I have a job that pays OK I work in a factory,I am a new born Christian. I want to move into my own place but my Dad says I won't be able to make it on my own.He wants me to live at home until I get married.
2007-04-18 16:23:34 · 26 answers · asked by sheila g 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Legally you can move out at 18. I did at your age. but I also moved back home. It is very expensive & I am sure you know you've got to pay all of the bills. It also can be very lonely at your age. I can remember being in my first apt. I spent a lot of time on the phone, and watching T.V. I had the Church and the teen group but I was still lonely. . But if you are mature enough you could give it a try.Maybe your Dad will let you move out on a trial, and let you move back home if it is to hard being alone.
You Dad sounds a lot like mine! LOL! Mine said the same thing and maybe if he had not of made those remarks I would have been okay, My problem was being lonely. But Please don't let what I say influence you into not spreading your wings and giving it a try!
2007-04-18 16:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Live at home until you're married? Are you planning on getting married some time soon? If so then wait. If not then what kind of arbitrary criterium is that for moving out of your parent's house?
If you are lacking in education and are unable to secure employment that requires skills and room for advancement then perhaps you should wait for some man to bail you out. Also, the fact that you're a born again Christian indicates you may not do well on your own.
2007-04-18 16:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Peter D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
I don't think it matters what religion you are, what does matter is how mature you are. 18 is young, I moved out when I was 19 and found it very difficult money wise. When you are that age what they pay is quite low. I think it also depends on how independant you are.
I personally couldn't have stayed home any longer, I like the freedom of living out of home but I absolutley did not like the having no money to go out or buy food. I think it is also a good idea not to move out with no financial backing. Money put away for when times get desperate is always handy. I also think that you need to have some house things. If you are going to move don't constantly rely on your parents to purchase everything for you or constantly lending you $$. That all comes back to independance and maturity.
Ultimatley it is your decision.
Zora
2007-04-18 17:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Zora . 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I moved out at 18, and I moved from Scotland to London, and survived!
Your dad wants what he feels is best for you, and you probably find it hard, being a new Christian. If you do move out make sure that you find the right church for you, and that you make some good friend who will support you when you are feeling down and missing the family. If you do move out make sure that you keep in contact with the family to, and listen to their advice. Sometime they may seem to be going on & on, but what they may be saying could help you get far in life.
2007-04-19 01:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Joolz of Salopia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll only get one chance at being young and single. I never got my chance to live in my own little house by myself. I lived with my Grandma or my Aunty before I got married. It was nice with them, but I would have liked to know what it was like to live on my own.
Even if you aren't able to make it on your own, it is an experience you may treasure and learn from. All life experience is good - even if it is difficult. My Dad used to stay stuff like that to me, too Like "You couldn't handle having a job...." If I hadn't listened to him, I would have gained valuable work experience, even if I HAD gotten stressed by it.
Stress and difficulties are not the end of the world! Life is full of them!
But pray about the decision. If it feels right for you to do it, do it!
2007-04-18 17:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Trying to protect my emails 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you can!! Since you are 18 you can make your own decisions. Your dad may not want you to leave home since you are his daughter. Especially if you are the only child. It may be a lot easier to stay at home for a few years though. Financially it is very hard but if you do decide to do it Good luck and God Bless
2007-04-18 16:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by bcooper_au 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking I am guessing that you are second guessing yourself, if that is the case wait about 6 months. and in the mean time.investigate the cost of a one bedroom apartment and set that much back everymonth for that six months, also set back for your car insurance, approx gas and utilities as well as for laundry,food and savings, do this everymonth, oh ya you cna not forget if you wnat cable and internet to set that money back as well and if you are making it comfortably for that six month period then I would say yesgo out and rent yourself a one bedroom but if you are struggling to make those bills monthly then the answer is no you are not ready. As a new born christian this will give you time to pray about the situation and Listen to his advice. I am sure you will be fine. Just take your time you are still young.
2007-04-18 16:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by mkys 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you make enough money to afford the rent, keep the lights on, and have a little in reserve for fun or for yourself, you're fine. The only one who can determine whether you can make it on your own is you. Be realistic about your budget, and believe in yourself.
Unless you've given him good reason to believe you can't handle it, it sounds like he's having a hard time letting go, and he wants to keep you dependent. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't handle life on your own.
2007-04-18 16:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by milomax 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way
i moved out of home at 17, i kept a full time job and stayed at school and paid for a flat and looked after myself at that age.
Im sure you can manage it at 18, if you have alittle common sense and can managhe your money
2007-04-18 18:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by the mofo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In England people are able to move out and live on their own at the age of 16!!!
So yes i believe you should move out and learn how to stand on your own two feet.
Just remember that if you get into trouble your parents will always be there to welcome you home :)
2007-04-18 16:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋