My uncle neglects me in front of his friends because im FAT!?

Question

i want to know how to deal with this?

My unle neglects me in public places because i'm fat and i guess not presentable for his friends. I pay him no mind but it bothers me because he is my uncle. We he comes to my house he comes to see my younger brothers but he wont bother to come say hi to me. Yesterday he came to my house and since i was the only one there he just sat and watched tv for a little bit and left without saying bye he just poked me in my stomach to show how disturbing my fat is.. or is getting... He always makes fun of me and calls me names. I try to not pay him any mind but it hurts is coming out his mouth out of all people. I'll be alright and i don't need him... but how do i get over being hurt? how do i cope with it now?

Ive told him to stop plenty of times he doesn't listen. my mom doesnt care cause she approves of what he do.. and no one else in my family cares.. im the only fat one.

Answer 1

You really should tell him how you feel.

But I must mention that if you don't want this feeling of people treating you differently because you are overweight you have to get into shape. Sorry to be so direct but society can be so mean and you will for the rest of your life get comments and looks. So if you don't want to deal with this get into a healthy lifestyle NOW! Do something about it, only you can make you happy. Start exercising or playing sports and eating healthier, you will be so happy and proud of yourself.

Answer 2

Well, obeisity has become a serious problem in this country, and I think a big reason is because it is no longer stigmatized like it used to be. There was a time years ago where it was unacceptable to be overweight, and the only clothes you could get over a certain size were moo-moos. Now, they make designer clothes in bigger sizes and tell overweight people that it's ok, and that they're beautiful in their own way, which is just a lie. Maybe your family is trying to motivate you to lose weight, because you don't seem to want to do it on your own. Maybe you should start eating better, and you'll look and feel better about yourself. It will also give you the satisfaction of rubbing your uncle's nose in it when you do slim down.

Answer 3

Two aspects here, firstly why is your uncle and his friends coming to your house and insulting you??. If it's your house, as you say, tell them to f...off and don't dare come back until they can show appropriate manners in a host's house. It's your house and no-one can come into your house and abuse you, that is classed as assault. Secondly, if you are genuinely overweight you should do something about it for your own good, for your own pleasure and pride, make yourself feel prettier and healthier, you don't say if your problem with weight is overeating, but when you go shopping, there a many products that taste the same but have varying degrees of fat content, usually a difference of somewhere between 0 and about 20%, a big difference, Check the fat content, use 99%fat free skim milk, don't put butter or margarine on your sandwich, you'll get used to it and after awhile you will dislike the taste of fat in your milk or spreads. Grill your meat, strain the fat out of your mince, eat lots of veges and fruit, but as I said, everything you buy, check the fat content, you'll be surprised the difference between products that seem the same, it's really easy to eat healthy meals. Good Luck

Answer 4

Sounds like you uncle is an SOB. Why should he worry about the way you look? He is your uncle. Not a prosprective date. Find a physical flaw on him and make fun of that and see how he likes them apples. If he is short, then make fun of that. Tell him, " I may be fat, but you are short and ugly. At least I can lose weight". Best of all, don't pay him any mind. Develop some thick skin. Don't hang with your uncle if you can.

If you want to lose the weight, don't do it for anyone but for yourself.

Answer 5

It's hard to deal with stuff like that. 'Best thing to do is to realize that he's being really rude and you shouldn't listen to what he says to you. You can get over being hurt by remembering that you're a good person and the inside counts more than the outside. Cope with it by just ignoring it or saying, "That's not nice. You shouldn't say stuff like that." Or turn things around on him, tell him, "I hate it when you do that to me. Why do you do that?" Stand there till he answers you. Stand up for yourself. He will never stop if you don't fight him off. Or tell your parents and have them to talk to him. I know that if I were your parents, I'd be really upset and would talk to the uncle about the way he is behaving. Separate yourself from him and keep your distance. Try to grow a strong self esteem and then when he calls you names or makes fun of you, you won't care for it because you know the truth about yourself. 'Hope I helped!

Answer 6

You need to sit down and have a talk with your uncle reminding him that he's your uncle and how it's bad enough to take criticism from others that are not related to you less known someone that is. You need to express to him your feelings on how bad this hurts you and how he should be more support to you than a hindrance and how his immaturity is worse than anything he could ever think of you. You just need to get the courage up execute it and keep your head up. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Honey, you can lose the weight but losing a bad personality (such as your uncle has) is much more difficult! Just remember that he is a bit of a loser to take people primarily on their looks, let alone be like that with his own family. Don't be down over such a tosser and basically just treat him with the contempt he treats you i.e ignore him. Also, think about having a word with your parent(s) about his attitude.

Answer 8

I'm sorry that your uncle treats you this way, and I think you should speak to him about it. Possibly he is showing his disapproval of you being overweight by ignoring you, but possibly he is ignoring you because you are a girl, and if you weren't overweight he would ignore you anyway. Deal with it by living the best life you can, you don't have to take on board every negative feeling sent your way by others. Good luck.

Answer 9

well sweety, be proud of who you are, nothing wrong being fat,to be honest with you, i talk to more fat girls an women ,than skinnie one, i find they more friendly,,nothing wrong in being skinnie , but he wrong ,in the way he doing you,,,,my self i a dad , a uncle, an a grand pa,,, got 6 kids liveing, ,an my oldest girl is , fat, but i love her just as much, the rest of the kids are skinnie, ,,it not what on the out side that count, but it what come in the in side,,,,wish i was closer by, i give you a hugs, an tell you, god made you the way he want you, so hold your head up,

Answer 10

He is uneducated and doesn't know any better.You don't get offended from people like that.Be strong and don't let it get to you.I am sure he has something bad looking himself.It could be thinning hair,big nose or bad teeth.I mean look at him and decide to pick on him .Give him a taste of his own medicine.I am sure he's gonna get it.