What would you do if you found pics on Myspace of your 16 yr old daughter and her friends drinking alcohol?

Question

I printed the the pics and am thinking about going to the other parents.

Answer 1

the other parents do have a right to know. you should talk to your daughter first about it, and maybe give her friends the option of going to their parents with the bad news first. and then follow up with a call to make sure that they did. wouldnt you be upset if on of her friend's parents knew and didnt tell you?

Answer 2

Yeah, the other parents, myspace (cancel account), the police (at least for a good scare, if nothing else)....

Then I expect I'd pick up a bunch of moving boxes and charge my cordless drill, because all her belongings except for a dresser full of clothes is ALL GONE, and the bedroom door is coming down too. I can only imagine what you're going through. I hope you will be strong and also notify the other parents, so that you can put a stop to this behavior as quickly as possible.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I most definitely would inform the other parents. The girls are involved in an illegal activity, that can have health and safety reprecussions as well. As a parent, I would want to know.

As for my own child, well she would be grounded and the myspace profile would be shut down. My daughter knows that drinking, drugs and lying are the three biggies and would result in some trust issues. Whatever you do, make it count. This is the time to let her know that this sort of behavior is both dangerous and not acceptable in your home.

Answer 4

They have obviously betrayed a trust, not to mention, the law. If kids are not taught that there are punishments when they are wrong, they will continue to take "risks", and possibly end up in a ton of trouble, not to mention, the trouble you can get into being the adult here..........ie; she drives your car after drinking, and hits someone, hurts someone. When kids drink, they are trying to "fit in" with their peers. She needs other activities........where is the discipline here? How is it that no one knew they were drinking? Were they left alone for a long period of time? SOMEONE should have been around (responsible adult), to at least monitor the situation. Were they left over night alone? If that is the case, I would have had a friend "pop in" to check up un announced. It's up to you to parent your child in the best way you can. He/She may not like you very much, but it is far better to be strict, and sure of their safety, than sorry, and suffer through tragedy.

Answer 5

i would talk to her. first ask her if there is anything that she needs to tell you..if the answer is no (which it most probably will be) sit her down and ask her if she has been drinking alcohol. if she still does not admit it, tell her that you have seen pictures of her drinking. i think that it is important to not rant and rave with her, but try to talk to her about the short and long term negative effects of drinking (.i.e sexual promiscuity, alcohol poisoning etc). ask her why she thinks that it is OK for her to be drinking at her age and why there are laws that restrict teenagers from drinking. try not to be too abrupt and angry as she will not open up. depending on your stance on drinking and alcohol, maybe you could allow your daughter to experiment with alcohol under your supervision (i.e 1 drink with you during dinner) to allow her to develop the understanding of responsible drinking. however i do think that it is Important that you let those other parents know what their children are doing. if the situation was reversed, im sure you would be grateful.
i hope this is helpful
Good luck :-)

Answer 6

first things first your daughter drinking alcohol is illegal at 16, so defiantly go tell the parents and track down where the parties are happening. Then ground her and take away her computer privileges for a couple of weeks. I wouldn't totally take the my space away the Internet is a wonderful tool when used right and she will hate you if you totally take it away but she has to disciplined to let her know that the drinking at 16 has to stop.

Answer 7

That girls world would be rocked! First I would hit her with the deep devistation of her poor decissions. Then Talk about how disappointed you are and how you felt you could trust her to make good decissions. Ask her how are you suppost to trust her now? Put a curfew on her, and other restrictions that limit un-accounted for time. Guilt trip is the best way. Then they want to do better.

Answer 8

Quite frankly some of the answers left make me want to expatriate. Lock her in her room for months?! Why don't you people crawl out of your Bible Belt trailers, fly to Europe, (where for the most part there is no drinking age), so you can see that teenagers are capable of being responsible when treated as such.

Better yet, fly your daughter there so as to escape your controlling, vindictive, ignorant American way of treating your kin as though they are your property. Why don't you sit down with your daughter, have a drink, and explain why it's important to have fun, enjoy life, and be safe in the process.

Answer 9

Sit down and talk to her. If I was you I would talk to the other parents. That is what a responsible parent would do in my opinion. They are 16 and there are a lot of accidents when underage people drink!!! For your daughter, her friends, and everyone else you should do the responsible thing. Even if it means you are not going to be her favorite person.

Answer 10

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