Am with this girl that so wonderful and I feel great when am with her.I know I fallen inlove with her but shes worry about my family that does not like her at all .she says if your family does not like me whats the point in been together? I tried to make her understand that shes gonna be with me not them and that they will have to accept her regardless of how they feel about her due to the fact that this is the woman that I want to be with .
Shes a very joyful lady,very sociable,cheerful and friendly and may be what my family does not like is that shes 25 and enjoys to go out and have fun wich I have no problem what so ever about it. I feel that there is nothing I can say to her except that i will be behind her 100% regardless what my family says and that i will love her forever and ever.what do you all think i should do?...
2007-04-19 23:30:16 · 8 answers · asked by s374rc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 34 and the reason my girl felt like this it was beacuse of my little sister made a comment about her going out . and about her text masseging her friends enstead of calling them and talk on the phone. She says i did nothing to defend her which is true but again my syster and my family are very picky about the women i talk to in other words they do not like anybody ...
2007-04-20 00:17:29 · update #1
MAKE SURE YOU ARE HAPPY FIRST. MY FIRST LOVE MOM HATED ME UNTIL SHE DID ALL SHE COULD TO BREAK US YOU AND WHEN WE FINALLY DID HE HOOKED UP WITH THIS GIRL THAT SHE HATED EVEN MORE AND SAW THAT I WAS NOT SO BAD, MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR FSMILY THAT AND THEN MAYBE THEY WILL TRY AND FIND THE GOOD IN HER JUST LIKE YOU HAVE.
2007-04-19 23:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to bridge tha gap between your family and friend so that they come to know more about each other and like more of each other.
Try to reason out instead of guessing the reason. Think of it, if there is a short circuit in your house and you perceive it is on the top while actually the wire in basement is the root cause of the trouble then you have to correct that to ensure the supply.
If you like her try to tell her good points to your family, why would they not like her, after all they may also want your welfare, won't they?
Dialogue can solve many a problems and avid many a confrontations.
2007-04-20 06:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by sanjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother doesn't like my brother's girlfriend either. The thing is, your family wants what's best for you. If they see you are happy with your girlfriend, they will be happy for you. Try telling your parents that she's only 25, she's still young and she enjoys life. Are you sure that that's the reason that they don't like her? If you love her, that is all that really matters. Even if they don't like her now, when you show them that you are going to be together no matter what they think, they will eventually begin to accept her. Do you realise that if your family doesn't like her, they will want to change her? If you love your girlfriend, don't make her change to suit what your family wants. You are lucky to find someone you love, don't give her up just to please your family!!!
2007-04-20 06:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family if they like her or not. She may be imagining it. Or they may have fears for you, that you can ease for them if you understand. She sounds a little insecure, which can be high maintainence, but if you love her, you will persevere. Ask her why she feels they dont like her and if she doesnt have a valid reason for her fear, then she is just attention seeking, and wants a void to grow between your family and you. If she does have a vaild reason, then address it, and be honest.
2007-04-20 06:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard when the family is aginst both of you and sometimes it can put a straing ont he relationship, there must be another reason why the family don't like her and maybe they are not telling you or have tried but you are not listening, if she is willing also to give up on your relationship cos your family don't like her then i would say thats a problem she should not care and lvoe you regardless, after all you are willing to do it and its your family.
2007-04-20 06:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by smitters06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family why they don't like her,and let them know how YOU feel about this girl and that she makes YOU happy,and if they really love you they will have to let this relationship be,even if they think this girl is wrong for you and you are making a mistake, Then its your mistake.
2007-04-20 06:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by no2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what your family's beef is with your lady. Is she different in religion? Race? Social status? Education?
Your family may be overcontrolling things but we need to know what the sticking points are.
2007-04-20 06:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you....? i know shes 25..... been there done that...sorry it didn't work...they really had no reason other than i wasn't their race....yeah...that.... any ways ...i didn't feel it was my fault...but i took the blunt of it.... it didn't work. but who's to say they[your family] wont warm up to her...go with your heart...if the age thing is the only thing....go with your heart....
2007-04-20 06:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋