My boyfriend and I had been dating for a year and a half when he abruptly broke up with me two weeks ago. I received an invitation to his sister's wedding shower a couple days before we broke up. I have already RSVPed that I will not be able to attend. She and I were not close, but were friendly. Should I send a gift even though I am not attending, as etiquette usually dictates, or not?
2007-04-18 17:15:53 · 14 answers · asked by Penelope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not trying to do anything to revive my relationship with my boyfriend. It's just that usually when you do not attend a wedding or a wedding shower, you send a gift anyway. As one of you said, though, I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.
2007-04-18 17:37:03 · update #1
Wow, your answers seem pretty split down the middle!
I don't know if it affects your view, but I got to know his parents pretty well during our relationship and we got along really well. They often told me what a wonderful girlfriend I was. I also got to know his entire extended family, as I attended his sister's engagement party, and his cousin's graduation party, had Easter with them last year, and they had me over for cake (with extended family members) for my birthday last year, as my family lives far away. I'm letting you know all this so you understand why I don't want to seem like I'm snubbing the family.
On other hand, I don't want them to think it's weird if I do give a gift.
I guess in either case they would understand I'm in an awkward position and wasn't sure what to do...
If I do send something, I was thinking something very small, such as some sachets that match her bedroom decor.
Possibly I am over-thinking this!
2007-04-19 04:16:05 · update #2
send a card and wish her well with her marriage.
2007-04-18 17:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by shyanne 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If youa rent attending you really dont have to bring or send a gift. Under the circumstances I would say no gift would be more proper than a gift.
2007-04-18 17:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should absolutely send a gift if she invited you to her Bridal Shower. If you don't send her anything you may come across as being spiteful
2007-04-18 17:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you weren't very close, you are under no obligation to send a gift.
2007-04-18 18:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by dkquantumsingularity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, send the gift.
2007-04-18 17:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are close and like her then go ahead.
You are not required to give a gift if you can come or not.
Its up to you.
2007-04-19 05:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already notified them that you will not be attending. That ends it. Don't do anything to embarrass the future bride.
2007-04-18 17:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Pat C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not like you were close as you said so it wont be a big deal if she doesnt get anything from you good luck and stick to your guns dont take that loser back your better than him
2007-04-18 18:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by lita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She isn't expecting anything from you and etiquette dictates that you not send anything. It would be like you saying nothing is wrong when everyone knows otherwise.
2007-04-18 17:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you want to sure if not than don't its how you feel comfy dealing with the situation
2007-04-18 17:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋