I have a boyfriend whom we have stayed with him for 6 yrs, and proposed to me but am not ready since am afraid of something he conffensed to me that last year when i was in college they went out with his ex who made sure that he is totally drunk and took him to her bedroom in the morning the guy found out that he was naked. after 2wks the lady told him that she is pregnant and the guy gave her some money 2 abort. and even the other time she made me talk to her so that she may live him alone but i feel i should give up since am already confused on what to do. should i accept his proposal? just advice me.
2007-04-18 23:11:07 · 14 answers · asked by sherrym 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have doubts,no you shouldn't accept....
2007-04-18 23:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years is a long time........ A long time for him to be able to go away with someone else, drunk or otherwise.... Being drunk is never, nor will it ever be an excuse to do the dirt! They say drink allows you to lose your inhibition's and do what you really want to do at the time.. Found out this can true, but that you still know what you're doing... Have been completely drunk before, but despite everything know when something is wrong..
Sounds like he may have very few morals as it stands. You, on the other hand do, along with very serious doubts! Walk away and keep them! You know you deserve better! :-)
2007-04-19 00:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in doubt,confused and afraid,not good enough ingredients to make such an important decision,get over all these first before you think of saying yes. I don't really believe that bit about the ex getting him drunk,is he a baby to be spoon fed the drink? and to top it all,he had the baby aborted,how cruel can one get,please think about it carefully,before you regret
2007-04-18 23:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by vanpuj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are confused better not accept his proposal first,after thinking clearly if you truly love him & have forgiven his indiscretion then that's the time to accept his proposal,by the way,its impossible to know you are pregnant just after 2 weeks,this only shows that the girl was just fooling both of you
2007-04-18 23:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by wefner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say that you wanna take it slowly, if you wanted you cud get engaged and have a long engagement.
the good thing about this situation is that he has told you all about it. this means that he wants you to know the truth now so it doesnt *** back to haunt you later, it also shows that he has respect for you which can only be a good thing. he has told you the truth now its your turn to tell him, tell him that ya luv and care for him but feel very confused and want to take it day by day until you are ready to make a bigger commitment or not...
2007-04-18 23:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Gina M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to work through this issue before conteplating marriage. You have to decide what you want, and if you can get through this. Bit of a mess and so not a good basis to start getting married on.
2007-04-18 23:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure who is who in your question.
If he cheated on you with his ex and got her pregnant , the question is can you face this betrayal, and a future with his ex and child in the picture everday 4 the rest of your life?
2007-04-18 23:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are this confused and upset to where you say you're not ready, you're worried about other things, and you come on the internet to ask strangers for help, then: I would not marry him.
2007-04-18 23:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by hbfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need that kind of complication in your life. Run like heck. If he will kill his own child, just think what he will do to you!!
2007-04-18 23:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love and trust him?
Has he made more mistakes like this?
Do you trust him?
That's all it needs, lol.
PS instead of pronouns, give your characters name like "A", "B", "C" so it's comes in clearly.
2007-04-18 23:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Answerz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To many dramas let him go
2007-04-18 23:16:27 · answer #11 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋