his dad had joint custody of him until a few months ago - now he comes on tues and thurs and every other weekend. the whole time he is in our care he cries. he wakes up at 5 am and wants to watch tv and play video games and eat snacks - he says his mom lets him. he wont eat supper all he wants is icecream and chips and cookies - if we make him eat he makes himself throwup - sometimes all over the table. he wont interact with any of the family he just wants to sit in a daze in front of the tv - the other day the other kids were calling for him to come and play and he completely ignored them so i went in the room to tell him the other kids wanted him to play and he started crying hysterically and said all he wants to do is watch tv and that we are mean. noone is mean to him we try everything to get him to interact with us as a family and he wont. he never acted like this until he went to live with his mother full time. he also has a sis who is 10 and she is an angel i could go on & on
2007-04-20 02:16:54 · 4 answers · asked by anitaeric2004 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He is trying to get attention. Think of the situation he is in. A few days per week and every other weekend he has to leave and go live somewhere else. Not that your home is a bad place, but when people usually think about home, they think about a safe place, right. Where is his safe place, where he feels like he belongs? He has two homes and can't settle down in either one. And now it's all changing again. More time at mom's, less time with dad, but still no place to settle. All children handle divorce and custody battles differently.
When our parents did it, I stayed to good, always helpful girl, while my sister went on the rebellious side, purposely choosing bad friends, getting in trouble, and eventually, getting into drugs and running away.
That doesn't mean he will do the same thing, but he probably needs to know that he can feel at home when he is there. He still needs to follow the rules of the house, but maybe it wouldn't hurt to let him do some of the things he wants until he gets more comfortable with the new situation.
At the same time, 7 is an age where children start to exert their independence. They start wanting to make their own choices and start to act out a little more to see where the boundaries are. No doubt this plays into the situation as well.
Love and patience will be your best tools. Good Luck!
2007-04-20 02:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is very upset about the division of his parents and is taking it Hard.Try going to places like a Put Put or other places Chuck R Cheese's etc... so he can interact with others.Bring his sister at times and others alone so he learns how to separate.GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-20 09:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by redwingnut16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs counseling since it seems he is incapable of dealing with his feelings over this situation. Don't think this will go away, get him some help now.
2007-04-20 09:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to get this child some professional help. He is obviously in emotional pain for some reason.
2007-04-20 09:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Elaura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋