Met a guy around 10 months ago, we were like best friends as well as lovers, got on so well fun wise & intellectually. He 28, me 23. He isn't too sure about having a relationship at this stage in his life. he is very immature & kind of messed me about in the process with broken promises due to his inability to be with me. I gave him 1 last chance to decide what he wanted & he decided that it would be best to be friends 4 now as he wasn’t in the frame of mind for a relationship with any1 right now & that I deserve the best. He said that if he were to be with any1 it would be me but he is not looking for any commitments right now. So I have tried moving on & he still keeps calling me like 2 or 3 times a week to see how I am. So I decided to tell him that it would be best if we went our separate ways as he doesnt want anything right now, so therefore I need to move on! and he doesnt see why we cant stay friends! I have now started giving things a go with someone else
2007-04-18 23:08:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he is still calling me to "see how I am and how my new job is going etc" and also telling me that he does miss me and my company. I have a serious feeling that he is still trying to keep in touch so that he will still have a chance with me when he is ready!! But he had his chance and I am seeing someone else which is what I need to focus on 100% do I need to cut contact? and make him see that I am no fool! he is not gonna win me back when he feels ready as I am also seeing someone else now! he didnt want anything so I need to move on right? as he is not giving me what I want and this other guy I like is!?
2007-04-18 23:09:23 · update #1
He as a person call also be very selfish and arrogant, but he also makes me feel guilty for me wanting to go our seperate ways.
I have a serious feeling that he knows he could be loosing a good thing and wants to keep in contact so that when he is ready we can be together. As he has even said to me himself in a cocky way. "dont let your new boyfriend get too attached as I am going to come and steal you when I am ready"! He cannot think he can have me when he wants. I am in a new relationship now and need to focus on that 100% so I need to cut him off right?
2007-04-18 23:12:33 · update #2
He's awful old to be playing these kinds of games with you. Don't be impressed by his older status. He's an immature little boy.
If you like being strung along and used as he pleases, stick with him a while. I'm sure eventually you'll get annoyed with it and leave him (if he hasn't left you first). Or, realize that you want and deserve better than him - you'll know what to do.
2007-04-18 23:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's too undesirable which you would be able to no longer evaluate him as a chum nonetheless. He does look to have your terrific hobbies at heart. He advised you which you deserved extra beneficial, and that he isn't any longer waiting for a dedication. a minimum of he replaced into trustworthy with you! you may have a friendship with him and supply him the courtesy of having a communique with him now and then. i'm no longer able to stand jealousy and a loss of have confidence that dictates you could no longer have male or woman acquaintances purely because of the fact which you're in a relationship. that doesn't sound very mature to me. He seems to be a solid guy. You declare he's immature. I see extra in his integrity than you do and that i do no longer additionally know the guy. i could look after his friendship on the inspiration of his honesty and due to the well being he has to your destiny, without or with him. i does no longer hide him out of your attitude new guy the two. If there is not any longer a relationship different than a friendship, there should not be something to be jealous of. you may have the terrific of the two relationships in case you play your enjoying cards suitable.
2016-12-10 06:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you like him but that you aren't going to wait around for somebody that can't decide what they want. Tell him you have met another guy you like also and that you only go out with one guy at the time. Tell him if you break up with the other guy you will give him a call and you would prefer he didn't call you in the meantime.
2007-04-18 23:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should as he looks to be only intrested in your Boobs.
Dont get me wrong but this kind of Guys are like this.
I am hot I am Single based in Dubai 28 Male.
Never treated a girl like this ever.
Just Move on...
2007-04-18 23:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mahi R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to give you a call when he is serious, otherwise leave you alone. Let him know that you have moved on.
2007-04-18 23:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over. When you found someone else it was over. Tell him you don't want to be his friend any more. Ask him to find someone else as you have.
2007-04-18 23:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
h'es a loser go ahead and dump him. your worth more than the backup girl
2007-04-18 23:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋