me and my bf have been together for 2 yrs but im just so afraid of getting hurt!every woman in my family has been done wrong and cheated on by their husbands.my bf says he loves me and when i accuse him of cheating he almost starts to cry.it really upsets him and i feel bad but im still convinced that hell do it bc hes a guy...wat do you think?
2007-04-18 22:28:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you may be looking for problems. If you have signs he's cheating, then yeah you might have a problem, but from what you've said it looks like you're a little paranoid. I'm not attacking you, please don't take it that way, I just mean you may want to start trusting men, especially your boyfriend, otherwise you'll just end up sad, stressed out, and most likely alone. If you believe your man will cheat, and push him so much, you might just end up making him cheat becuase he thinks "May as well be hung for a chicken than an egg" (Or whatever that stupid expression is lol)
So, yeah, there are a lot of men that don't cheat. Your boyfriend sounds nice, like he'd never do it.
2007-04-18 22:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by actor_girl_1986 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't accuse him of cheating on you. You can't say that, ever!
What would you do if your boyfriend says "have you got another boyfriend, have you been sleeping with someone?"
Honestly how does that make you feel?
Not good, hey. It feels like he doesnt trust you, right?
If it's true love, he will not cheat. Not all guys cheat. Just as many woman cheat as men. IT'S NOT IN EVERY BOY!
Be glad you have a man who is loyal to you, and trust his words. Be glad, also, that he is still with you, b/c he may be feeling really bad right now. Make it up to him
He starts to cry, that is big, that means you've hurt him!
If you keep accusing him of these things, he wont trust you anymore. He'll think you dont trust him.
Love = pain, as always, but it's worth it in the end. Don't jump to conclusions too fast, k?
best of luck =]
2007-04-18 22:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you dont trust your bf cause if you did you wouldnt be accusing him of it. Look mate NOT all guys cheat... there are just the ones who do that make it worse for the genuine guys who actually DONT CHEAT!!!! So cmon mate if you love your bf you wouldnt be so up-tight, yeah of course it may have happened with your family but it doesnt mean its a family curse or something its just coincidence... Look if you thought he was gonna cheat on you then why did you go out the guy in the first place?????
If your gna be like that, then to be honest he deserves to be with someone who doesnt suspect him b\c of other guys doing's....
There are Men out there are once they've found someone they connect with are happy to be with them and only them and wouldnt even THINK ABOUT IT.
I think the question you should be asking is "How do I learn to trust my bf????"
2007-04-18 22:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your issue might not be so much about your boyfriend as about your family background? You don't write that he has ever done anything that you made you suspicious, other than he is a man. Maybe he is different. It is easy for me to say, but maybe you should talk to a therapist for an objective opinion and because you can talk through it with them and work out how and why you feel like you do. If you work that out, it might help you to evaluate the situation better. If you continue to accuse your boyfriend, it might get too much for him one day. It does sound like he cares about you. Also, you accusing him a fair bit might mean that he will feel he can't be honest with you because you get upset and overreact. Whatever you do, take care (you deserve better than what has happened to your other family members).
2007-04-18 22:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys and girls tend to understand cheating differently. A guy can read the menu even if he's already ordered dinner. Since relationships are more emotionally driven for girls, I think they know when they are cheating more readily (even if it is just deep conversations with someone). A guy can cheat and it can honestly "just be sex". I'm not supporting bad behavior, I'm just saying that guys think about these things differently than women.
The best way to assist your boyfriend in being faithful is:
1) Be available and creative sexually.
2) Be emotionally available.
3) Do fun things and enjoy time together.
If your providing that, he won't need to go to another women for sex, emotional support or fun. Pretty easy: healthy relationship makes for less cheating. Similarly the easiest ways to promote cheating is to isolate him emotionally by throwing around accusations.
2007-04-18 22:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES! Don't spoil it by being paranoid. Just because your family has had some bad luck (judgment?) doesn't mean you will follow in their footsteps! If he really loves you he won't, but if you keep pushing he could decide it's just not worth it. Try believing the best of him, not the worst? It sounds as if you're really hurting him by not trusting him, give him a break? Not all guys are cheaters, and if he's for real you're spoiling it by being paranoid.
Good luck and stop worrying!
2007-04-18 22:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is such a thing as men who Do Not Cheat.
My husband has never cheated.
My dad never cheated.
My father never cheated.
Just because male members of your family cheated does not mean your boy friend has or will cheat.
Consider yourself extremely lucky that you chose a man who is loyal and does not cheat.
2007-04-18 22:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this a daily question now??!!
Seriously, of course not all men cheat!!!!!!
In fact, in my opinion, just as many women cheat as men! At the end of the day, why worry about whether he's going to cheat on you or not? All you end up doing is getting paranoid and becoming possessive which will ultimately drive him away anyway. Just enjoy your time together and let him have his freedom. If he cheats, he cheats and you get rid of him. His loss, not yours.
2007-04-18 22:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months. . .even discussing marriage. I haven't cheated (yet) but it is very hard for men I think because we are visually stimulated and women freely flirt with a guy that she knows is taken. There is a certain excitement in that. . .I find it difficult not to cheat on her, especially when we haven't had sex for awhile. But, I have never cheated on her nor anyone else.
2007-04-19 08:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if im being perfectly honest, Im 21 and ive cheated on every guy ive been with i was such a player its unreal. I loved the attention too. But i meet a guy who ive fallen in love with big time and he loves me we have just got a house together and a wee pup. I would never dream on cheating on him as hes my world. Ive never loved someone before untill i meet him . So maybe there is chance that your guy will not cheat on you , When people love someone a opne night stand or a one off kiss is not worth loosing the one you love. I used to think my BF would cheat due to me doing it to eveyone else but i can see it in his face that everytime he tells me he loves me he means it and if he does then cheating does not even enter their mind
2007-04-18 22:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by claire r 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋