my 16 years old son might be a dad, how do i get custody?

Question

the girl is 18 and a problem child drugs ect. her mother has gave her up more than i can count they have no money and she has moved to wi from ky. i have started dna testing but if it is my sons i want custody so the baby will have a good life how do i do that

Answer 1

I am a legal secretary and let me start of by saying that years ago mothers usually regained custody but today it is more in the best interest of the child. I have seen more children awarded to the father or grand parents than the mother than I have in the ten years prior.

Now... hire a very good domestic attorney. Someone that has done most of their legal work in this field. I am not going to tell you it will be an easy battle, but is the mother is a drug user, and you have documentation of this you will have the upper hand. Make a paper trail of everything, if she has been arrested, make notes of that, some records or public, and you can get them from the clerk of court's office that has jurisdiction of where the arrest was made. The fact of what her mother did will not affect what the mother of the child will do. If she straightens out her life, has a job and takes responsibility, then the court will more than likely give you and your son visitation, and she will regain custody. BUT, your son is 16, still a legal minor, and she is 18.... that my dear is statutory rape, indecent behavior with a juvenile, and criminal. Let me reiterate... Hire a very good attorney.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well if the girl is still doing drugs it'll show up in the baby at birth and then you really need to consider if a drug addicted baby is something you want to deal with? They can need a lot of medical attention and can be a lot more work then a child born without these problems. Second If the child is born with drugs in it's system then Family and children services usually steps in and takes the child. You then can notify them you are the blood relative and wish to take the child. They can then help you. If the child has no drugs in it's system and the mother doesn't want it go to the courts and apply for custody. If she is not willing to give the child up get a lawyer you may need to prove her dependence on drugs and lack of a stable home basically that she is unfit to have this child. Good luck and maybe this scare with your 16 yr old son will teach him about protection.

Answer 3

I feel for you. All of this isn't going to be easy, & worst yet is the time & money you'll be spending on courts.My son became a father at 17. He is now 26. I have the best grandaughter ever. It wasn't easy on him or me. He was in high school ,worked part-time. And had a baby on the way. First the mother will have most of the rights ,if not all. If you can prove drugs you have a good chance. Let me tell you though girls as you know change their minds alot. If she doesn't want the baby ,you have a good chance. Why do you want custody & not your son?? It will look better in court if your son goes for "full sole custody". with you backing him up.I know he's young you might not think he's ready (their not) but HE'S the dad. This child needs to know that , his life will change alot make him "take care" feedings, bathing everything!!!!!!. with you as a on looker gudieing him, not doing it yourself he'll make mistakes but he'll learn. Keep doing what your doing it will have to be all through the courts.If you do find that this baby is his.....You need a lawyer!! Fight for baby. Good Luck..

Answer 4

How about instead of fighting her for custody take on her and the child help her get on the right track move them in and have both of the parents get a job and help them raise the baby. Now if she doesn't want the baby and is willing to give you the child without a fight then so be it but don't try to rip this child away from his mother without giving her the opportunity to get on the right track. If all else fails and you have to take the child all you probably have to do is call child protective custody. I hope this advice helps and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 5

If the DNA test proves your son is the father, you would have to petition the courts for custody. Keep in mind that the courts RARELY award custody to someone other than the mother. You will be on the losing end of the battle, but if you believe it is worth the effort then God Bless you and good luck.

Answer 6

I assume you live in one of the states where adult females can have sex with a minor with immunity? You might want to tell your son that the #1 form of cancer males will get between ages 15 and 35 is testicle cancer, with the highest rates in males who were sexually active as teenagers. The infected testicle(s) get cut off, but only if caught early. If cause late, the migrates to the brain and lungs. You slowly go insane as it eats your brain, while you slowly brown in your own body's fluids. It's not a STD, just one of the cancer viruses we all carry, but are immune to. Sex at too young an age reduces that immunity.

That said, whether you have standing in the court will depend on your state's laws. Do some research into what they are, Start collecting evidence. Keep a daily diary of everything you can PROVE. Cut out the title of top story from your local newspaper and paste it on the page of the diary for each day you make an entry. What it comes down to, you may need to help you son get custody. Go to the link below and download the manual from the file section. It can help you.

Answer 7

It is going to be difficult. you would have to get child services involved. you have to prove that the mother is unfit to raise the baby. and even then they may not give custody to you. They may try to help her by sending her to parenting classes and maybe rehab. it may be a long road ahead especially dealing with two different states and two different sets of laws. but if she is unfit in some way you have to get whats going on , on the record. A judge in not going to take her child away just because YOU say the mother is unfit to raise the child. but if she truely is, hang in there. It may take a while, and even if you don't get custody of the baby, maybe you will scare her straight. I hope it all works out.

Answer 8

I would first suggest GOING VEGAN and such , eating a healthy plant based diet and be ready to help the child in that way.

Don't make it a CUSTODY BATTLE, it would be better for YOU (your family and the new born) if instead of court battles you are SIMPLY THERE FOR SUPPORT. It sounds like you want to help so extend your hand to that degree, show the woman(18er) and your son(16er) this note if you think it will help, meaning show them that there is an understanding for the babies WELL BEING and we do not need to make more or less of it than necessary, there is already TOO MUCH JERRY SPRINGER STUFF going on, you know?? I mean just be "cool" about this and you and your ENTIRE family will be able to enjoy a much more fruitful life full of family reunions and such as to say.

HOPE it works out for you and your family.
EMBRACE THE NEWBORN

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Answer 9

WELL IF WHAT YOU ARE SAYING ABOUT HER BEING A PROBLEM YOU BETTER GET A LAWYER NOW BECAUSE IF YOU DONT DSS WILL HAVE CUSTODY AND YOU MAY NEVER SEE THAT BABY. MY MOM DOES THIS AND SHE GETS CHILDREN FROM ALL CONDITIONS. CONTACT SOME ONE AT THE SITE BELOW FOR MORE HELP. TRY TO GET THE MOM SOME HELP BECAUSE SHE NEEDS TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF BECAUSE SHE IS NO LONGER 1 BUT 2. GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 10

You would need to get a lawyer and present your case infront of a judge and show proof she is a unfit mother and unable to take care of the baby it all comes down to the judge and who he sees fit to raise this child. If this child is your sons he needs to step up and take responisiblity for this child and raise the child.