I just try to present myself as polite,kind and friendly. I always wondered why people never really liked me that much right away, until after they get to know me. If I am REAL with them right off they see that as low class or tacky, so why is it that you can talk about the same things after you really know someone? Do people want the truth or only half at first?
2007-04-20 01:32:19 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's a tricky one. The best thing is to always be yourself. From what you say its hard to see why people think your shallow. It is natural not to immediately confide in others that's why often people will have a few close friends that they do confide in. let people see the real you, that doesn't mean you have to get personal right away, just be your normal nice polite self and let relationships grow naturally. Good luck I'm sure people do like you.
2007-04-20 01:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brownsuger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While revealing private info right off the bat is rather off putting to most people, I don't see why being polite, kind, and friendly would mark a person as shallow. Usually someone is considered shallow if their topics of conversation are superficial or if they talk too much about themselves as opposed to being a good listener. Maybe you should ask your friends what it is they like about you and try to present these qualities to everyone. For example, if your friends enjoy your interesting views on things from 18th century literature to contemporary fashion design, there's no reason you can't share these opinions with the rest of the world and let them see the real you.
And yeah, most people only want half the truth at first. Think about it: if someone you just met started telling you about their suicidal thoughts, drug problem, family issues, or lame boyfriend, you'd probably want to distance yourself a bit!
2007-04-20 02:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Flamekat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break. You're not as shallow as I am. Here I am answering questions on Yahoo at 5:30 in the morning. I gotta get a life. Maybe a dog. If I get really desperate, I might get a girlfriend.
Rex
2007-04-20 01:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the group of people that you are thying to fit into has established certain"unwritten rules" that they live by. However, you don't have to live by these if they don't match your personality. Even if the status quo rejects you for who you are, there can also be others around you who do not "go with the flow" so blindly, whom you can preferably frequent.
2007-04-20 02:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by TPCAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like these "people" are the shallow ones.
2007-04-20 01:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by being "REAL". Do you mean vulgar or inappropriate? That's never good. If you mean that you are simply sharing your true feelings and opinions, there's no problem.
2007-04-21 18:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont focus on trying to impressing them. Be youself. If they do not like you for who you are then find someone else. Not everyone has to like you.
2007-04-20 01:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Chica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋