If you do, how do you deal with it?
2007-04-18 15:07:23 · 9 answers · asked by cclleeoo 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My spouse is leaving the church gradually; my spouse skips as often as is convenient. He's convincing me that the way I've been living (in the LDS church) is making the family utterly miserable (stress on the family and all that), so I deal with it by saying, "If you leave, I will gladly follow."
My spouse points out that the kids are happier when we don't go to three-hour church meetings (then kids don't miss their naps) and I'm much less grouchy as the weekend winds down. Sacrament meeting is often an upsetting experience, because someone will use the pulpit to try to rally support for the troops, or claim that people always suffer because of their own bad choices, or that people who are spared from atrocities were spared because they prayed hard (and those who weren't spared didn't?!) etc.
It's also sort of annoying that everyone in Church is white and doesn't really think about some of the ignorant assumptions they make about people in the inner city, people in other countries, etc. So I tend to be irritable after coming home from church.
It's sort of like, "If this is what these idiots around us believe, I guess I don't believe it anymore. So be my guide, honey; if you leave, I will gladly follow."
2007-04-18 15:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are both very active.. but I used to deal regularly with couples where one was active and the other not at all...
If your spouse is not active, just love them, pray for them...
Invite your spouse to family prayer, family Home Evening, etc...
Talk to your spouse about your beliefs, fears, etc...
Be honest and take your time.
2007-04-19 09:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Tom♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was married to an LDS man who wouldn't go, my visiting teachers suggested I just go and not say anything to him about his not going and it would encourage him to go. It worked sometimes but I didn't hold my breath, remember we attend for Jesus, don't worry about the rest
2007-04-18 23:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband goes in cycles. I've learned to live with it. The hardest part is trying to explain to people in church who ask where your husband is. If I'm in church with my kids, I just sit with them and don't worry about hubby, it's his loss. If I'm there by myself, I sit close to someone who has babies!
2007-04-18 22:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i used to be lds now I'm not but i love lds women how can i find one or two ??
2007-04-18 22:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by eviot44 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I aint sure what LDS means, but my wife ain't active. I git on top o' her and she jes lays thar.
2007-04-18 22:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
LDS…Latter day saints?
2007-04-18 22:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by grem 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Naaah, at least not me :]
2007-04-18 22:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope sorry.
2007-04-18 22:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by gina_d 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋