we've been together for 2 1/2 years am 20, he as a friend,(girl i might add) they have know eachother since highschool, The first time i met her, she gave me a weird vibe, but i didn't think of it much until, 1 month ago, My boyfriend and I, when out for dinner, and she left him a message a song. a song about how they have a good frindship, and they will always be together.. blah, blah .. so, he looked confuesed when he pick up. so i asked him who that was, he told me and let me hear the rest of the song, so when it ended i asked her what the*****ck was her problem, she just said that i was over reacting, so i made a *small show , i asked him what was going on, he promised that there is nothing between themt she is just a good friend , I know this girl, and in a way i fellt disrespected, and I asked him not to talk to her anymore because it was going to keep bringing problems to our relationship, so he agreed, and today I found out that their talking again, What is the right thing2do
2007-04-18 16:37:14 · 9 answers · asked by RACHELORE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can trust him, you need to leave...I would smack him upside the head, but thats me...Tell him when he figures out what he wants, maybe you two can get back together...
2007-04-18 16:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is more loyal to the "3rd party" than to you -- what is the use of keeping a relationship when it cannot be based on trust?
The person you cannot trust in small things, you also cannot trust in bigger things.
If you want your man just short term then its not a very big issue but if you are thinking of marriage later on then his integrity should be beyond question.
If it happened to me I would dump my man like a hot potato before he dumps me and go full time with the third party.
2007-04-19 00:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Aha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard. You know if he wants you as his girl, and it sounds serious over 2 years, talk to him. tell him you are a woman and you know how women think and she is after him or wants you guys broke up. I had to tell my guy me or her. he chose me and she told me I can't pick his friends. I told her"we are together now and my friends are his and his friends are mine and i choose not to have you for my friend so quit calling him." she finally got the message and quit. sounds to me she does not want you all together. whether she wants him or not. I made him tell her that with me on the extension(yeah she knew I was). good luck, she wont leave him alone until he tells her too.
2007-04-18 23:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by dune nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their behavior is unacceptable. You have been disrepected to say the least. Time to question why you are staying in a relationship with someone who is not fully committed. The facts are the facts. Boundries have been crossed, and crossed again. Time to choose - not give ultimatums. You already spoke your peace - he chose to ignore it and continue to disrespect you. Good luck.
2007-04-18 23:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women claim that it's ok for men and women to be friends, that there is nothing wrong with it. So you are over reacting as your boyfriend is just friends with her. You need to not tell him who he can and cannot be friends with.
After all, women are right all the time.
2007-04-18 23:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over yourself and stop trying to control who your boyfriend talks to. You can't tell who can or cant be friends with. It is out of your hands. You should trust him. You are probably just being jealous and need to let it go. And if he is cheating on you with her, he doesn't want to be with you and you shouldn't be with someone that doesn't care about you and it just wasn't meant to be.
2007-04-18 23:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is only thing to do drop him. he promise you and he broke his promise so cut him lose. You don't need a man that give you broken promises in your life. Get rid of him and move on it is the right thing to do cause he promise you and he is still talking to her so hey drop the chicken dinner and get you a winner.
2007-04-18 23:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by blaw7162000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, dont you trust ur bf?? and if they are hiding to talk then there must be something wrong or maybe they are just freinds and they need to keep in touch
2007-04-18 23:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just drop him, dont even look at him anymore. you already told him to stop and he didnt- he instead disrespected you, so just drop him. and if he realises he lost something valuable he will return to you and and not talk to her.
2007-04-18 23:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by sexgoddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋