My boy frien just reciently asked me to mary him but the thing is , is that I'm 14 and he is 15 but I turn 15 this year and he turns 16 this year. So I am asking what do you think?
2007-04-20 02:40:14 · 43 answers · asked by ***i_l0ve_j0eY*** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I understand that you love him and you want to be with him, but 14 /15 is just too young. if he really loves you he can wait for you. and the same goes for you. neither one of you are able to work and take care of a household. I feel like this, you should not get married until you can live outside of your parents house and take care of yourselves. if you get married and you still have to live at home and have your parents take care of you then you are not ready. do yourself a favor, WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-20 02:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by klpn306 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, 14 is just kids!!!
The mind matures only after facing the realities of life. Stuff like running a family, responsibility, sacrifice, compromise...these things are virtually unheard of and thoroughly misunderstood before maturity.
I suggest you wait. If you get married at 15 you will have children almost daily and you know what that can do to your life. Live the life, smell the flowers, breathe the fresh air, study, learn, travel, meet more people, find out who you are and your purpose in life, how you stand in society....once you get to stand properly on your own feet....get married!
That usually takes an average person 25 or more years!!!
No fun in eating the cake before it's baked, right?! Good luck!!!
2007-04-20 02:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cyrene J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait.As you grow older you will be more mature and your tastes will change. I just got married and i look back at some of my high school boy friends and wonder what i was thinking.
Another thing is that marriage is alot of responsibility and keep in mind that when you get married you promise to stay with that person for the rest of your life. Get mar4ried when your older and truly ready, date around first and see what is out there.
Hope this helps.,
2007-04-20 04:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going with promise ring on this one as well. It is still a romantic commitment without the legal stuff.
I thought I was absolutely in love with my boyfriend I had when I was 15. And sure at that moment...it may have been love. But, not REAL love.
We lasted for 3 years. Actually pretty long going by normal teenage standards. But, as usually happens, we wanted different things in life and grew apart.
If you and your boyfriend are the "real" thing, then waiting for a few more years will not make a big difference.
Good luck!
2007-04-20 02:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by lorelei.siren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I'm 25 and if I married the first guy who asked when I was 14 I would probably be living in a trailer. Just enjoy the time you have with him, marriage is very serious and trying. There's no point in rushing you both have some growing up to do and you need to experience life. Ccollege is a great place to do just that. Most scholorships won't all you to apply if you are married either.
2007-04-20 02:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not just NO.... HELL NO! I got married @18 and I feel that is too young. We had kids right away and never got a chance to be 'kids' ourselves. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids... I just wish I had waited awhile to get married and start a family. Have fun.... pal with your friends... join a club... enjoy things now! When you get married- all that changes. There is laundry to do, beds to make, meals to cook and since there are bills to pay and they NEED to come FIRST... you may not have money left over to go to the mall, see a movie, order pizza or just go hang out with your friends! It sounds all romantic to be talking about 'marriage' and a 'wedding' and life forever- but girlie... Life isn't always a bowl of cherries and you both are way too young to be SERIOUS about all this. Oh- you can say yes... and all that. But then when you both GROW UP.... oops- too late then. Take your time honey- enjoy life and if he loves you and you him things will work out and that will give you both time to really KNOW if what you have is TRUE LOVE or just a teenage crush!
2007-04-20 04:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by pandy37050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking don't. You are only 14/15. You life has only just begun. Besides I'm pretty sure before you finish high school you two will have long broken up and you will have had a few other boyfriends. By wanting to settle for this guy at 14, you will be giving up that opprotunity.
2007-04-20 02:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by chataohoyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep that notion in the back of your minds that is just fine. I would not however just jump into it so soon. There are a lot of things that will happen for both of you and some of that will change who you are and who you become. I'll tell you what, like I said, go ahead and keep it in the back of your mind, and when you turn 20 if you are still together then you know you've got something to go on. And that, keep in mind, is still pretty young to get married.
2007-04-20 02:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Bakken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe a promise ring would be more appropriate. I know how it is to be so young and in love and it sucks but honestly you should not be making promises that you don't know you can keep. You've got a lot of changeing to do before it is actually time to get married and you don't know how you are going to feel when it gets here. You may change your mind but if you've already promised to marry him and you are engaged it will be hard to get out of. Especially if you've been together for a long time. You will probably change your mind 50 times before the time comes so don't make any promises so soon in your life. But stick together and see what happens
2007-04-20 02:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by not telling you!!! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait till you are adults at least and you have finished school etc. If you are sure about your love, it will last until then. If it doesn't, it's better to know before you get married. If you get married now, chances are you will feel like you missed your youth in 10-15 years from now, and you'll blame each other for that.
2007-04-20 02:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋