my 14 year old dorta is in a relationship with a 17 year old boy
i have herd him asking her for sex and she declining and one time she anserd not again i didnt like it last time
has she been raped?
shood i confront her?
Please Help
2007-04-20 00:20:39 · 14 answers · asked by Me! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does not sounds as though she has been raped, however I do think it is time to talk with her about sex, and what she knows about it.
She needs to know that you know. Yes it will probably start a fight, and she will be very angry.. but eventually she will realize that you were just interested in making sure she's safe and that you care about her.
I think it would have been easier if you had confonted her when you heard her decline the first time.. may have saved the unpleasant experience she had, and the headache you are currently going through
and from a legal perspective.. it is not rape, unless he was over 18 and/or she was not willing.
PS.. the reason it's not rape.. as long as she was willing.. is because they are both under 18. I know this because I had sex back in High school (we were both 16) and her parents tried to convict me of rape, but because she admitted to wanting it, and I didn;t force her, it was thrown out without a case.
2007-04-20 00:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an invasion. But bare with your mom and forgive her for being nosy. When she starts thinking about it, she'll realize that taking the phone isn't going to stop you from thinking about these issues, not talking about them. I'm proud that you layed in on the line with the guy and she will once she realizes that taking the phone won't change a thing. I think that talking to her about these concerns can help you both, so keep that in mind too. She'll come around, give her time to think it over, it'll all work out.
2016-04-01 10:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too young to understand the emotions attached with sex. She also may not understand about pregnancy and std's/aids. You should find out what is going on and have her checked for pregnancy and aids if you find that it is necessary. He can be charged for statutory rape as well. You should but an end to this relationship even if they haven't had sex, he is pressuring her into doing something she is not ready for. She needs friends closer to her own age.
2007-04-20 00:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am hoping this is a hoax question. It would be too gruesome to think that you are actually serious.
But just in case this is for real: Confront her? Confront her about what? You have stood by and watched her get into a "relationship" at her age, and now you're screaming bloody murder because she is being sexually taken advantage of? Where were you when she needed a parent to keep her safe and to teach her to make smart choices in life?
2007-04-20 00:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see right away that you have failed in your duty to teach and protect your daughter. It's time to tell her what you heard.
You must impress on her that if her boyfriend has to ask for sex, then he is a lousy lover and she should have nothing more to do with him. It is her body she should have control. Make sure that she undersands that sex is something that she needs to be ready for, not something to give up on demand.
I have made only one point here. There are many others and I could write a book for you. You have a lot of work to do.
2007-04-20 00:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is pressuring her for sex, you most definitely should confront her. She may be just to immature to know how to get out of the situation. I believe it is rape due to the fact she`s only 14.
2007-04-20 00:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her ASAP!! Get her some info on abusive relationships, possibly send him to jail for having sex w/ her, if she's 14, then she's underage (depending on the laws in your state!), you need to have an honest and hearfelt discussion, in a Non-Judgemental/Non-Confrontational way with her, make sure she knows you are asking her because you are CONCERNED, not going to "lecture her" or her "get in trouble"....
2007-04-20 00:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by PrettyMama982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT rape if they had sex if the boy is under 18. But if you and your daughter haven't had the birds/bees lecture yet, it may be too late! Don't be pushy but get the questions answered.
2007-04-20 00:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u know the dude, BEAT THE HELL OUT OF HIM!, it is call Statatory Rape if a Man or woman of legal age has sex with a man or woman that is younger than the person. report to the police and let them deal with the bastard, or u take care of it
2007-04-20 00:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have consented last time, but didn't like it. You can't be sure that she did it against her will. She is however underage, you need to talk to her and find out if they were careful last time. You need to tread softly on this one, she may not feel comfortable talking to you about it.
2007-04-20 00:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jenni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋