I got a problem at workplace. Please help me....?

Question

I have a work colleague who treat me like crap for no reason that I can figure out. He wouldn't want to return my "good morning' neither does he want to talk to me or even look at me. I am deeply hurt coz I cannot figure out how one human being can treat another that way. We both are new to the workplace and have known each toher for two weeks. I can swear that i didn't do anything wrong to him. He works next to me so this situation creates so much stress to me. I am a sensitive kind and it hurts my feelings when people treat me like this. I cannot confront him and ask what his problem, coz he acts so arrogant towards me. - he is not from my cultural background, but I don't think that is his rpoblrm coz he gets along fine with other people with various cultural backgrounds. My English isn't very good but I communicate fairly well in English with other people, so it shouldn't be a problem either. What can I do? should I just keep being nice to him or ignore him completely, like he does.

Also I feel very embarrassed when I say good morning to him and he just ignore me in front of other people. He isn't a shy person either. I sometimes cry alone at home over this. One of the things that makes me so upset is when people treat me like crap.

Answer 1

You continue being you. Before long it will be evident to everyone else in your workplace that you are genuinely nice and he is a jerk. Give it time. Don't EVER let him know it bothers you! Just carry on as always and forget about his reaction (or non- reaction). Concentrate on your work- it will make you seem more professional. People say what they want to, but their actions prove who they are! If he's treating you bad then everyone will eventually see it and see what a jerk he's being!

Answer 2

you don;t say whether you are located in the U.S. I gather that since your English is kind of weak that you are from another country. I work for a major company and the fear that people have is that "foreigners" are taking their jobs. They think that people that are from other countries will work for far less than Americans. The best advice that I can give is to continue to be nice. Try not to let it hurt your feelings because this person is not nice, It is HIS problem not yours. Should he actually SAY or DO things to you then he should be reported because all companies in the U.S. must follow rules concerning harrassment that creates a hostile work environment. They also cannot retaliate if you file a complaint with human resources. He does have the right to ignore you so I would treat that person the same as he treats you . After a while it will get easier to ignore them or they will come around and start acting better

Answer 3

Continue to be nice.

If you are mean and nasty to him, then maybe other people will think you are the bad person.

Talk to your boss about it. Whatever you do, don't let your boss talk to him, but ask to move to a different desk further away.

He is ignoring and ignoring him could make the problem worse. If he can't get to you one way, he will get to you another. Maybe he will sabotage something, remove things from your desk, or make rude comments in meetings and so on.

Better to get rid of the problem as soon as possible.

But what you really want is for him to be friends. Maybe there is a chance to help him or do something for him, and things will change.

Work unfortunately often puts us together with people we don't like or who don't like us. The very least we must do is be polite and do our own best to make the work environment a good one.

Answer 4

Don't let a jerk like that hurt make you cry. Sound like he probably sees you as competition since you both are new. I think the best way to handle that situation is to ignore him. I am sure others in your area noticed how you went out of your way to be polite and he refuses to be polite in return. Just think of it this was, at least everyone else are polite and would speak.

Answer 5

From what you wrote, I can't understand why he is acting this way towards you. I suggest you ignore him the way he ignores you. Do to him exactly what he does to you. Don't greet him good morning and don't have eye contact with him. Keep as far away from him as possible. Whatever the problem I don't think it's your fault. He might be a bigot. Anyway, the way you described him, ...........he's not someone you want to be friends with. Stay away from him.

Answer 6

i have also been in such a situation before. you know what, normally people who behave like that are insecure about something and they normally feel threaten by you.

i will suggest that you confront that particular person, if the person does not give you answer to his behavour or does not put a stop to it the i will suggest that you report the matter to your superior.

if it still continues with that kind of behavior then, sweety ignore him and let him know your level. i really dont like people like that they make sick.

Answer 7

Keep being nice to him show him it doesnt bother you his lose not yours if it is getting to much speak to your boss let them know the situation or speak to him ask why hes being like that to you but you have only worked 2 gether for 2 weeks so give it time or maybe he is shy

Answer 8

ignore him. there are enough lousy people in the world, dont let some jerk effect your life, its not worth the trouble, there are so many more good people.if you want say hi or good morning to himm if he doesnt respond shrug it off, his loss not yours, you be the better person

Answer 9

You sound like a nice, polite person; so don't let the rude behaviour of others make you lower your standards. Stay true to yourself. It's his loss, not yours.

Answer 10

I really agree with all, those who answered your question befor me. I am realy impressed with the moral values of all these people. You will hardly find any better advice.