Why am I so hurt about the abrupt break up when I knew things were not as they should be.?

Question

My boyfriend and I went to the same high school but never dated until two years ago - and lots of years after graduating. I remembered him as sweet (he was shy and a friend of my belated brother) But, as it turned out not only did he gain weight, and lose his hair, he also lost all ability to commit for real. He faked me out alot, but there were always the constant lies and just the right amount of romance to make me believe that he couldn't be stepping out. His response his always like who would do me? And how lucky he was to have someone pretty. Well, i thought we bonded with our shared past, and lots of laughs, and my constant strain to understand WHY he had exes over all the time or on the phone...He doesn't work so usually he is up all hours and his pad is a known place to stop and do crazy things...that's what happens when i am not around. Well, i thought we would evolve and maybe get some semblance of normalcy in our relationship, but he became more secretive and hostile.

Answer 1

He's pretty sketchy..

You just need to give yourself some time. Don't go back to him if you don't like how it is.

Answer 2

You said it all. He doesn't work. He doesn't care. Let the jerk go. You can do much better than a bum, a liar, and a cheat. You deserve better!!! Don't let any man treat you like that. For every jerk like him there is a nice guy waiting to find a nice girl like you. Send him a thank you card--he did you a favor by leaving. Good luck and much happiness in your new life without the jerk!!!

Answer 3

all this bad stuff and you stll don't have a clue. if you feel he's that shady leave his ***. don't pull the my boyfriend hits me but i still love him routine. that's just sad. find someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated

Answer 4

its becaude you feel let down. you should learn from what has happened and take the good memories with you and make better memories in the future