..your life?
I'm 23 and straight, and haven't still found someone I want to be with for the rest of my life. I'm tired of searching. And, I don't believe that he'll come when I stop searching, 'cos I'm not so lucky where love is concerned, and don't really believe in fairytales either.
2007-04-20 00:08:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 43 and divorced twice. The WORST thing you can do is force the issue. So what if you stay single a long time? Are you absolutely sure you need children right this minute? Cherish your freedom, and develop your career while there is nothing to hold it back.
2007-04-20 00:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club i am 37 and a single mother and nowdays alot of men don't want to marry even if a woman has no kids. I don't know what alot of these men want anymore. I have come to the conculsion that if its meant to be it will happen. If I end up single for the rest of my life that is fine. I keep busy, work full time go out with friends and enjoy life. If a good man comes along great if not I would rather be alone then with someone who makes me unhappy and I don't believe in dating just to have a man at my side.
2007-04-20 07:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, 23 is WAY too early to be giving up. If you expected to have found the love of your life by now, your expectations were extremely unrealistic. If you are judging that this is the cutoff age by the fact that a lot of people you know are getting married at or by this age, here's a reality check: most of them will end up divorced because they got married too hastily.
I'm also 23, and I realize that I may be single for most of my adult life (I'm not single now, but if my bf and I ever break up, who's to say I'll ever find another one who I am really interested in?). The key to having a happy life is not to pin your happiness to things you can't control. You can't force the love of your life to appear out of nowhere, so start focusing on things you can control, like your hobbies, family, friends, education, career, etc. If love and marriage are a part of your future, that's great, but if you decide right now that you're never going to be happy until you have the man of your dreams, you are going to spend a long time unhappy.
2007-04-20 07:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by IQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit feeling sorry for yourself and quit looking for Prince Charming to ride up on his white horse and all the church bells chiming when he arrives. Regretfully it doesn't happen like that.
There is an old country and western song which a man sings about a girl he neglected to take a second look at because he had his mind on some other quality. The song goes "I overlooked an orchid while searching for a rose, the orchid that I overlooked was you.".
Quit measuring every guy you meet for a tuxedo and just be ready to enjoy their company. You may find that the tuxedo won't quite fit the way you thought it should but that is the person you love, want to marry and the person who makes you happy.
2007-04-20 07:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop searching and start living. Open up your life and make yourself happy. What is wrong with being single for awhile? There is no rule that says you have to find someone and be with someone. There is no rule that you have to have relationships at all. Have fun, enjoy. The truth is, you could find someone settle down so you are no alone, and be so unhappy that you waste days, months, and years of your life settling; or you could take it one day at a time, and believe in yourself and someone will show up. It takes faith in who you are stand strong!
2007-04-20 07:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the being single thing and feel if I marry my freedom will be gone and there will be someone in my house trying to be my farther and I don't like the thought of that then I do want to have a child but really feel it comes in a package deal but bottom line is hey if I do then I will . if not then I can spend all my money on me and really enjoy life.
2007-04-20 07:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by cute as a button 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young to sound so jaded! I didn't find my perfect mate until I was 29. When I was about 27 I was so down in the dumps because I thought I was destined to be alone. So I just thought stuff it and went travelling. This is where I happened to meet the man who was to become my husband and father to my daughter! You are so young and have so much ahead of you. Make things happen for yourself, take chances and see where you end up. Trust me, you never know what is around the corner - no matter how far-fetched it seems!
2007-04-20 07:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a possibility that you remain single through out your life..
But, heck, what is your problem..? You are ONLY 23 and there's lots of years ahead of you when you will find the guy.. Don't go negative now.. Just wait.. Your turn is up next
2007-04-20 07:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was feeling the same way but you know what ieventually find somebody that i love and i know you will also fine somebody very soon. the person may be closer to you than you think. people met their partner at different places. Pls dont give up.
2007-04-20 07:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by spankybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right guy is out there, you are still young!!!
Wait it out and stop searching, he will come to you!!!
I'm also still single!!!
2007-04-20 07:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by CillieM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋