My ex and I had a huge falling out when our relationship ended. Much was said and done and we both acted out in anger. When I tried to talk to him and confront him, he deleted my emails and didn't want to talk to me anymore. I let it go and time has passed...it always bothered me and I called him and apologized but I got really emotional and told him I would email him and to please not delete it. Well...he has been online, yet the email says "unread". Does this mean he is considering it?
I want things to be ok between us, without any anomosity. We went thu alot and I helped him thru so much. Has time made him think? Or does he not care. He knows we cannot go back to the way things were...but I wanted to see if we can get past this and remain friends, he also is aware of this. Please just tell me if you were him how would you feel. I mean he could have deleted it like the rest.
2007-04-18 20:17:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He'll read it when he is ready. He is still hurt and needs time. It obviously hurts him to think of you and he knows that in reading it, you get to say whatever you like and he doesn't get to respond in real time. He will read it... just wait.
Friendship doesn't work... really - You can try and try for years, but it just ends up dragging out a relationship that is over and hurting you both more than was ever necessary.
Make peace, say it all now and let him go his way while you go yours... personal experience speaking... I wish I had been smart enough to do that instead of wasting 3 years hoping our "friendship" would blossom once again into something more.
2007-04-18 20:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jodes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is you're asking the wrong question. I think you should ask yourself why this is so important to you. Is it really worth obsessing over an e-mail? That's the sort of trivia that 14-year-olds ask questions about here.
You are noble to seek some sort of reconciliation or redemption, but this process could take months or years. How much energy do you want to put into this in the meantime? My guess is the emotional intensity around the phone call and the e-mail is coming from unresolved grief around the relationship and break-up. You have set up a situation where you can be intensely involved with him even though the old relationship is over. I remember doing the same thing when I was crushed over a break-up.
2007-04-18 20:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen. Even if he denies you now, chances are if you give him some more time he'll get over it. And if he doesn't, then it's not really up to you. It's just something we all have to deal with. I'm sure it bothers you a lot, but sometimes it's better to make your best effort and then move on with your life. That way, at least you know you did your best, and that he was the jerk who cut it all off.
I don't really know what it's like to be him since I don't know him up front and personally. But it sounds like you've been doing quite a lot to try to make things between you work. That's all anyone can really ask from you
2007-04-18 20:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's way passed time for you to move on. You need to work on making yourself accept how things worked out between you two, you have no control over if he reads the email, how he feels about you, etc.
Sometimes we just can't all be friends with our exs and sometimes it just takes a lot of time, maybe years....
2007-04-18 20:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time it may take awhile but you will be friends again someday let it go for now and move on
2007-04-18 20:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by tenthirty_two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋