I fell in love with a colleague of mine, & just recently found out that the feeling was mutual. We've shared a few passionate kisses and loads of hugs, but there's been no sex yet. B4 we started dating, he was very friendly with another female colleague of ours. I'd always feared that he likes her more than he does me, cos she's so feminine & nice & cos i see him going out of his way to relate with her (while it seems to me that he responds to me rather than initiates intimacy - i've mentioned the latter part to him & he said that's because he's very shy). The problem is that whenever i see them together, i freak out. I just grow cold & move away from them. The lady in question is also my friend, but she doesn't know that there's anything btw this guy & i. I feel terrible, cos i think my man has noticed that i act that way, possibly the lady has noticed too. Another friend of mine advised that i talk to him abt it, & tell him i was uncomfortable with seeing the two of them together.
2007-04-20 01:38:07 · 7 answers · asked by Hmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem like you may be insecure..and have low self esteem about yourself. You need to stop that or you'll lose this love of yours. It's quite petty* to say "oh you pay more attention to her in affectionate ways...or I think you like her more than you do me...(you've noticed shes feminine,nice, outgoing perhaps)...are you jealous of that?? Perhaps get a few books in the library about self esteem and build yourself up* Have confidence in yourself,..HE will Notice that good quality more so than how you've been acting lately. He's with you, sharing passionate kisses and loads of hugs with you..you may not have had sex yet...but why is that so bad?? PPL Dont have to RUSH into "sex".....if you have a strong bond between the two of you , the 'sex' will follow. Perhaps he's a proper gentleman and isn't just looking for a quick roll in the sack...you should be greatful*
Smarten up with how you're acting like a lil child...and get those books from the library* Best Wishes*
2007-04-20 01:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't this female colleague know you two are seeing each other? Is is supposed to be a secret? I think you are feeling very insecure and he isn't giving you the reinforcement that you need to know where you really stand with him. Talk is always good. keeping things inside of you is not. Talk, but also realize that he may not feel the same way you do and may not want to talk about he and this other person. In that case, just proceed in the relationship with caution. But don't let your "jealousy" ruin what could be a good thing. Time will tell what is really going on. Good luck
2007-04-20 08:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by dana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to both of them about it. Have you and this man agreed to have an exclusive relationship or just dating? There is a big difference...if just dating then both of you could be dating around.
If that is the case, it is sad that it is with someone you work with who is a friend.
So talk to them both...your girlfriend first as they just might be friends and she will tell you what is going on. That way when you talk to him if they are just friends, you won't make a jerk out of yourself.
be cool...
2007-04-20 08:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is expected. If it is obvious they r pushing, then leave them alone to push. look for some other guy, do not allow yourself to be used as a substitute just because u refuse to admit the fact that the guy doesnt love u.
2007-04-20 09:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Toon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because you really love the guy and you don't want to loose him to another girl. You should talk to him about it.
2007-04-20 08:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyfarts6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt too shy if he goes out of his way to be with the other girl.. maybe you should put on the brakes for now.
2007-04-20 09:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy...Try to build up your self-confidence
2007-04-20 08:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kelynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋