If you were a quiet type and you have a boyfriend that says to you all the time to talk because you don't talk that much, then what do you say if you don't know what to talk about because you a quiet type girl? Please don't be smart
2007-04-18 16:43:17 · 18 answers · asked by Lil CC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i used to be that way with my boyfriend but he took the opposite reaction to me and encouraged me by being interested in any conversation i would bring up. you just have to learn and push yourself to open up to that person. it took my boy moving from california to here and having to talk to him on the phone everyday for me to be so comfortable to the point that when anything happens he is the first person i tell about it. he is a good listener and really understands that i have grown as a person. your boyfriend has to realize that you were shy when he met you and thats not going to change just cause he says talk. your not an animal and you dont have to take that. just try everyday to bring up something to start a converstation cause that is always the hardest part.
2007-04-18 16:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing is your boyfriend wants to hear from you. He's interested. Knowing that may give you some confidence to not be as quiet around him. Of course there is absolutely nothing wrong with being quiet, my boyfriend is, but at times I just want him to converse with me. It's not a test or contest, don't put pressure on yourself to spout out a wonderful speech, just start out small like talking about your day, a book you read, a movie, music, etc. etc. Eventually, it will come natural to you.
2007-04-18 16:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could think up things to talk about, or you could tell him to think again, and try to appreciate your quiet manner, which is a quality in a way. It beats loud and brash. I think he just wants you to socialize with him a little more. Maybe you can find a happy medium.
2007-04-18 16:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by shy sureno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lil, you're great just the way you are. The first person you should honor is you. Learn to love and appreciate yourself, just he way you are. If others don't approve of how you act, that's their problem. Don't let it become your problem. If your bf wants you to act differently, tell him this is you and if he isn't happy with you, perhaps he should find another girl. And, if he doesn't like you the way you are, why should you waste energy on him? So accept yourself without judgment, and if others have trouble accepting you, that is their problem.
2007-04-18 16:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about your day. Things you've done before. Fun things you've done before. A small secret that you wouldn't feel too guilty to talk about. Things that you wonder or think about. I know it's hard to come up with something to say because I'm like that too. Sometimes my mind is just blank.
2007-04-18 16:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by kickstatus101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend have very different personalities. He's more sociable and you're more introverted. That sounds like a fundamental problem in "chemistry" between the two of you that could threaten your relationship because he could start regarding you as boring down the road. You should find someone more like you.
2007-04-18 16:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by abdiver12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh-my i wouldn't put you down, just because your quiet. but my dear, if this guy is your boyfriend?you should feel safe and comfortable around him enough to talk to him, how can you know him at all if you dint ask questions,and if you dint ask questions of him, he may think you dint care.this is called growing up and learning. being shy is , OK, but you dint get far, being shy, you cant learn much if you dint ask questions and-talk.its OK to talk to him, you choose him, so he must be a good guy, trust him to listen and get to know him. you gotta break out of this quietness and express yourself, enjoy life, dint be scared, you'll do fine, have faith in yourself!!!!!!!!!!!you can do it!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-18 16:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAY SOMETHING! How else will you get to know each other without conversation. If you do not feel comfortable talking to him, y'all shouldn't be together. Date someone you can talk to. Your boyfriend should also be your friend.
2007-04-18 16:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i used to have a bf who did that and every time he said it i would tell him that i didnt have anything to talk about at that moment, i didnt have anything to say and if he wanted he could choose a topic. or if you feel you want to, you could just initiate conversation somehow if comfortable. sometimes i would just shout something random or point out the first thing that came to mind or that i saw even if it was stupid.
2007-04-18 16:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda a hard one.....I used to be that way but now I'm a loudmouth. I really don't know how it happened. It just did as I got older!
2007-04-18 16:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋