my step daughter says as long as she goes to college we have to pay for it. my husband raised her since her mom decided she did not want to be a mom. I think she is over the age limit that we have to pay. your input is appreciated.
2007-04-18 15:42:48 · 18 answers · asked by momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't have to pay anything. Direct her to a bank where she can get a loan, the classifieds so she can get a job, or FAFSA.gov so she can apply for grants. =)
2007-04-18 17:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And just why didn't this woman go earlier? And just why is she suddenly incapable of paying her own way? Tell her she can pay for it herself. She can go part time and keep on working to support herself. She can take a class per semester if that's all she can afford. Plus she can check with the guidance office of the college she's interested in attending to find out if she's eligible for any sort of tuition assistance. And hey: there are student loans available - again, she should check with the college's guidance office. She's a big girl now; time to make it on her own. Do NOT co-sign a loan for her!
2007-04-18 15:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of her age you should be proud she is making that step. College is very difficult and time consumming. It can be very difficult to perform well and have a full time job. If you have the means to help her out then you should, she is your daughter and you should support however you can. If it would put a strain of your finances then thats a chocie you need to make. There are several grants avaible to students and you should encourage her to look into those. Student loans are very expensive and any alternative will help her reach her goal quicker.
Good Luck and be Proud that your daughter wants to further her education.
2007-04-19 04:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent never "has" to pay for college. Many that can, do so. If all parents paid for college, there wouldn't be so many kids out there with student loans and debt up to their eyeballs when they graduated.
No, you are not obligated in any way to pay for your grown step daughter's college education. If y'all want to help and can afford to do so, that would be great. Otherwise, if she wants to go to college she can pay for it herself or get loans, grants, or scholarships like many other student's do. Also, her job may have a tuition reimbursement program...if she's presently employed.
2007-04-18 15:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First; once any child hits the age of 18, no parent is "responsible", legally, to pay for anything. This includes a college education. If her mother did not pay child support while she was living with you, then I would suggest that the bio mother be asked to provide/be sued for the child support and that be used for her college expenses.
What has she done since she graduated high school? Did you pay for college for any of her siblings? Has she used what you would deem "her college fund" on anything else that would have depleted it? What does your husband think? Is she one of those types that flits from one thing to another?
You could possibly compromise: you and your husband could offer to pay for books for the 1st semester and as long as she keeps above a "C: average, you will pay for the books for the following semester. (I would go with her to buy the books.)
Personally, if I or or any of my siblings had waited until 28 to go to college, our parents would have wished us good luck and that would have been it; there's no way they would have paid for it. (We all went immediately following high school and while our parents were not rich, they did pay for it.) And they did not pay for graduate school for any of us. Good luck with this one.
2007-04-18 15:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can only remain a dependent until the age of 23 and even then you have to remain in school full time from the age of 18-23.
2007-04-18 17:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she needs to get a job or student loans like the rest of us.
Only very rich familys seem to pay for college.
2007-04-18 15:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by snowyscorpianrabbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways of looking at this situation... first of all, she is old enough to be responsible for herself... She could be working a job to put herself through schooling... I know many people who do that! There are also many ways of getting financial help for college.. financial aid, grants, scholarships...etc! If you had a way to help her out, and show her your support,... encourage her in any way, that is good, but I don't believe that you owe her anything!
I had to work my way through my college years,... my parents weren't able to give me any kind of support financially... I also told my kids that they had to find a way to get themselves through school.. My daughter worked her way through, my son joined the army, my next son is working two jobs... it is hard, but it is up to the student to decide how he is to get his education in my family! I know that where there is a desire to go and succeed, there is a way! Tell your dear daughter that she will appreciate having to work for what she gets much more than if it were just handed to her! I believe in that completely! Good luck!
2007-04-18 15:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. come on that is ridiculous. I'm 19 and am paying for my own school and working two jobs if that girl is counting on you to pay for it she is spoiled. she needs to get over herself and show some drive.
2007-04-18 16:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love your partner? if you do then you need to love everything that comes with them...including children. if it were your child and they came to you at 28 and said 'I want to go to college' would you say no, I'm not responsible for you anymore. Love them, help them and you will get it back in return.
2007-04-18 16:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Billionaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋