?

Question

like, I have a friend who is a non-believer...I'm trying to witness to her but I don't want to smother her with questions entirely about God and church.

Okay caretaker, thank you for your encouragement, It was very helpful.

Answer 1

Witnessing doesn't mean smothering. Be a real friend but don't stop being a Christian either.

Go out to to dinner for a meal together and pray before your meal (as you should be doing everywhere...even at work)

Model Christianity for her. The more she knows you and your problems and watches you act Godly in the tough problems of life the more she will see Christ.

Make sure you are acting Godly! You shouldn't be a gossip, backbiter and you should be a hard worker even when no one is watching... knowing that Christ calls you to this...and he is always watching.

Answer 2

As a nonbeliever myself, I can tell you very little, but there is one thing I can say with confidence: Be a friend. I know, a shock. "How am I to convert the masses, then? I cannot become friends with ten thousand people!" Nor can you convert ten thousand people, unless "conversion" is to mean nothing more than a checkbox on a census form - and to do that much would require an army and destruction of all human rights. Listen: just this past week, waiting at the bus stop going home, an earnest young man came up, shook my hand, and jumped into his evangelism story. He spoke with passion, however he lacked in originality and eloquence - it was clear how important it was to him that we be Saved. I thanked him for his generosity when he finished. And when he left, he had done no more than convince me that he was yet another fool prattling on about a topic on which he knew nothing. Do not make your witnessing mere street salesmanship. I have no patience for buskers selling goods I don't want. Be ye perfect, as you believe your Father which is in heaven is perfect, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good for them that hate you, and everyone that knows you will see, and wonder. Be ye a hawker of ill-defined goods, and none will attend to the slightest thing you say.

Answer 3

Tell her all you want.
When you start trying to convince her to 'come across', remember, forcing someone to 'join', to 'believe' is a sin.
You might think nothing of it now, you might pass it off as helping her to make the choice, but it's still force.
And it's still a sin, and no matter how many redeemers there might be, that sin doesn't wash away.
It's the black mark against your name come Judgement, and it's the one straw that could break the camel's back...
Forget her 'immortal soul' for a minute, and think of your own. The slightest coercion on your part pushes you down that slippery slope...
Be very careful How you witness.

Isn't Christianity beastly? Using fear tactics when all you want to do is share an interest? It's a horrid religion, it really is. She's probably happier and better off without it and the burdens it brings.
But it's your decision.
Only you can introduce her to the idea of Hell, and only through your witnessing can she then go there.
Up until then she can't, because she doesn't believe.
Heaven and Hell are only for believers.
Will you do that to her?
Damn her, potentially, for eternity?
I wouldn't want it on my conscience.

Answer 4

What is wrong with you people? You can not stand it when people like me (non-believers) pick apart your religion, but then you have no problems with trying to force yourselves on others. Keep to yourself and let her be. You can not be a friend at all if you think that you have to change her life to follow your morals and beliefs. Let her have her own morals and beliefs. People like you are the reason we have problems on the planet, you think that your beliefs and morals are the best and feel you have the right to force them down everyone else's throat. Why can you not follow the teachings of your Jesus Christ (that fictional character), who supposedly stated to treat others as you would want to be treated, and to respect each other. What do you think gives you the right to push yourself on your friend? If your friend is lucky you will not be friends for too much longer considering how you are.

Answer 5

If you really want to "witness" to her, be a living example of what a good Christian is and how they conduct themselves in their everyday lives.

Don't hammer her with questions, preach to her, quote scripture ad nauseum, point out where she's going wrong--- or do any of the other things many people who choose to "witness" to others do.

You're not doing Christ any favors when you do that because it turns off a lot of very nice people -- who potentially would have made very good Christians --- completely to the faith.

They can't help but think to themselves, "If what SHE'S doing to me right now is going to be required of ME to be considered a Christian -- I don't want to do that. I'm not interested."

Answer 6

I can answer this in one word....don't.

I am a "non-believer" and the last thing I want is to have a friend, or anyone for that matter, getting all preachy with me and trying to convert me to their belief system. If my friend started acting like that, I would decently tell her I am not interested. Hopefully, she would then leave it alone. However, if she became a pain about it, I would have to rethink this friendship and maybe leave it.

Do your friend a favor and just be her friend and leave religion out of it.

Answer 7

1 Peter 3:14-16
14But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. "Do not fear what they fear[a]; do not be frightened."[b] 15But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, 16keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.

Answer 8

One thing I have learned in witness is make sure it is of God. Cause we sure dont want to smother them. Keep praying to God about this friend and tell him how you want to see this friend saved and how is best way and best words to use. Ask God to use you to witness to this friend, and when the time is right God will lead you to witness to her in the right way. God bless you.

Answer 9

Even in Ministry, I don't like preaching hell fire and damnation because that will drive so many away. I show them love and help where I can just as Jesus went about doing and in so doing the Holy Spirit will open a door or window of opportunity for sharing his love and message of salvation but the timing has to be God's not man's or man's ego. God Bless.

Answer 10

PRAY BEFORE YOU WITNESS TO HER.INVITE HER TO YOUR CHURCH OR BIBLE STUDY.
Exhort to prayer
1Tm:2:1: I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men;
1Tm:2:2: For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.
1Tm:2:3: For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;
1Tm:2:4: Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.
1Tm:2:5: For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;
1Tm:2:6: Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.
1Tm:2:7: Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and verity.
1Tm:2:8: I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
GOD IS LOVE