My bf and I have these neighbours that we have become friends with. They are nice enough, but they both seem to have some "issues" with social etiquette.
They will come over and never leave, plus the first time they came over we let them use our computer because they don't have one. They have email addresses but only have access to the internet at work once in a while.
Now they will just walk over and use the computers and print stuff without asking. they will talk to each other and act as if we are not there.
Normally I would just say something, but they are sensitive and are both a bit "slow" and we know that they do have problems being social and don't want them to be offended or hurt.
How would you deal with this?
2007-04-18 19:23:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well, for starters, I would lock my doors. That way, they have to go through you or your bf before they can come in and do anything. That will give you a chance to explain that it is not a good time for them to stop by, or something, or simply tell them that you would like to have them come over later, say, for dinner, and that you and your bf would like to talk to them about something. Then, have a dinner with them and just explain to them that they need to understand that you and your bf need your privacy and they will need to check with you or him first before doing anything at your place. Also, that printing is very expensive and if they would like to help contribute to a ink cartridge/paper fund, you will be able to allow them to print things at your printer once in awhile, but only if they check in first. Also I am pretty sure this is the same in most communities, but it is free to use the internet and the computers at the local libraries. Maybe check for the locations and hours of the local libraries in your area and let them know, that way they can still take care of the things they need to and you will re-gain your privacy and space.
Well, good luck and I hope all goes well!
2007-04-18 19:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently had a similar prob. My friend Jason was out of work for a whil efrom an injury so he was at my house constantly, on my computer if I wasnt. he showed up one day at 7 am as I was letting the nerds out for the school bus. He would stay until midnight or after,if we went some were like shopping, he drove his car and followed then came back over, if I got on the computer for anything he grabbed a chair and sat down and watched(I couldnt do a lot of work because of this).
After dropping hints that never worked, I asked nicely a few times to stop then when that wasnt working and I saw him reading over my wifes shoulder a private email from her sister I got pissed and snapped. I told him he had way over stayed his welcome and he was too damn nosey and go home. I was past being nice.
2007-04-19 02:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Borg_MonkeyDrone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have changed your interent plan to like 5 hours a month and you are always at their limit, so unless they want to chip in with your ISP bills go for it.
Every 2nd or 3rd time they come over, don't answer door or pretend you are not home - or of course be 'busy in the bedroom', they'll soon get the hint they can't just come over when they feel like it.
2007-04-19 02:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Mysterious ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when they have worn out their welcome say "well my boyfriend and I have some things to do we will have to chat sometime later" and stand up to escort them out the door.
Put a password on your computer. Say your computer is broke at the moment.
Lock your doors. If you want private time open the door and say "I'm sorry but we are busy right now, but we could hang out *a few days from now*"...
If you don't explain to them that what they are doing is rude they will keep doing it and do it to others.
2007-04-19 10:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with them and take the chance of hurting their sensitive feelings or just put with it. What's more important at this point your happiness or theirs?
2007-04-19 04:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by chatticathi52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UM... there sensitivities are a concerne but it is your house! And if they are so sensitive as to take your needs in your house as something negitive and an insult than I would not want them in my house at all... So talk to them!
2007-04-19 02:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by maddogcrog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first buy a bear trap, make a sandwhich next to the computer and leave the bear trap under the desk, get them where it hurts
2007-04-19 02:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by bigK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell them in a jokingly manner that this is becoming a habit of theirs and that i'm not comfortable with it. then i'd change the lock on the doors just to be safe.
2007-04-19 02:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by purumpum7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the door. And if they call, tell them you are too busy for guests. After awhile, they will get the hint.
2007-04-19 02:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Johnnie5 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd slap them in the face and say, "Get the f*ck out my house, *****!"
2007-04-19 02:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by petenick_1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋