my step mum is having a baby to my dad and i hate that fact?

Question

i found out 2 weeks ago that my dad is going to be a dad for the 3rd time, after my sis and i, to our horrible step mum and i dont know if i can except the child as my bro or sis and i really dont want to end a good relationship with my dad but that thing he married is just not human it sounds harsh but if you knew her like i do you would most likely say the same things

Answer 1

Just remember that the baby has done nothing wrong. So I hope you'll try to love him or her. ARe you a teenager`? It sound like you may be..and it's normal to be a little jealous of your father's new wife. Try to make an effort to reach out to both your dad and your step mum, especially before the baby is born. Tell your dad how you feel about her (when the 2 of you are alone together)..it may help him understand how you feel and maybe he can put any worries or concerns you have to rest. His wife may not be as bad as you portray. He loves you and your sister too. He always will. You're his baby as well!

Hope everything works out.

Answer 2

Wow, you are having a new person being born in your father's house. There is going to be someone who is going to need things in life that only you can provide. How exciting this could be. It doesn't matter how you feel about the mom of this child, what matters is the new life of a child that will need you very much,after all the way you describe the step mom this baby won't stand a chance to be loved and nurtured like it deserves. Someone did it for you and you are now going to be able to do it for someone else. Your dad is having a baby, the woman he is married to is carrying it for him and he is going to need your support. You do not have to love your stepmother, you only have to respect that she is your father's wife and they share a home and now they are having a baby. If you can not accept that then you need to grow up or get out. Maybe some counseling would help, it is worth a try. Good luck

Answer 3

First of all once the baby is born, you will fall in love with it automatically. However I do understand that now you hate that fact.

Your real problem is your step mum. You say you have a good relationship with your father You and your sister should go out with him one day, and speak it all out.. It should not be in the house. You never know if your step mom will pop in the house in the middle of your conversation.

Good luck,

I am happy you at least have a sister to share your feelings with.

Answer 4

I don't know your step mum, but I'll take your word for the fact that she is horrible. Either way, the important thing here is how you feel about her and not what she is like to anyone else. However, the child will be your brother or sister, and he/she will be just an innocent baby. Don't try to connect it with your step mum only, there will be a 50% percent in that baby from your dad, as much as you have in you from your dad. So basically there will be some of you in that baby! And in my mind you should get close to the baby and keep close to your dad, for the sake of you, your dad, and the baby, who should have good influences and not learn to hate you from his mum.

Answer 5

oh, well this is a hard one. For you, your step mom is the absolute worst and I can understand that you just don't see yourself being a good sis to this child seeing as you hate this child's mother but just a slight reminder: this is a baby we're talking about and there is no way that this child, in any instances,should be involved in this "feud" b/w you and your step mum. And if she is as awful as you say she is, then wouldn't it be better if you teach this soon-to-be-child of your dad so that he or she wouldn't turn out in the same way? It's just my suggestion but I wish you a good luck on the matter. Try praying once in awhile about this. It sounds stupid and a tad bit too holy but it also helps.

Answer 6

Wow! I can't wait for June either. You need to lay some ground rules. Send an email out to all parents what they are. First rule, You don't care about their petty issues. This is your life, and if they don't like the way your living it, well they don't have to come over and see it. Next Rule, if you can't play nice, don't come to the sand box. Everyone is welcome to your home as long as they do not talk about other family members in a negative light. You have heard their opinions, and are no longer interested. Final Rule, you want everyone to be apart of your life, if they don't like a family member and refuse to come to an event because of that family member too bad so sad. They lose out for a stupid reason. Grow up! Don't ever ask them for anything. Not a favor, not a cup of sugar. You don't need them to take care of your dog, find a person to do that on emergency. Hire someone, find a vet, find something... do not ask for favors from these people ever again. When they do come visit, the first time they break a rule about being nice, stand up, say it was nice to see you, but this visit is over. Hopefully you will do better next time, and stand at the door to let them out and make them leave. Drama sucking families waste so much time and energy. Remove them from your life if they can't keep their petty arguments to themselves. Learn to hang up the phone when they start the bullshit and don't respond to any email that includes it. Or redact the stupidity out of the email and only respond to the appropriate communication contained in it. They might one day come to realize you won't participate in their games and not include you in them. And you won't have the aggravation, all you have to do is identify it as petty and don't respond.

Answer 7

You should accept the baby, he or she hasn't done anything to you it's the stepmum that you don't like. Just because it has her genes somewhere in there doesn't mean it won't be just as nice if you dad had it with your mum. If your stepmum really is that bad and you say your relationship with your dad is good then ask him to talk to her or talk to her herself. But definantly don't decide that the baby is horrible until you meet it. You'll probably end up falling in love with it!

Answer 8

how is she ?at first we can said that the child isn't fault ,he or she can't choice who will be born him or her ?it is simply the human you can say they are dad and mun (even step) they are have baby ,that is simple for human ,what we say about here is you hate your step mum and you don't want they have baby ,because it will take aways your dad love to you and your sister.also understand that how much you hate your step mother ,but let thing ,when the child were born and you hate him or her ,this child will be up set becuase he or she has bad family ,their sister don't love them ,how pity they are !,child is not his or her fauls when he or she can't not choice who will be born them out.

Answer 9

I’m sorry but you need to deal with reality this baby will be your brother or sister. Just because you have issues with your step mother doesn’t mean you have to not like or accept your new sibling. Baby’s are innocent

Answer 10

Your dad loves her and if you love your dad then you need to get over it...the baby is not her so for what ever reason you don't like her don't take it out on the baby....who knows it might grow up to hate her too.