Ok, here's my deal. My girlfriend asian, me black. Now I keep reading about how -- "Oh it's 2007! Anyone can date whoever they like, and marry whoever they wish to marry." And I find that statement to be easily thrown around, without anyone thinking about the whole picture.
My girlfriend's parents are VERY much against me marrying my girlfriend, and I know most asian people will tell you they listen, and respect their parents/elders. My girlfriend's mom told her "You need to marry someone who has alot of money and an education." Although I'm going to school to be an RN, that isn't enough for them, and I'm only 19 and my girlfriend 20.
Now I met her father already, wasn't so bad. It's her mother that's killing me. She keeps putting more and more stuff in her head about how she needs a better guy and ect, and how she can't marry me
My girlfriend constantly cries because of them,and had a panic attack that one day her father found out. What should I do? She's very dependent on them
2007-04-18 22:32:21 · 10 answers · asked by Kenobi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, good challenge so I'll try to take it up.
As an individual, races aside, you need to understand that you've only begun something (RN) you have'nt actually finished or attained anything.
Your gf is worried sick cause she's an honourable person and wants to do the right thing.
You've met her dad what is it he has to find out?
Are you living together, are you supporting each other?
Have your parents met her parents?
This is a very very complicated situation at both your stages of life. Your gf is taking the brunt and she needs to vent from this pressure.
If Asians date out of their race it's usually with white guys so you got that going in your favour.
Really tho bud take some time out for her sake so she can think straight, you're not doing her any favours persisting with her at the moment and if things escalate for the worst she could suffer in her grades or worse then you'll have a real battle on your hands with her family .
Blend some common sense into this equation you'll find that a far healthier solution.
2007-04-18 23:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by crr_rndy 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just be the best person that you can be. Ask her if the strain is getting to her. You may have to love her enough to let her go. Better that than she make herself sick all of the time.
You might want to try talking to the mother before you give up. Explain how much you love her, and will try to always make her happy.
2007-04-18 22:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate to assert it yet your a hypcrite dude. You being with an asian women human beings is already a extensive stereotype in its own top. I guess some human beings think of asian women human beings with white adult males are sellouts
2016-12-29 09:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I hear all that stuff about 2007 and anyone can date anyone too, but what I have noticed is that black guys more than any other guys like to date outside their race, whose giving black women their love lmao, I see black guys with mexicans, asians, whites, everything, EXCEPT black women, lol jk, but still a lot of outside dating, anyway, if the parents dont like you then you will either spend the rest of your life trying to please them, or you break up, its as easy as that, i dont think shes just financially dependent on them, they ARE her parents and what the parents think does matter, but if you are a good guy and you are devoted to her then youll just have to deal with crappy in laws, YOU WONT BE THE FIRST lol
2007-04-18 22:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by karmajjj123 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Myasiangirlfriend
2016-11-07 06:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are black. I feel sympathy for you although I am a white guy. My gf is Asian too(southeast asian). Her family has no problem with me because they are poor and uneducated. She has very little education(8th grade). So, this is not the case with all Asians. Not all Asian women are difficult to marry. Some, like southeast asians, will marry anything that moves! You will find more difficulty if you marry a girl from a higher social class however. If you want to marry, I would suggest you find another girl who is of lower social class and less education.
2007-04-18 22:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by fdsfdsfa f 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
dude most peoples parents are aginst people marrying there daughters no guy will ever be good enough and all that crap but you know what it isn't the parent that has to make the decision to get married it is you and her you are both adults
2007-04-18 22:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by big 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sigh...thats really bad news. Anyway just ask her to marry you. What are her parents going to do? kill you? If your girlfriend really loves you than she'll do whatever it takes to be with you. If she says no then its not meant to be
2007-04-18 22:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you're being black is the mother's problem?
most mothers act the way your girlfriends mother is acting, NO man is ever good enough. have you met her mother?
if not, you need to. she needs to see the man you are, not her opinion of what you are.
2007-04-18 22:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by k d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple do what makes y happy and quite living yre life for others
2007-04-18 22:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by harley6455 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋