I have a brother whose 16 and he recently joined a band, got a girlfriend and started a band with his friends. Because of all of these he hasn't been talking to me or even seeing me at all. Some days his only words to me are "Beat it" or "Go Away". I try to be nice but he's always mean to me. He is going to go away to college in two years and complains that we aren't nice to him and that he's only going to remember us as being jerks, even though we struggle just to see him once during the day. I'm so sad and I don't know why I can but I want my brother to be my good friend like he was a couple of years ago. Please help me, it's destroying my life.
2007-04-18 15:37:39 · 11 answers · asked by Tommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some other things about him: At dinner when it is supposed to be "family time", he texts his girlfriend and people he barely knows about the randomest things, his friends/girlfriend are always telling him he should be nicer to me, he says the most unkind things I could have ever imagined a person could say to me, he swears at me, things like that.
2007-04-19 15:05:42 · update #1
My sister is mad at me and not talking to me either right now. It's hard, and it makes me feel bad but I try to remember a couple of things.
1. She is my flesh and blood and nothing can change that. When she needs me I'll be here for her.
2. She is responsible for her decisions I can't make her do anything so I can't feel badly about her decisions. She's the one that should feel bad.
Don't worry someday hopefully soon your brother will realize what an *** he has been and will change his ways. Hang in there.
2007-04-18 15:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tommy,
Hmmm I have two sons who from the first day the younger one was born the older one was soooo mean to him !! It was awful Then it was like a miracle...I don't know the age difference between you and big brother but my two are 22 months apart so 2 years. Well the older one got his license and a job and drove to school everyday in his car and let his brother stand out in the cold and wait for the bus to pick him up. Mean huh? And he would always pick on him in school and they fought terrible. All of a sudden one day it was sooooo cold outside and the younger of the two was walking out to the bus stop. My older one went out to scrape ice off his car and hollered to his brother ...hey geek wanna ride?? They have been the closest brothers since that day!! I cry sometimes when they do things together cuz they live a ways from each other but time will fix it Tom you wait and see... time will fix it. They are sooooo close now it is unreal!!! And it makes the folks feel less stressed too! God Bless you Tom and Thanks for the memories!!LOL!!;)
2007-04-24 19:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by aintmisbehavinat48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 05:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are u? I guess u have to leave him alone. Avoid face to face talk if he is not willing or comfortable. He is having his own social circle now. Hard for u to break into. Meanwhile u may visit him, buy him his fave food once in a while. He may not appreciate u now, but i believe time will tell. Personally I believe dat friends wouldn't stand by me forever, family would.
Good luck. U can do it.
2007-04-18 16:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry your feeling neglected. Here is a thought, how about taking some old photos of you and your brother when you were younger and putting them in a photoalbum. Right him a miss you note about how you are feeling and that you don't want him to forget you. Let him know that you would like to spend some time with him and then leave the note and the album on his bed or somewhere where he will find it.
2007-04-18 15:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother isn't your life, and you need to begin to realize that...I understand the hurt it causes because of the rejection but your brother has established something on his own and it does not include you...these things happen sooner or later...its part of the process of growing up to be your own person...he is doing his thing and now you must find yours..your bond will be reunited later in life when you both have learned from this experience.
2007-04-18 15:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going through a phase. Completely ignore him (you and the rest of your family that he is treating badly). He'll grow out of it. The nicer you try to be to him, the worse he is going to get. Find new friends and focus on new hobbies. Once he realizes that you can be a creep to him as well, he'll grow out of it. Not much fun, but it works. Good luck to all of you.
2007-04-18 15:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your brother know you love him and that you'd like to support him and be friends like you used to be. Then you need to give him the space to absorb this information. He's going through a turbulent time, but will come out of it. Just be patient -- he'll come back.
2007-04-18 15:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just at that spot in his life where he knows better than everone else what is good for him just say good mornong good afternoon or good nite otherwise your going to aruge and he will hurt your feelings don't forget his birthdays or tell him his band sounds nice but give him his space time will cure this
2007-04-18 15:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going through a stage
2007-04-24 12:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋