I am currently in a relationship with a girl I have been seeing for the past 3 months, I really like her and like spending time with her. However recently I have become concerned that I spend a bit of time thinking about my ex who cheated on me. I haven't seen her in 7 months or talked to her but I get annoyed with myself for thinking about her when I know I should be concentrating on my current girlfriend. I don't want this to affect my current relationship but I get concerned when I am dreaming about my ex, not in a good way but shouting at my ex in my dreams. Does this actually mean anything in anyones opinion?
2007-04-18 23:36:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may just be your may of getting over it, if your not a very vocal person, your mind could be trying to help with the situation. You can look up a dream interpretation website and see what they say about it.
2007-04-18 23:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nicolle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something left open with your ex. Either you are still hurting, or their is a conversation left to be had. It is a really common way to be. You love someone, they hurt you, you think you move on, but as that relationship settles into normal time, it brings back memories of your ex. You also start to realise that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Ask yourself the hard question. Do you still have feelings for your ex, and if you do. What exactly are they.
Then ask yourself. What do you feel for the current girlfriend?
Be honest with yourself, as it is a lot easier to be honest now, then in years to come. Also, you know what it feels to be cheated on, don't make the same mistake (even in your dreams). The first year of a relationship should be fabulous. If it's hard, it's not worth it!
Be honest with yourself, and everything will work out.
2007-04-19 06:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your worrying about your current girlfriend doing the same thing that your ex did to you, which was cheat on you.
When someone u love cheats on u, its a HORRIBLE thing that is done to your self esteem & you'll think that anyone after the person that cheated on you, will do the same. Maybe by yelling at your ex in your dreams, your trying to tell her that she hurt you & to go away so you can enjoy and be happy with your current girl. Not all woman are the same, just because one woman cheated on you, this current girl, may turn out to be your soul mate...
2007-04-19 06:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by gumpy_lost_pookey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As cheesy as it sounds you have to forgive your ex. You have to learn to let go of all of the anger and hurt that was associated with her cheating on you. That doesn't mean that you ever have to actually talk to her again but you have to truly forgive her in your heart no matter how much she may or may not deserve it. This is what I was taught when my wife cheated on me and left me and it really made me a free person. I don't think that it would be a bad idea to discuss this with your current girlfriend either. But make sure that you are talking to her as a friend and not comparing her to your ex or asking her to do/not do things that your ex did/didn't do.
2007-04-19 06:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your ex had a huge impact on your life and you're constantly comparing your new girlfriend to her. I've been broken up with a man for 3 years now and I still think about him everyday because of the way he treated me. I still dream about him as well, some are good, and some I'm just getting even with him. I figure it's because most everything I see reminds me of him and he did have a HUGE impact on my life. I was head over heels in love with him and would've done anything for him, but he...... ok..... I've already answered your question so I'm going to stop right there... lol.
Just stay focused on the present. Don't worry about what happened in the past with your ex. Everything is going to be fine.
2007-04-19 06:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by ~Crystal~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe ur still missing ur ex but also afraid if ur current gf will cheat on u like ur ex did... take a step back and realise that ur current gf will not hurt u unless u have a reason to believe shes being unfaithful! if she hasnt done anything then its ur issue u need to deal with! either move on and remember she was ur ex so leave it in the past or take a break from ur current gf so u can have time to think about what u want.
2007-04-19 07:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by MissyRC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a cheating ex it is hard to get over it. I have been with my husband for 7 years and I still think of my cheating ex. Certain songs, smells, or events will bring up a memory. If you don't get back together with them it shouldn't stop you from having a loving relationship. Good luck
2007-04-19 06:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can tell if that means something. When you think of your ex, HOW are you thinking. Do you want her back? Do you want to call her? Is there a possibility that you're still in love with her?
Don't worry about your current girlfriend, if you feel you want to be with another woman. You should worry about her only if you stay with her, while your thinking of another woman.
Go according to your feelings only and communicate with these woman. That's what a relationship is all about.
2007-04-19 06:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to all of us....I was with someone for 5 years and ended it and started seeing someone else few months later...its now been 6 or 7 years since i last saw the person but i still think of them every once in awhile...its normal...its a part of ur past and u should always remember it but just don't let it ruin ur life...
2007-04-19 06:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by lisa j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was obviously something that you really liked about her that is missing in this relationship. You need to look for someone else that has those qualities that you really like instead of just settling for what you can get. Don't make the mistake of taking a cheater back. You will probably get hurt again!!
2007-04-19 06:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋