She is my sister, my best friend, I know all her secrets and she knows mine, but she took my man. I told her how much I love him, She knows i've never felt like this about anyone. He even confided in her as my sister of how much he loves me. The dude even spoke to her of how he'd never hurt me. Would I be wrong if I said I still love him, would I be wrong to wish that we could patch things about with my man, would I be wrong if I want to flaunt our "relationship in front of her. At the end of the day he's a man but she is my blood, my sister and she says she loves me.
2007-04-20 00:54:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you both need to get rid of him
2007-04-20 00:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,I am sorry that this happened.However,you are better off without him.You do not want a "boy"(Yes,he is a boy because a man would not behave in that manner) who is going to run off everytime a female bats her eyes at him.If he would do this to you,he would do it to your sister.Besides the fact,your sister shouldnt even be with him considering he hurt you.It honestly baffles me at how they can say they care about you(both of them) and then act so poorly.She isnt off the hook,and has alot to do before she actually grows up.You may argue and fight,but thats what sisters do.Men are going to come and go but your sister is going to be there.You both need to get rid of him,because he is only going to bounce back and forth between your sister and yourself.He isnt a man,and a poor excuse for a boy.Dont put yourself through this.You need to get up,Its a new day and get out there.Move on,but not until your over him.Avoid rebounds as they are only as i like to call them,"Temporary replacements".Basicly,you are looking for what you had with this particular fella and there really isnt "love" involved.Once you come to realisation with that,you will get hurt all over again,and not only you but youll hurt the other person involved. Be glad that this "boy" is out of your life.Right now it is very hard,and it isnt wrong to wish those things.We all do at those times especially when we love them and have such great feelings of them.However,over time you will begin to slowly get over him.It takes time,but time heals all.You arent wrong for still loving him,as just because someone hurts does,doesnt mean our heart stops feeling for them.Love is an emotion you cannot turn on and off.As a matter of fact you cant turn any emotion on and off.Just be strong,hold you held high and get out there.Go and do something you always wanted to do but never got the chance.This is something i tell many to do.What this does,is gives you the fulfillment of pride.You will be realizing that you can be self fulfilled rather than depending on the relationship for that.Good luck hun,and have a good day!!
2007-04-20 08:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what a mess that sounds like. Your sister should be horse whipped, no really, that's so wrong what she did to you. The guy, well he is a wanker and not worth a second thought from you. Throw him in the trashcan along with your memories of him. Hun, he is a heap of worm poo, nothing more, nothing less. Tell your sister you're mortified about what she did to you. Ask her why she stole him from you, and anyway, he isn't a baby, he new what he was doing. Tell your sister to dump him now or she looses you as a sister forever!
2007-04-20 08:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Purity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Although you feel hurt, there are ALWAYS two people in a relationship. What you felt for him, he obviously didn't feel for you. Move on and be glad you did. If he said that he would never hurt you, but did anyway, imagine how your sister will feel in a month, a year or whenever, when he does the exact same thing to her?
2007-04-20 07:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have really strong feelings for him but the fact is he's gone off with your sister! I think you should both dump him and find someone who deserves you. If she won't dump him you could tell her that you love her cos she's your sister, but that she'd really hurt and betrayed you. It would be really big of you. I think the feelings you have are natural because of what's happened but the best revenge would to be find someone else. As for the guy, What an a**hole!!
2007-04-20 08:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why even bother? you sound so young and there are so many opportunities out there. both of you should dump him and move on. men will come and go but sister's are forever. my sister and i are best friends, it's always been just the two of us, and we would never let a man come between us. but that's exactly what's going to happen to you two if you both don't open your eyes. don't ever doubt that there are alterior motives when a man is involved. he's playing both of you!
2007-04-20 08:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by danili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in the wrong by doing that to you, but you shouldn't want him back,. If he would do something like that to hurt you and damage you and your sis' relationship he's an asshole. Have a talk with her and let her know how hurt you are and maybe she'll realize he's a jerk for hurting you, and you both need to kick him to the curb! Family's first...
2007-04-20 08:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Molly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rules of life.
'Thou shalt not nick thy sisters hunk'
Your sister doesn't deserve you.
Tell her you never want anything to do with her ever again.
It's for the best.
You should NEVER date your sister's dude, it's just plain wrong.
She clearly has no idea how much pain she could/has caused you.
Get rid.
Good luck
2007-04-20 07:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by SarcasticByNature 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of sanilty and family unity both of you sisters should give up this guy!! He is really not worth it!!
2007-04-20 08:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
errm cud it b that yo man didnt luv u at all coz if he did he wudnt have had to go out wit yoz sista.... mebbe he wanted yo sista and he cudnt get her since u was in luv with him and he had no option but to act like he did now that he knows u luv him he wud do anything to manipulate u and yo sis ..dump hiz ace.. both yall .he doesnt deserve any one of u
2007-04-20 08:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by viola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's not a very nice guy.Ditch him.You know he's playing yuo off against each other.Don't even consider having him back.Blood is thicker than water.
2007-04-20 08:02:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋